What Makes Marriages End?

Well for my mothers marriage it was the men coming in and out of her bedroom.iv never been married because i find the concept scary because of the trusting part.iv been proposed to several times but it wasnt right.I think marriages dont have one thing that kills them i think its a combo of little things and when somthing like cheating comes up well it breaks the last straw sending all of the past even further.You can be with someone 3 years through love,loss,fear,joy and wealth.family vactoins,vactoins alone then one day its over your strangers again wandering our world without eachother.

 

If one spouse has to tell the other, "It's not a competition..." it's not going to work. Call 1-800-NOFAULT to make that appointment for a divorce. Being browbeaten as a kinky kind of thing is one thing; to be treated like you have little or no value in the marriage? Nothing you do is good enough or things you can do like you have been doing them for years are all being done wrong or not the way they want it done. 1-800-NOFAULT. If she ever says to you, "You're not my father!" dial that number and you might as well dial it if she ever asks you, "Is that all you think about?" If he comes home from work and bitches you out because his dinner isn't on the table or you're two minutes late putting in on the table?

1-800-NOFAULT and they have operators on duty 24/7/365 with our staff of lawyers ready to assist you. If either spouse is behaving like it's the 1930s, 40s, or 50s, well, you know the number because if you don't call it, it's very damned likely you're going to regret it.

I need more coffee...

 

Many reasons

marrying too young and not knowing what you are getting into

wrong partner, not compatible

wrong reasons

different values
Money, sex, children, work

Lack of support from one

infidelity

unreasonable expectations

death

falling out of love, stale relationship

neglect

abuse, control

drama

not prioritizing each other
However also not having me time without your other half

unresolved issues like unfounded jealousy, lack of trust

lack of communication

 

prioritizing your wants over the needs of the person you profess to love..

 

My one "ex" had been programmed by her parents from birth that she was mentally gifted, etc. So, instead of putting in the effort to
get through college, she expected to succeed by osmosis instead of doing the work required. Result: consistent dropping out and
intending to start over.

 

One of the "themes" in the 1970s was, "If you don't take care of your man/woman, someone else can and will!" and taking care of your man/woman meant emotionally as well as physically but what it kinda/sorta really referred to was that if you don't fuck your man/woman, someone else will... and it'll be your fault if they do. If you think the marriage is all about you? Your marriage is fucked and not in a good way.

 

When one is done having sex, no fault to the other SO, it causes a deep loss.
Unless the SO accepts and decides masturbation is the new sex for the rest of their sex days

 

Cheating cause marriage end

 

two flowers almost never last

two gardeners or gardener/flower marriages have a decent shot at success

flowers must always be admired and taken care of..

 

My first long term relationship foundered because I wasn't fully satisfied sexually. I was somewhat frustrated for a long time. Night after night, I lay in bed beside a beautiful naked woman with my cock in my own hand. There was much that was good about the relationship, but she just wouldn't make the effort to please me physically.

Unlike her, I remained faithful for more than a decade. Until that is, I experienced a deep mutual attraction with a woman I met through work. For months we tried to resist the inevitable. When we finally gave in, the sex was mind blowing for both of us. Even then, I didn't want to give up my relationship.

The problem was that, even though my partner had other men on the side herself, she couldn't hack it when the boot was on the other foot foot. In her jealousy, she actually said to me that I couldn't just screw women like a normal man, I had to be in love. That was her way of trying to justify her hypocrisy.

She did belatedly realise her mistake and said "There's nothing she can do for you that I can't." I found her attempts to prove that by seducing me and taking the initiative for once pathetic. It was the first time we'd had sex in over a year. Despite her high opinion of herself, her pussy no longer did anything for me. It was too late. The spell was broken because I'd experienced a real woman who made me feel like a man.

I later came to understand that I wasn't meeting my partner's needs either. It wasn't just a one way street. Strangely, it's easy to put right with a new partner the things that seemed impossible with the old one.

 

I was married for 30 years, but I gotta say with hindsight I married the wrong person. I guess we kinda loved each other but were never in love. When you're younger some of us just don't know what real love is, and so you grow apart and not closer together.

Some might say 30 years is a heap big time to be together before realising this, but for most of the time I was happy. Yet hey, complacency sometimes sinks in and can rule over true happiness. This complacency can work to keep a marriage together but for it can also lead us to astray to inject some happiness and excitement into our lives. When this happens the small things couples don't like about each other massively grow.

As for the debate about monogamy, I guess the majority of marriages breakdown because one partner or the other seeks additional carnal desire. It can be because true love does not exist or simply an animal instinct inside. In the Fifth Tenet of the Branch of Cosmic Spirituality titled 'Open Love' it says "We should not be damned into believing we are naturally monogamous, but understand some of us are consensually monogamous. For consent is paramount. Without consent and with coercion love cannot exist and lust and the pleasures of the flesh become disrespectful and damaging".

Well a happy ending to my divorce is I found someone I truly love. Instead of not wanting to be around each other we hate every moment we are apart. And I guess not wanting to be around someone is another reason divorce happens.