a big mess....

if you've heard alot of it before that may mean you really need to take heed hon...in the long run you will do what you're gonna do, as i, and i'm sure the others, did. i 'heard it all before' too and it took me til my daughter was 18 mo old to boot him out and another 18 mo to stop sleeping with him when he came to visit really think long and hard hon. we aren't trying to sabotage your relationship - we just see yet another chapter unfolding in the domestic violence novel and we want to help change the story take care

 

I'm going through some similar problems... sigh. So I'm buying a van and taking off with my baby and her daddy for a bit. I think we'll (me and chris) will work things out. I hope we do, but if not.... Maybe we should just simplify both our lives, get rid of the boys, and run off together. lol.
I'm not really in a position to give advice, but I will any way. If you've tried everything and it won't work. If you're tired of trying to make it work... move on. It'll only get harder the longer you stay together. If you're worried about the family thing, maybe time apart will make him realize you have a life too and you guys could reunite. Don't stay somewhere you don't wanna be. Come to BC. It's awesome here. There are so many support groups everywhere. Have you tried going to some baby groups in your area? maybe that would help with the friend thing