Marriage should have an expiration date

You must have a license for a boat, to drive a car, to fly a plane, to run a business, to carry a firearm, to build a shed, to wire a house and to style hair. They all carry a time limit. Why should marriage be any different? Give it 4 or 5 years then must be renewed or given up. Would save alot of court time, lawyer expenses and hard feelings. Property could be settled through reaching agreements or filing suit. As for children, why not a license to have them?

 

Marriage DOES have an expiration date; all conditioned things are impermanent. It's just not printed on the bottle.

 

Marriage is no different from death and taxes, either you can avoid them or you can't, but its just another financial arrangement, with companies now preferring to hire single people straight out of college, who can work with AI, and don't need silly things like human company.

According to the statistics, marriage is about to become obsolete, along with the human race!

Nobody has set an exact expiration date yet...

 

Marriages should be for only 18 to 24 years...or until the nest is finally empty...then expire, but be renewable if both parties consent. This gives ample time to raise a family and then, go another round with someone else, if that suits the situation at that particular time. I've known too many old schoolers that stay miserable for the rest of their lives....the hell with that!

 

Marriage is not as important as true love. Sometimes marriage even causes people to give up on nurturing a true love.

 

It does. But the expiration dates differ between couples. Some may expire after a few months or years. Some may expire after a decade or more. Some may expire when one or both members have passed away.

 

I have been with the same partner for 50 years. Sure problems arise, things go well, things go badly, shit happens. I don't think that an expiration date makes any sense at all. People stay together or don't. As for the empty nest scenario. We always knew we would go back to being vagabonds when the girls left so when our youngest daughter finished art school we sold everything and left the country with no forward plan.
If you make a commitment to someone you stay with them until circumstances change. There are no rules.

 

Indeed not, and rules designed for one marriage are going to be FUBAR for another.

When cruising you adjust the sails when weather changes. Not any different.

 

That's a good analogy

 

Mahalo. Been a cruiser and a delivery skipper, so have a spot of experience.

 

I have found that if the fit of personalities is right and the sex is good, a relationship doesn't fade with age.

My first partner and I started out in our teens - the fit was right but she lost interest in the sex. With my second, the sex was always fabulous but that alone couldn't sustain the relationship for me. I'd found what was lacking in my first relationship but lost something more important.

The third, my wife is my polar opposite personality type indicator wise - extrovert/introvert, sensing/intuitive, etc. Although this has led to some tension, we find each other endlessly fascinating. The sex just looks after itself. It's like the best of both worlds from my previous relationships plus more.

 

Mine expired when the divorce papers were signed.

 

In the Soviet Union during the reign of Vladimir Lenin you could get divorced simply by completing a card to nulify the marriage at a local marriage bureau. It became known as a 'Postcard Divorce'. Oh boy that would have been so much easier than the hassle of my divorce after nearly 30 years of marriage

There's some merit to the suggested renewal method after 5 years. Folk often get married but don't really know their partner until years later. They drift apart as a couple but remain together. The cost and hassle of divorce and the potential of family fall outs that often happen can mean some remain together but not in marital bliss.

 

Interesting that you mentioned AI. I have tried it over the past few weeks, generally and specific to software. ChatGPT is rubbish for it. It undertakes to do something and repeatedly screws up and breaches its own constraints, such as it being meant not to re-write code but just add to it.

It has taken 10 days to get stuff done on 3 small projects. They were done in 3 days, once I fired ChatGPT. It wasted over twice as much time as it took me to do it manually.