Full Disclosure

Have you told all of your secrets , past sexual encounters and desires to your spouse, or are they secrets that you will take to the grave?
We have all done something sexually in the past that we never discussed . Is your partner aware of Anything KInky things you may have done or didnt or never knew about? How has it affected your relationship?

 

I had sex with a few girls who were off limits so to say. One an in-law to friends of ours. My wife spent lots of time with an aunt who wasn't much older than her. They went on several weekend get aways. I might go into details later.

 

I’ve never had a spouse, significant other or boyfriend, so I’ve never had the issue of secrets from them. But I do keep my ways secret from parents, friends and coworkers for the most part. It would be devastating to my parents if they knew their girl grew up to be a tramp/whore/slut of epic proportions, so I do limit my interactions a bit them as I’m afraid of a revealing slip up. Same with old friends, I keep my interactions rather superficial and don’t add friends to my circle who are outside of my sex associates.

On the other hand, many of you have asked for photos of me in action or even if I’ve done video, but it truth, virtually none of the venues or guys individually want any record of them engaging in sex with me…likely, they have secrets to keep from spouses or boyfriends.

 

I always do full disclosure. Too old to be playing games with this. Told my wife everything I've done since day one, what I've done, who I did it with, how I fully explored my bisexuality. The 20+ year poly relationship. Everything. Told her that if I haven't done it, it's because I didn't want to. If anything came up or she thought that she had reason to question something I'd just remind her that she knows everything. Not hiding anything. Literally what you see is what you get. I'm not back in high school and playing those games. I'd say it worked because she married me.

 

I've only had two serious, long-term relationships, both with women (though I've asked out a lot of women, only to be rejected every time, and did date 30-40 women, with almost all of them rejecting me after the first date, sometimes second, and not having sex with any of them). With the first girlfriend, at 27, I was a virgin, and my gay desires were buried. When she broke up with me for the third time after three years, they exploded to the surface.

When we were soon to have sex, I told my second girlfriend-to-be, at 54, that I was bi, only had sex with my first girlfriend and a female prostitute once, but also had sex with men. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but I felt that she deserved to know (instead of finding out later after we had sex). However, I was sure that she would say goodbye to me. But she started asking more and more questions about my gay history, and finally dragged it all out of me, that I had anonymous oral sex with hundreds of guys (!) in all kinds of different gay sex venues over a period of 21 years, and some anal sex with five or six (more recently) (intercourse with one). She wanted very minute details of all the different things I did with guys, and especially the guys in the last couple of years, which was all so embarrassing to reveal (you know, talking about licking guys' assholes, fingering them, fucking, swallowing their cum, etc.). But she accepted it all to my utter shock, as long as it was over, and as long as I got tested for all STIs before we had sex. I was in love.

We were also only together for three very rocky years, and I never hooked up with any guys during that period, even during our many breaks, all initiated by her (though she hooked up with guys during all of our breaks, which she told me about, breaking my heart over and over again). But during our breaks I did a lot of gay porn, which she also dragged out with me. I was the one who finally ended the relationship permanently, because I knew that I was mostly gay and couldn't be without men. I've been exclusive to guys in the 5 years since, with no intention to ever have sex with a woman again, let alone romance. But like with that second girlfriend, I'm compelled to always tell the truth and be honest about everything. So if another serious relationship with a woman were to happen, I would tell her. But I doubt I would be "lucky" again with acceptance.

 

My wife has no idea that I’ve had sex with more men than women.she wouldn’t find it a turn on.

 

My wife knows of my countless partners and tacitly looks the other way. I’m home every night and we have a phenomenal sex life. My fb who is bi has participated with me in various threesomes and other activities and our sex life is off the charts. It’s just the way that relationship developed over the years.

 

My wife knew of my bisexual proclivities when we met and proceeded to coax me into kinkier and kinkier situations. Yes, we were very happy.

 

Not going to open that box. Oh, the spouse knows about former GF's. That I had sex with them. No details though. But since, any sex outside of marriage, and there has been plenty, is a secret to be kept forever.

 

I hear you

 

Love for this to happen to me

 

My gf and I do not do full disclosure. We don't "own" each other.

That adds mystery and spice to our passionate orgasms.

 

Hahahahah I bet your fun !

 

I went through a major sexual awakening a few years ago that included becoming a lot less guarded about masturbation, watching pornography and nudity. But also my personal turn-ons (what many would call “kinks.”) The one I felt the most vulnerable about was my nearly lifelong attraction to various acts of mutual peeing. But a very new interest was peeing myself in pull-ups.

The first time I dated someone after this, I was terrified that she’d find my pull-ups and pee absorbent pads. I didn’t personally think there was anything wrong with it. But was conflicted about wanting her to hear about it straight from me rather than come across it on her own and have to explain it upon feeling “caught.” But the right conversation never came up. And I hated living in such a struggle over something I knew was nothing to be ashamed of. And I resented being in a position of feeling like I needed to hide it. Same for the woman I dated after that first one.

So, a few months after the second girlfriend, when I started dating someone new, I absolutely could not give two fucks. The first time we slept together, she asked me if I had any “kinks.” I said, “Yeah, the two big ones are watching girls masturbate and pee.” She asked what kind of pee stuff. I told her I like just about some version of everything. But mostly just plain old seeing a girl pee and that I’d recently gotten really into peeing myself in various ways but mostly in pull-ups.

I was so confident and shiftless in how I said it, she was completely unphased. She said something about how unbothered I was in expressing it and I told her “everyone has their thing.” She thought about it for a second and said, “Yeah, you’re right. Everyone does have their thing.” That was that. The next time we slept together she asked to see my porn favorites. I scrolled through my favorites tab on PornHub with the exact same casual candor with which I first told her what I was into. I said there was a lot of pee and step-sibling videos but mostly women masturbating. I explained why I liked various videos whether or not I was into the kink it was playing off of. I opened a couple of my favorite videos and we watched some together. She was interested. Not turned on, per se. Not surprised. Just reflected the insouciant vibe I was giving off and took it in stride.

That’s how I’ve handled it ever since.

 

I would love to hear about her encounters with other women, but never revealed all the details.

 

I had someone I could call prudish, so talking about it was not even an option. I could not even mention my masturbation. Would’ve been nice to have an open conversation.

 

Since I am not married no. But I have things that I will not share with my boyfriend or a spouse someday. Who knows in the future maybe I will but right Joe I can’t imagine. I do have a partner that does know everything

 

In a word…..NOPE! Something are just better left Unsaid. We all have our sexual histories! In all of my LTRs I found it a turn on when they confess their past sexual escapades. To the contrary, most of them would get jealous when I would honestly answer their questions, So I quit being so forthcoming.
A couple cases in point. Eons ago, I had a live in GF for 3+ years. She had quite the reputation of being a floozy before I met her. Initially that bothered me. I felt like I was competing with her past. But eventually her tales would turn me on big time. Contrary, she felt just the opposite…. JEALOUS! my now ex-wife was more open, but I still did not tell her everything. What difference would it have made? my current wife of 25+ years knows 90% of my past…… but not everything. What is the point? if she asked a specific question I would tell her. It was almost to the point that if she didn’t want to know, don’t ask! I am sure she has her own secrets from her first 40 years of life. I know about her previous LTRs, but what about some hook ups? She won’t talk about the “probability” of those. Hell, we have had a few MFMs since we have been together, so what difference would it make?
One last case. I have been best friends with a college “buddy“ since back in the day. Did not matter my current relationship at the time, but we still communicated and talked. The other day I mentioned to my wife that I felt badly that I had missed my friends birthday for the first time in decades. The Mrs. asked me why it bothered me….. I said it just did. And of course here come the questions. “did you ever have sex with her?“ NO (a little white lie). “did you ever make out with her?“ “Yes”. So according to wife, I did Have sex with her. Am I going to confess to my wife what I did with my “friend”? Hell NO! The last couple of weeks after college graduation we spent many a night together in her apartment. Intense! I was in love with her, but I had to move away for my new job. Broke my heart.
It is called HISTORY! EXPERIENCES! GET OVER IT! Live and learn. So glad I did not marry a virgin.
Again, I’m sorry this is so long…. Just memories jogged.

 

The best advice i had about this topic came from a very wise Domme. She said, "Don't kiss and tell."

 

All of my sex has been with my wife, so no secrets. She has enjoyed a number of sex partners, mostly in college. She has told me about almost all of her sex adventures, but I know there are still a few secrets.