My (38F) husband was in an accident a few years ago that has left him paralyzed from the chest down. It’s been an emotional and difficult several years navigating this new life. He is an amazing man with an incredibly positive outlook despite his physical limitations. Most days he is keeping me from losing my mind when it should be the other way around. Recently he raised the idea of me being with other men. It caught me by surprise and angered me at first to be honest. But we’ve now talked about it for the better part of a year and I feel like I am warming to the idea. But as the discussions get deeper I find myself being riddled with guilt for thinking about and beginning to talk to other men. Looking for an ear to turn to or advice given this situation. I understand this is somewhat bizarre of a situation so please no judgement
Gosh, I can't imagine what you're both going through so advice may not be wise. I think it's good that you are talking about the subject. I do understand why and how you may feel some guilt and your husband may be feeling some too if his body doesn't allow him to 'perform'. Keep talking, as it seems you will. If it were me (and I'm referring to when parts of me may stop working properly), I would hope my partner or wife would be open with me about her needs and I would hope she would know or would find a confidant who would look after her in that department. I would separate sex from love and would hope she can too, so that she can enjoy fulfilling her needs. I think it would be bad enough that parts of me don't work along with the discomfort of not being able to take care of her needs myself, without the additional burden/guilt of her not being fulfilled by someone else. Feel free to DM me or if you dont have that option yet, let me know and I'll DM you. Hth
Our open relationship worked for us. The main reason me being on the road for work, and gone Monday till Friday.
Welcome. Yes, I forget but new members have to posta few times before replying. I sent you a conversation which is like a dm here
