I'm so depressed over babies. I feel like a nutcase. I obviously can't have another baby at this point and wouldn't dream of even trying but I really need to stop obsessing over childern. I love my two very much but I've always wanted a big family and for some reason I'm afraid if I don't have more soon I won't have anymore. I don't know why I'm such an emotional wreck. I'm not PMSing, this happens all month, every month...lol. Do any other moms feel this way? Its just a really deep longing that I find myself depressed over it. The empty feeling... ah, I'm going to try to stop thinking about this because I'll make myself cry, lol.
I get that way, too. I know how hard it is to want it soooo bad, but realize that you can't do it. I've already decided that by the end I of the I WILL get pregnant. I think that will be a good time. We in the process of looking for a house to buy right now..yay...tim's about to go back to school this summer, and if we wait until this next winter to get preggie, then we'll have the baby after he's graduated and got a kickass job! My point is, that if you set up like a time-line or list of goals that you need to accomplish before you have another child, it might feel like you are preparing for when you CAN get pregnant, not dwell on the fact that you can't do it right now.
I understand how you feel. I have three precious little ones, a 5 year old son and 22 month old boy and girl twins, but I would still love more children. Unfortunately, I am not able to, at least without putting my life as well as my unborn child(ren)'s life at risk. I developed a severe case of H.E.L.L.P. syndrome and nearly died the day after I gave birth to my twins. Because of that, I have been advised not to become pregnant again by three different doctors. I also have an 80% chance of conceiving fraternal twins yet again, as I am releasing more than one egg in various cycles, which puts my high risk factor up even higher. My best friend just gave birth to her first child two days ago, and I was filled with so much happiness for her, but also a deep sadness in my heart, a longing. I know I should be grateful that I have three beautiful, healthy children, and believe me, I am, but I can't seem to stop the ache in my heart for more. Is it because I lost two other babies that makes me long for another child(ren) even more? I don't know, but I think some of us womyn have such an overwhelming desire to bring forth new life that can never be truly satisfied. We are simply extremely maternal people. I feel a sadness because my days of caring for a newborn, an infant, are over, and they went so fast that I can barely remember it all. I almost feel an anger that I even have to deal with my menstrual periods or ovulating anymore. It seems so senseless, almost cruel. What's the point? That probably sounds nuts, huh? I don't think that ache will ever go away, but I can't dwell on it, or I'll drive myself crazy. Much love...
I'm not necessarily broody about having children myself, but right now, I'm at uni. I don't see babies...hardly ever. And because I'm not near babies, able to take care of children, I'm extremely emotional. I've spent my entire life dealing with children, from the time I was only a child myself. I know more about child-rearing and the little "tricks of the trade" than most mothers I know. And I just desperately miss caring for little ones. I especially miss my god-daughter. My arms ache to hold her. I can smell her sometimes. I see her face in my dreams and all I want to do is hold her and never let her go.
Aww. I love the scent of my children, they all have a unique natural scent, and many times, I love holding something they wore, or a blanket they used, up to my nose and just inhaling the smell of them. When I had to go away with my husband one weekend for a work function of his, I took a piece of clothing of each of my kids and slept with it. It just made me feel near them. Gosh I love those kids. I'm feeling pretty emotional at the moment. Peace
Ah, yes, i feel that way aaalll the time--even now that i'm pregnant! I'm jelous of other mama's holding babies, even though i have two kids and one on the way, i'm jelous of pregnant ladies, ones that are closer to their due dates, because they'll get to see their babies first, and ones farther from theirs, because they get to stay pregnant longer, lol. I'm jelous of moms with their first babies, because they'll probably have more, and i'm jelous of mom's with 4 or more kids, beause i'll never have that many. I guess it's natural to always want kids, but at the same time.., it's sooo stressful! I wanted a third child, but i wasn't sure i wanted one right away! lol. Now i'm like, omg, can i really handle this? Three kids under 4? Thank goodness at least one of them is potty trained, lol, and the other is showing an interest in it, that's all i can say!
You guys are all ever so very sweet. My daughter just said "I don't have any pants" practically as clear as day, she's not yet 2. I've said before, if it weren't for nursing, I would definitely not have a baby around the house and would have to start really fighting off the pangs. But sometimes she still curls up in my lap, and closes her eyes and latches on and it still feels like a precious little one. I like to think those moments when a kid kicks you in the stomach for tickling them, or splashes bath water soaking everything in the bathroom, balance out that very natural "baby fever".
oh no! Those are the moments I love most and miss the most about my god-daughter. Bathtime was such a wonderful time for the both of us. I don't care how much water I had to mop up afterwards, it was so fun to have that moment with her. As far as being kicked for tickling her or anything like that, it wasn't something that would ever make me not want babies. Quite the opposite...I have baby fever right now. I'm a freshman in uni, no boyfriend, but I think I'd love a baby....
You will KNOW when your family is complete! I still had "baby lust" after my third was born. I am a Lactation Consultant, so I SMELL (mmmmmm) and see babies all the time. I was also working as a doula when I got pregnant with my last baby, and the baby lust was extreme. She was born 7 years after my last baby and 13 years after the first. You are young, you have about 2 more decades of baby lust. LOL. I know what you are feeling, you CANNOT be "rational" about it (like men want to be) and you NEED babies. I don't have any advice for you. Just empathy. Good luck.
Arg i totally empathise. Im 19 so still very young, too young in my eyes for me to ba able to handle a baby, im still very immature. However i crave to feel a baby inside me... and to hold a baby... and to cry because i love my baby so much. Im in a long term very loving relationship with a man who loves kids too.... which doesnt help the situation
Oh, you all are making me cry! *sigh* I've had baby lust for two years now, although it comes and goes. THere has been a time or two when I thought I might be pregnant and those are the worst. Right now is one of those times, and it's odd because I kinda hope I'm not because it wouldn't be "planned", but in a way that baby lust is getting the best of me and I kind of hope I am. My best friend is due in a month and I took her some gifts the other day, her pregnancy hasn't been a happy time and she is always saying it "should have been me", which makes me feel just awful that she's not happy. Before I came to these forums I never heard anyone mention this, but it seems to be so common here which just makes me feel so much better about it. A baby would fit right now because we finally moved away and are on our own, but my boyfriend wants to wait and I have to agree that it would probably be best. I know he'd be happy if we found out I was though. The fever has been bugging me for the past month now and it shows no signs of stopping. Oh, all of you talking about your little ones makes me want one so bad! *sigh* I'm going to stop now, because I always post on these threads!
