I cheated, my confession

I think what she did was terrible. I hope that she finds healing for the guilt she feels. I also hope her husband will forgive her. If that was done to me I would be devastated. And I would need time to heal but I think that givensome time I could forgive.

 

thank you nemo, thank you...very well said.

 

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You are an idiot and an ass. Grow up.

-Litos

 

shut the hell up seamonster, you hypocritical fuck. sounds to me like you have a guilty or bitter conscience. lose a wonderful girl because you cheated on her eh?

fuck you and your narcist posts.

while i dont believe in bashing someone when they are down, or being cruel, what kind of response is expected to be generated by such a thread?

fuck her, she brought it onto herself ENTIRELY. by SUCKING STRANCE COCK while her husband SLEPT RIGHT NEXT TO HER, and then posting about it.

also, i must add that i have been cheated on. i forgave her, but the relationship died. i can't trust anyone who would do that to someone they are not only fucking, but are supposedly emotionally bonded and connected on tons of different levels. shallow fucking bitches.

fuck girls that cheat.

 

What she did wasn't right. She obviously cheated.

My question is: What is the definition of cheating? Does the definition change as you get older? Is cheating something physical, or can it also be emotional?

When I was younger, say 14 - 17, I cheated on my boyfriends. By cheating, I mean that I kissed someone other than the person I was then dating. No overtly sexual acts involved, but that was still cheating. I know that now, I knew that then... but I was young, didn't really care, and in all honesty, the relationships that I was having at the time were never going to "go anywhere".

When I was older, I was in relationships where while dating one person, I had unacted-upon feelings for another. Is that cheating? You would think not, yet I felt worse about having inappropriate feelings than I did about kissing another guy all those years before.

And I would like to say that "once a cheater, always a cheater" is not always true. I cheated in my youth, but now that I am older, the thought has never crossed my mind. People change, people realize the faults of their ways.

 

Daaaaaaamn.....Jerry Springer would have a blast with this thread

Lynn

 

hahah yeah

 

I was going to avoid this thread, but what the hell....

Cheating is wrong, but I guarantee you this woman is giving herself more hell than any of you EVER could. It is just inhumane the way some of you are reacting to her. All this name calling, for what?? Any of us are capable of cheating at any given time. The trick to that is not putting yourself in that type of situation. We are human. None of you are any better than her, and you should never try and make her feel as such.
I found out 2 years ago that my husband of 8 years was fucking my sister. Needless to say I was shocked, to say the least. It killed me, actually. Never, not once did I go to my sister and call her a filthy whore. I have since found it in my heart to forgive her, forgetting is another matter. I even tried to reconcile with my husband, as we have two children. It didn't work out, he has far more problems than infidelity. I definately have issues as far as trust in general and relationships. What they did to me stripped things from my inner self that only time can heal. I know they both have their own living hell, so why degrade them any more than they've already degraded themselves?? It's been a long road, and I'm far from over all this..but a little understanding, forgiveness and strength has worked wonders for my spirit. Love one another people..you just can't harbor all that damn anger around, ya know??
As for the woman who started this thread, I hope you can find it in yourself to tell him. You simply cannot move on with your life until you do. The sooner you can get this off your chest and let some of this guilt you have go, the sooner you can heal sweetie. Much love to you, and I wish you all the best.

 

Love the one your with.

 

I personally have never been cheated on, at least not to my knowledge because I was not able to bring my self to ask. I will not upset this woman even more, though I do no agree with her actions, but in a way I think that the reactions she has been getting on this thread, shoud she ever tell her husband or it gets out, will prepare her for reactions she will be getting from other people.

 

people have very strong reactions to cheating. it's an ugly breaking of trust. in the pursuit of something selfish. my father cheated on my mother endlessly. he wasn't just cheating on her, he was cheating on our whole family. it's mean and selfish and therefore any confessions of it will inevitably bring about these reactions. should people still confess to it? who cares besides their lover?

 

to you guys that wrote writhingly angry posts at me...you aren't smart enough to get my point or my humor.

Its hilarious, I can write obviously over the top statements, and there are dim bulbs out there who buy every word...do you really think I believe others opinions are inferior to mine....

I was trying to say that people can be forgiven, and objecting to someone bewing labelled a "dirty whore."

Most people posted here just to feel superior themselves, just looking for someone to rip on so they can feel righteous....for that, and for not being able to read between the lines, I have banned you from getting into heaven.

Don't be so judgemenbtal, don't be so serious, and please don't blame other people for things your hideous girlfriends did to you.

 

seamonster, i was just in one of those moods to fuck around yesterday. my post is not as serious as it may seem, although i have absolutely no capacity for a cheating partner. my past has made me grow as a person, not just simply be bitter and cynical.

sugarmaggie, excellent post. you are a tolerant woman.

 

Right on.....couldnt've said it better

 

I'm sorry that I disagree so strongly with you guys, but I think that cheating is so wrong and dirty. It's unforgivable in my book.

I'm not saying I'm a better person than her because I think she's nasty for cheating with her husband RIGHT THERE, I just think she's nasty.

We all have human, primal urges, but it's how you control yourself that defines your character and integrity.

 

It is one thing to cheat on your husband while he is away on a trip or something. But to cheat on him while he is right next to you sleeping......wow. Good job, you are a great person. If I was your husband I would first beat the hell out of this Anthony character, then kick your ass to the street. Good luck

 

Ummm, damn. This doesn't say much for your character, that's for sure.

No, I'm not defending her actions because I do think cheating is incredibly bad, but to wish this upon someone?

 

completely agreed, thats the point I've been trying to make. These knee jerk reactions are just too much.

 

I didn't bother to check how old this thread was, I found it while doing a Google search and I had a strong desire to reply.

To generalize: I believe what pains you more is your guilt, not what you did, if you follow my meaning. What lead me to this conclusion is the fact that you said you still fantasize about this event, ergo if you could experience that without experiencing the guilt you would be fine with it.

This irrationally motivated guilt leaves you with two options. (I'm about to go a little black and white on them, please bear with me.)

Option 1; The Path of Redemption: You tell him, and whatever happens after that, happens. Maybe he forgives you, maybe he doesn't, either way you have in some way redeemed yourself and that should alleviate the guilt somewhat.

Option 2; (my personal favorite) The Path of Indulgence: Admit to yourself that you enjoyed what you did, and do it again, and again, and again. For no reason other than that you enjoyed it. After awhile you should find it easier and easier to do, and eventually you should be able to do it guilt free, which will resolve your original guilt!

Now for my personal opinion on the matter. If you could do it right next to him without him knowing... Good. That's what he gets for trusting you...

Now I know some folks who read this are going to try to flip that statement and make it about me, but to be honest, I'm that bad guy that has sex with other peoples wives, which is why I think what I think about husbands who get cheated on. If she cheated on you then obviously you weren't paying enough attention.

I will leave it off with these parting words. Guys... Women aren't for trusting.
Gals... Keep doing what you do! I sincerely appreciate it!