Okay, well here I go....

I'm new to these boards and this will be my first post. I have been reading here for about 2 weeks and have found the information in this forum to be extremely helpful in the situation I am in. At this point in my life, I am a virgin in every sense of the word. I have never been on a date, never had a sexual experience with another individual, and I have never been kissed. I have been trying to get a sense of my sexuality before I start any relationships. Over the course of today, I have done some major soul searching to try and decide if I'm Straight, Gay, or Bi-sexual. I find females somewhat attractive, but don't really desire to jump on them. Men, however, I have a much stronger sexual attracion for. So I feel that I'm bi-sexual, but leaning more toward the gay side. So I've pretty much accepted that I'm Gay, but still like women relationship-wise. So I guess for friends? I'm not sure, this is a real confusing time for me. I really wanted someone to talk to about it, but I wanted some annonymous opinions first before I talked to friends. Most of my friends are girls. I don't have too many guy friends. I know for a fact that all of my gal pals from child hood would be extremely cool with it. Maybe a few of my newr girl friends (1-2) wouldn't be good with it. One of my guy friends from child hood might be okay with it, but he's not real opinionated about anything. I probably would lose any other guy friends/accuaintances I have. I would probably lose friends because of homophobism, but this is who I am and they'll have to accept that I guess. Since I live in Georiga, which is in the south and thus is going to have more homophobism, I feel like everyone around me (barring my friends and others who are gay/bi) would judge me and not want to have anything to do with me. But my real problem is my family. I'm an only child and my parents are divorced so the attention is pretty much focused only on me. My mother, I know, would love me no matter what. My father, however, is extremely discriminatory toward several groups of people such as African-Americans, Homosexuals and Bisexuals. I just don't think he could accept it, so I don't know how I could possibly tell him. Could anyone help me out, or give me some advice on where to go from the self-acceptance I have achieved?

 

one of my biggest gripes with the gay stereotype is that you have to come out, i think as long as you've come out to yourself that's all that matters, you don't have to hide it but you don't have to announce it over a megaphone either


also i live in georgia so i think you'd be surprised but lots of luck to ya

 

well...i pose you this question.
how will you know what you want if you dont try it all?
i think you really need to stop trying to figure out your sexuality until you really have a grasp of what a female and a male relationship is like, how they make you feel sexually and emotionally. it will help you.
welcome to the boards. by the by.

 

You'll be surpise by how fluid feelings can be. Its possible to actully end up in a relatioship with a guy and lose intertest, then go with a girl be distsatisfied , and go back to men. But what i'm saying is you should't really put bondary on your sexallities untill you run into encounters, be free to play on any oppertunities in your future and find what how you really feel.

About your question of "coming out" it not really that important to tell your parents or freinds. Think about what the consequences could be how it will effect your life. ANd if your can feel that it not a burden to hide it from your freind and family their no real point in letting it.

Coming out i belive to be a more mental thing that is to yourself and your own coming to terms with your sexuallity

 

I've never been in a relationship, but I know I'm gay....Trying things isn't always the case, it's like an instinct sometimes.