Ever Fallen for a Straight Person?...It's Shit

I'm going insane.
I'm 100% madly sincerly in love with a straight girl and it's fucking killing me.
One of those straight girls that leads you on and thinks it's ok.
Messes with your head
Kisses fucking beautifuly
Looks beautiful
Smiles beautifully
I love that fucking girl
I would look at her all day if you couldn't get arrested for that sort of thing.
Why is that straight people think they can do that to you?
Makes me angry and confused......And I HATE being angry and confused

 

straight people who lead their gay counterparts on are some of the most selfish and narcissistic human beings. i've been fucked around by straight girls more times than i can count and it made me truly bitter for a while. i know it's easier said than done but try to distance yourself from her, if you're good friends it might be hard but this type of attraction is unhealthy for you. just know you can't change her no matter how badly you want, and she's just using you to feed her already inflated ego. you're better than that, go out and find someone that truly appreciates you

 

haha not only i have but i got in theyr pants as well. how many i lost count.

 

There are few things in life more frustrating than falling in love with your best friend, even though you know he (or she) is straight and you haven't a snowball's chance in hell of having a fully intimate relationship with him (or her). If that isn't frustrating enough, the very qualities in your best straight friend that draw you to him (or her) the most are sorely lacking among your queer friends.

It's like the "Peanuts" character Marcie having a crush on Peppermint Patty -- but Patty only has eyes for Charlie Brown.

-- Skeeter

 

Exactly what psyche said - you don't need that kind of messing around. It breaks your heart and there's no way out of it...sucks huh?

 

If I were you I would try to stay wawy from this girl. It may be very hard to do concidering your feelings for her, but she is not a good person for putting you through this! I have been through this as well and the only thing that helped me was to distance myself from her......because otherwise I was always thinking about her.
Good Luck! Stay Strong!

 

Thanks
I thought the distancing myself would work, you know find someone else and forget about her. But it just seems to emphasise the times I do see her! I guess you just can't win....I wish I had gay powder or something, to turn her, even just a little bit that would be so very morally wrong, but so very much fun
x

 

Maybe I'm reading this wrong but I think you have been where I have in falling in love with a guy that was so obviously straight that you just plain knew that there was no point trying to do anything about it. You are best friends with him, you hang around with him, it's pretty much like dating but you just know that there's no way that you are going to get any more than a hug & that won't be like a real hug. In my case we even lived together (there were 20 other people at the farm) we did everything together. We were "partners in crime" but when it came to sex he was only interested in women. It was fun anyhow just not as good as it could be. Then there was another friend I had before him that neither of us were out even to ourselves. I have heard that he's gay but can't get in touch with him realy.

I do feel for mrpiddleslives. That sucks when it happens. I have to say in my expereince it has only been girls that have done this to me. I do mean girls they weren't mature yet. One of them was even in her mid twenties but not matured yet. I don't think that only females can do this it just hasn't happened to me with a guy. So anyhow, it isn't a sport reserved for lesbian or bi women. This kind girl will do this with anyone that they can. I have never entertained a friendship with a girl like this so I can't say if it's worth while or not. I guess if there are enough other positive things that ou get from a friendship with her it could well be like my old friends. The one that I lived with & I still are very close even though he is on the other side of the country from me. It can be a good thing but then again he wasn't in any way teasing me or leading me on. In fact he kind of helped me start realize me sexuallity & that it was OK. He just couldn't help the fact that he was built like Adonis & we were so compatible.

 

I'm just kidding here. But you could always do the get her drunk & take advantage of her thing. :x

QUOTE=mrpiddleslives]Thanks
I thought the distancing myself would work, you know find someone else and forget about her. But it just seems to emphasise the times I do see her! I guess you just can't win....I wish I had gay powder or something, to turn her, even just a little bit that would be so very morally wrong, but so very much fun
x[/QUOTE]

 

Thats sad. I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I haven't had to go through it yet but I probably will someday. when you get over her tell me how it happened so I can use it for future reference. Good luck and be happy you deserve to be.

 

oh i'm with you on that one, i used to say it was easier turning the straight ones than finding a gay girl around here. but it's different when you're looking for a meaningful/committed relationship rather than just sex.

 

Well, we've got drunk and stuff has happened before, you know how that is though. Never really gets you anywhere, apart from feeling mighty nice at the time She just confuses me, I mean the way she acts sometimes makes me think that maybe she does like me (kissing me, holding my hand, telling me she wants to do certain things to me *when she's had a bit to drink though*)
and then the important part hit's me of course. She likes cock.
I hope I do get over her, it's been over a year now though, so I'm not counting on it!

I did make the mistake of telling her (kind of) through text message that i liked her as well...ooops.
I get very honest when I'm drunk.....she just means the world to me anyway. So I guess I'll just have to get over the bloody girl.

Straight people make me angry sometimes, they do think it's ok 2 use a bi/gay person to satisfy their little curiousity's.....Oh well ay?

 

I had the largest crush on my best friend. I was so jelous when he got his girlfriend.
It is definitally one of the hardest things to do, but we kinda distanced ourselves, and now we don't hang out or anything anymore.

 

As a Baby Boomer who came of age during the heyday of the original "flower children" -- and fell madly in love with them -- my greatest regret is that the hippie culture and gay liberation never crossed paths outside of San Franicsco -- and that cultural intermingling IN San Francisco ended with the rise of the "Castro clone culture" in the late '70s.

Because of this divide, it's been nearly impossible for me to connect with hippies who were gay -- I simply couldn't find them, even amongst the Radical Faeries who have been a major part of my life for over 20 years.

Were it not for the Internet, folks like us would NEVER be able to connect with each other.

-- Skeeter

 

nah l don't go near the straight girls emotionally, just get hurt..

 

Hey, we straight guys have to deal with that all the time. Women love attention. I can't tell you how many straight women love to entice men (or gay women) just for attention. They do it even if they have no intention of "going all the way" because of some husband, guy they love, or being straight in your case.
Case in point- Amy. She drove me crazy for about 6 months. I really thought she would break up with her boyfriend. She never did. They married and moved to England.
That was over 6 years ago. Three days ago, she called me out of the blue while I was sitting next to my pregnant wife, and say's she's living in portland OR, now single, and working as a trapeze artist and wants me to come see her.
Like that's gonna happen.
Frankly, I can imagine it's tough being a lesbian. Not only do you have to put up with women, you have to BE one too. lol
Seriously, I know how you feel. I hope you get past it. Good luck.

 

Yeah that totally sucks :-(

 

no but did i fall for a gay guy.and at the time as far as new i was str8t.but the kiss he gave me told me i was bi;-) he told me that he d phone me but never did :-( i still think
about him but never seen him agane

 

I never had yet, but I would not mind if I met a straight person that had the qualities I seek in a partner and they were willing as well.

I don't think that a straight girl who explores their curiosity necessarly "uses" their gay friends in the process. Maybe they're just experiencing a longing or vulnerability that makes them seek attention / affection from someone of the same gender ? but just because that relationship is not "love" as Hollywood defines it doesn't mean it's not loving and meaningful. I don't understand why romantic lustful love always has to be presented as the ultimate form of relationship and place above any other. Cause I have had friendships with some straight friends that were so profound and sensual that physical sex was almost besides the point. If you think that way you may realize that your gapal does love you, just not as you think she's supposed to.

I'm not saying you should keep alimenting the flame it's hurtful, but her feelings can't be disregarded as "play" (unless her intent is such). The way you could manoeuver this relationship is if you are able to love her as she is, and if you know yourself well enough to be happy regardless of who she ends up with in the end in that way. Love lets go