I dont know if this already was a thread too lazy to flip through all the threads(haha yeah, i know ).. Have you ever started a relationship with a really really good friend? And if so how did it turn out.. And really just anything youd like to say about the subject
Yes, and it went Horrible (that's right, with a capital H)! Not only were we good friends, but we kinda had the same circle of friends, which became much more tight through the course of our relationship. So of course when we broke up, nobody wants to take sides, and I don't really blame them for that. What I blame them for (the guys at least) is valuing getting laid over friendship, and these were the same people asking me how I could put up with her. It's taken me a while to regroup and find out who my real friends are.
I did, and it's been the best decision. We worked together, and about three months later (by the end of the summer) we were best friends, and we've been together over a year and a half now. It was funny, we had this "date" but we didn't know if it was a date or not lol like maybe we were just having dinner as friends because I was moving away... but it was definitely a date! (it's kind of a long cute story, but I don't know if this is the right place to post it!)
hehe well one good story and one bad one cher, you can post your story.... fulmah, friends suck, mine were shitheads and used my house like it was a playground.. so its good that you know their true colors now..
Alright, since Kayla gave me the go-ahead I'll share my story It'll probably be pretty long lol but it's a nice story. I work for the City in the payroll department during the summer..this one day my boss came up to me and was like "We're hiring another student, he'll be starting soon-ish." All I could think was "oh great...probably some MORON who won't know how to do anything, I'll have to do everything" lol so anyway a couple of weeks later she comes by my desk with this guy who was tall, and kind of quiet, but nice enough - he even shook my hand and said it was nice to meet me! Honestly I didn't give him much thought then, cos like I said he was quiet, so I didn't really know what to think of him. I thought he was cute though, but I told my mom he's "young" (three years younger than me) so I really didn't think about him that way. After a while he started to loosen up, and we were given a project in the filing room...all day, every day, stuck in this god-awful room - so of course we started to talk a lot (or at least I did lol I'm a chatterbox) and we got to know eachother really well. He started bringing me a Timmy muffin every morning, which I thought was cute. Eventually I did ask him out and he said he didn't think it was a good idea because we worked together, and I was sad but we were really good friends so I managed lol and things really honestly did go back to normal. By the end of the summer we were best friends, hanging out after work, talking on MSN, even went to a party together. So this one day at work he mentions that I'm moving back to school again, and that it's my birthday soon. (this is about the middle of august) He said that we should go out and do something before I moved back, like hang out or something. (Was this a date? I wasn't sure lol) I said sure, thinking he meant to like go out for pizza and play some pool or something.... but then he decided he wanted to go to Il Fornellos, which is a beautiful (and expensive) Italian restaurant. So now I'm really starting to wonder, is this a date? is this a non-date? Do people have dinner as friends at Il Fornellos? So finally, Aug 29 rolls around, and I'm panicking. About everything. My clothes (a sort of hippy-style purple dress) my hair (which was misbehaving) and whether or not I'd make an ass out of myself. I still wasn't sure if this was a date or not, but I had decided to make some kind of "move" or whatever, once and for all lol because if I got shot down, I was moving anyway! He came and picked me up and looked so good In a suit! We drove to the restaurant, and when we were walking across the parking lot, he said he had a birthday present for me. I figured ok, like a cd or something, right? No. He had bought me this beautiful white gold necklace I wasn't sure what to do with that lol I mean what did this mean??? So I kissed him, somewhere between his cheek and his mouth (cos I wasn't sure what I should do) and we had dinner, and then we went for a walk on the boardwalk. VERY romantic, holding hands, but nothing more than that. I was very confused, but enjoying myself. We went to Starbucks for some hot chocolate, and then decided to go to my house to hang out for a while. We were sitting on my couch downstairs watching Dazed & Confused, and just talking and having a good time. I was actually sitting on his lap at this point, very cozy... I said something to him, something silly lol like I made fun of him or something ... and he pretended to be all sad so I kissed him on the cheek. THEN he tells me "You're not allowed to kiss me" and omg I nearly had a heart attack. I thought, "omg, he's going to hate me forever, now I know he really doesn't like me...." and then he says that he's kidding, and I'm allowed to kiss him whenever I want to. So I did, on the lips... and he kissed me back for like three hours rofl. We've been together ever since. Awwwww... I know it was long, but wasn't it cute? lol (sidenote: he actually wasn't a moron who didn't know how to do anything...once he got the hang of things I stopped doing MY job and just sat around yakking all the time lol)
awwwww thats so cute... they should make that into a made for tv special on lifetime im teasin ya.. That was really cute, thanks for sharing my'lady cher... makes me feel lonely though
i just got out of a relationship with my best guy friend and it is bad i ended it but he wont leave me alone. it was cool when we were friends but dating was weird, i didnt like going with him, it was odd. i guess i did like him but he aparently liked me a lot more even when we were dating, if we had started sooner it might have worked bur it just died. i feel so guilty that i dont really have any feelings right now, i really dont care, isnt that bad? he has been chasing me and saying i am his true love and he wont quit hanging on me and it is really bad!
I want to pursue a relationship with a good friend of close to 3 years....but I don't have the courage to say anything to her...I care about her so much. I'm just afraid she won't say yes, and I'll be crushed. I'm better off alone anyway.
Thanks Orsino I like it because it's silly...two people out on a date and not knowing if it was a date or not??!! rofl
it was really weird. me and my friend zach hadn't talked or seen each other in about a year, but we ran into each other on the street and he asked me if i wanted to smoke out with him. sure, i said, so we went on this long drive into the country and we started hanging out and getting high on a pretty regular basis. i started to like him and he started sending out signals like he wanted to be something more than friends. just flirty stuff. then one day we were at my house just chillin' and talking and i said that my shoulders were stiff, so he got up and started rubbing my shoulders. then he put his head on my shoulder and said my hair smelled good. hehe. well, we made out on my couch for like, 45 minutes. but then his phone rang and it was one of our mutual friends asking if he wanted to come over. so we took his car over to her house and one of our other friends came over, too. i didn't know how to act! i would've screwed him right there on my couch had no one called. i was horny and there was a LOT of sexual tension between us. anyway, after that day, he acted really awkward around me, and i must admit i felt awkward as well. so we never screwed and we never ended up going out. but we did end up being buds again, eventually. but a couple years later, we lost touch and i haven't heard from him in about a year. he ended up getting really serious with a girl who's really good friends with my bitchass ex-roommate whom i don't like at all. so since then i haven't really tried to start anything with a good friend. me and dario (my fiance') and i met and pretty much fell for each other right off the bat. we're also really good friends...in fact, he is my best friend
thank you sonador for your story.... when are ya getting married, do you have a date set, or just playing it by ear and taken it slow?
my partner is my best friend. I have known him for ten years but I have only been dating him for almost four. If love is going to work you have to be friends with the person.
I have dated one of my friends and to be honest it was awesome in the beginning. I thought I'd try dating someone who knew so much about me and seemed to accept me for who I was at the time. Then we dated for a couple years and had a lot going against us. (that's a long story) My husband and I didn't know each other long before we dated. Less than a month I think. When I saw him I knew I was going to marry him. Granted we went through a lot while we dated but everything we went through has blessed us one way or another. How long have you been friends with him? Does he show any signs of interest?
we're doing the latter, taking it slow we're both working on our own goals and dreams right now, and want to focus on doing that before getting married, but we know we want to spend our lives together
I'm better off alone because I'm not happy with myself at this point in time. Every girl that is attracted to me can do SOOOO much better. I just ignore them. They'll find some better guy to make them happy. I'm not good looking, so I don't know what they see in me anyway. So theres no chance at all of me asking my friend out.
