Have you ever walked in on someone masturbating?

My sister and I never masturbated together. I can't say I ever wanted to either. We played our fair share of "show me yours and I'll show you mine" to field each other's curiosities about boy-girl stuff. And I was much more interested in just understanding things than fooling around . So, it never even crossed my mind.

That's more or less how I finally saw my mom and you know what my immediate thought was? "Wow! Good for her. I'm fuckin' proud of my mom. Getting her's at her age."

I totally get why parents default to feeling awkward but why? Who gives two shits? You do it. I do it. My parents did it. Our grandparents did it (unless they were Catholic, I'm Jewish and I'll never understand you motherfuckers.) And your kids are gonna do it... A LOT! That's what tween to teens do best. It's their favorite thing. And good for them. Would you rather raise some suppressed type A asshole suppressing a key part of their emotional-psychological personhood that they instead excised through weird emotional violence and head games??? Too late anyway if you have a daughter and an electric toothbrush ANYWHERE in the house. Enn-ee-Where...

Let your fine young ladies rub and your kindly gentlemen of youth touch their erogenous zones against any surface to which they have access at any given time. All... The... TIME!!! Or even better, talk to them about it. Encourage it. Make sure they know what they're doing and why. And sprinkle in a bit of "there's nothing wrong with it but kind of like using the bathroom most people prefer not to see others doing it." Then let 'em go at it.

'Cause guess the fuck what? They're doin' it anyway. Let them have their fun because it ain't your goddamn concern. Spread the love of self love. It's a lot less awkward when you just talk about it plainly and openly compared to repurposing it as some grand secret. I'm not mad at you. I completely understand the predicament. Honestly. Truly I do. Just let it go, man. You'll survive. I assure you. Most importantly, it's not about you and she'll do absolutely fine. No counsel needed. She's got this one. I have a hunch. All involved will prosper and proceed.

 

No, I haven't. I'm not sure I would ever want to, either.

 

Step daughters can be very naughty

 

I almost always leave the door wide open when I masturbate at my parents' house. I talked to my mom about it early on and told her it felt much more awkward to do it with the door closed because I don't like the feeling of me and her pretending we don't know what I'm doing in there and having to come out of the room like nothing was going on. It genuinely was never me "peacocking" or being an exhibitionist. It's much less sexual to just let her see it in plain view and for both of us to be able to acknowledge I'm enjoying my body in a healthy normal way that everyone does. She comes into the room and talks to me while I play with myself. And now I do the same when she's masturbating. As long as neither of us feels like it's a big deal or dirty or naughty, it never feels like a big deal or dirty or naughty.

 

That's an amazing relationship - and thanks for explaining.

 

It truly is. Always has been. I was always very close with my mother and nothing made me feel closer to her than being naked with her. Then when masturbation entered my life, that became the ultimate bond. Nothing makes you feel more easy and accepted by someone than both of you being able to get yourselves off in front of each other and refuse to feel vulnerable about one of the most vulnerable things you can do in front of another person.

 

No but I would give a limb to have a woman catch me and join because she was so turned on, or if the reverse happened. Love to watch & be watched