I'm married, but I started liking another woman.

We work together in customer service and she started writing to me privately on Teams during working hours, everything started out as friendly but we started to like each other, how can I get out of that situation because she is also married so nothing can come of it.

 

These things happen to many if not most people. Take some sober time to yourself and think about the potential outcomes of the choices in front of you.

I understand the judgement-clouding excitement of the escalating relationship. I have experienced it a few times. My choice was to take actions to guard and preserve my marriage and to be as considerate of my wife as I would wish her to be if she found herself in such a situation - and she has. We believe, and are almost religiously grateful, that we chose to be truthful with/to each other. I’m not saying this should be your path. I don’t know your life’s situation. Just sharing our experience and that it worked out best for US.

We did end up becoming occasional swingers. It satisfies the desire for novelty and a little extra intensity. And it has actually brought us closer. We share the experience and take joy in witnessing and participating in each others’ extra pleasures. Again, not saying this is the path for you. Just saying honesty and sharing has kept our marriage strong and in tact for several decades and we are very thankful to share our entire lives together. The only sadness in our relationship is the knowledge that death will one day separate us.

 

If a married man wants to mess around, I say he better be able to accept his wife playing around too.

Better yet do like Bocci said do it together.