i can't escape my probs even in dreams! help?

so, the 'supposed' love of my life abruptly ended our 4-year relationship a few weeks back, much to my utter shock. i am still deeply in love and obviously devestated, i think about it and all the details alllll the time..which i wont get into. so when i sleep, it WAS a break from all the bullshit but now i'm dreaming about him and he's even doing things in my dreams that hurt me. so do you all think that maybe just because my mind is always on him its natural to dream about it? any suggestions to make it STOP!!!!??? coz i cant just stop thinking bout it..

 

Face your problem. If its something he's done to hurt you or vice versa, deal with it, talk about it, dont hide anything because thats when I believe our sub-concious starts to communicate with us, through our dreams.

 

Get rid of everything that reminds you of him - music, pictures, jewelry, clothes, etc.

Do a house cleaning.

Depression makes a lot of people depressed - so they'll go out and buy something thinking that it'll fill their emptiness. Resist the temptation to buy anything.

Change your diet, exercise more, go to places where you can meet people. Resist alcohol and drugs. Go hiking, swimming, dancing, biking, roller skating.. get back to nature.

 

What a enlightening statement.:sunglasse

 

Yeah!! Nice White Feather.
Just think about it, Honestly too. Would the man you wanna spend the rest of your life with ever hurt you, Hell na.. So know he aint yours, and look for us good guys. feelings often hurt you, the truth shall for ever liberate you

 

thanks guys for the advice. basically just gotta keep my mind off him i guess..ive done all i can to "face" the problem (talking etc) i guess its just gonna take a helluva long time but thats what im told, only time will heal.

zion, you made a good point. although in the PAST my man would never hurt me, he is a changed person (for the worse) and i now realize that if it were meant to be, he wouldn't have done what he did. i just feel bad that he has lost his peace in life...i wish i could help him regain his sense of direction...

blah. love sucks. but hey..havent dreamt bout it in a few days!

 

Do what makes you happy, thats the best advice I think I can give someone. Because if the decisions you make arent for the best then you regret things, and going through a life regreting things just isnt fun.