I'm bi and only out to close friends. I'd like to be completely open about myself, but I live in a very conservative area, and I'm just not really ready for all the shit I'd get. I do plan on coming out eventually though. It isn't huge issue for me at the moment because I don't really want a relationship and I just don't think about it much. The one thing that bothers me is when people make anti-gay comments around me, not knowing how offensive they are being. I suppose that's better than them being intentionally offensive.
happiness is what you make it to be, being "out" or not has to be your decision... i think being bi gets so overcomplicated by much of society.
Have to be? No, not at all. Does it help for some people? Yes, certainly. You'll probably feel better when you can find at least one or two people who know and treat you just fine. Can I tell you whether you should be out? No, sorry. Who can tell you whether you should be out? That hot bi guy you look at in the mirror every morning, that's who.
Hi Lostboy, I'm Bi also and not "out". It doesn't bother me a bit and I live a happy life, I'm not freaked out about my sexuality. I also live in a conservative community and it makes it tough to meet other guys. But by no means do I have a desire to "out" myself to anyone. I think you should weigh your options and if you really "need" to out yourself for whatever personal reasons than do it. The internet is a great source for meeting local guys who are in the same situation and I'm sure they prefer anonymity also. I don't know why you are considering "outing" yourself but if it's a deep seated pyschological need than by all means do it, don't play head games with yourself. If its just to be known as a "guy who likes guys" than I would advise against it, because you know what you will go through in a small community. This is just my personal observations, thought I would share with you. Jon
it's certainly not crucial, but frees up a lot of energy for living, loving and other things. as a hippy/faerie/freak i'm often amused that 1. people don't read me as queer, they see freek first ;, and 2. that the more i'm joyfully myself and further from the 'norm' i get, the freeer it gets and the more others respect (or laugh at) me. in some ways i think it's easier to be a freak and queer than mainstream gay, at least for me. besides, i just love telling cute guys that the only meat i eat is live, human, and attached to a sweet man like them ;
Not I. I won't hide my sexuality, but I won't parade it around either . All somebody has to do is ask...
Happiness is acceptance of oneself... regardless of whether or not everybody else even knows that self.
I'm bi and I'm out to 1 person so far. I'm totally happy with myself because I don't feel the need to tell my family until I happen to get a girlfriend (I'm female). The main thing is that you accept yourself and then, at least for me, what other people think or know about you just fades into the background and you're left with your happy self!
Exactly. You could be the last person on Earth and still be happy if you had accepted the situation you were in and had accepted the way of life you lived.
