15 year old boy in a 2 year relationship, help please!

Hi everyone,
I'm hoping you can give me a hand coz I need help bad.
I've been dating my 16yo girlfriend for about 2 years now, but lately things have gotten ugly.

She's a pretty weak minded person, she doesn't speak up when she should, and she doesn't stand up to people etc.
Whereas I'm pretty much the opposite.
Everything was going perfectly until about 6 months ago we had a few problems, A mate of mine started sending 'inapropriate texts' to her. As you can imagine I was pretty hurt, I have some trust issues. A week or so later another mate 'grabbed' her, and she's always getting hit on by random guys.
So I told her that she needs to stop all this, theres only so much I can take.
Yeah and since then things have been goin downhill.

Lately she seems to be more of a 'little girl' than ever, and sometimes I feel like I'm a father rather than a boyfriend.
But I still love her more than anything, I'm utterly devoted to her, but it feels like nothings there anymore, our intimacy is at an alltime low and she is always finding an excuse to hate me or get angry with me, I can't stand it.
In the last few weeks we've discussed breaking up, but we just cant stomach it, we love each other to much. But I don't think I could spend the rest of my life with her...

On top of this two close girl-friends of mine have told me they like me, so I'm kinda torn.

Please can anyone give some suggestions? about what to do, or how to improve our relationship? I'm really feeling down about all this but I can't talk to anyone about it, every time I suggest possible changes or suggestions about our relationship, I get snarled at.
Please somebody help?
Sorry this is so long,
Thank you all heaps,
Brit.

 

Well, if you've tried really hard to work things out and nothing is happening, than I say just break it off. Your 15, there is sooo much more in life and the world. If someone is holding you back, than you gotta get out of it. It may seem like hell at first, but you'll get better as long as you stay confident and focused in your life on what you want.

She seems like shes not a very stable person and may need some personal life experience to really grow and mature, I believe that is why she is fooling around/hitting on/flirting with other people.

 

i didnt rad anything but the title.. your 15 an have been in a "relationship" for two years..

time to explore the rest of whats out there..

15 and in a "relationship" basically since you entered puberty.. its just not healthy.. go spread your wings and fly...

 

Ha not only that, this:

Too young to even be a father, and even speaking of "intimacy being at an all time low" :rofl:



Anyways, dude you're 15, live it up while you can, the girls will always be around...

 

I'm going to have to agree with the three above me.
She's going to have to learn to stand up for herself, and for her relationship; getting dumped by you seems like an appropriate lesson.

 

im glad i didnt read it now..

im not gonna gang up on the kid though. i remember,,well wasnt that long ago i had a 15 year old son,an even less time since having a 16 year old daughter.

thats a tough age.. but seriously,,especially after reading that,,it just aint healthy at that age to be so wrapped up in a "relationship"..

 

Thanks for your help guys, I really appreciate it.
Yeah I exagerated a teeny bit, we've been together about a year and 7 months, and I'm nearly 16, does this change anything?
Yeah I know, sometimes I feel like I want to be free, but I do love her an awful lot... And I know she loves me too, and I'm just not sure how I'm gonna function without her.
Things seem to be getting a little better...
I'm just nervous about the future, where does it go from here?
Thanks everyone

 

There is no need to be nervous about the future. The future is infinite. Don't be afraid. I don't sense good things about this relationship (As with almost all high school relationships).

I dunno, it doesn't sound like you are going to take anyone's advice cause you keep insisting that you still love each other and want to be together. You'll learn I guess...

 

Yes, I've been there, and it's a very tough lesson to learn..

 

Yeah, my friend's 19 and still learning the lesson +_+ he's back with the cheating whore.

Then be free.

Dependence isn't a function of love; it's a function of insecurity. (Not saying you aren't in love; but in pure love, you don't need a person, simply want them.)

Either it lasts; or it ends; and if it lasts, it ends eventually.

 

Honestly that's total bull, not all relationships built at young ages "end"

Dude, I say stick with her, if you really love her, just communicate and try out different things, what both of you could do to make things better, but both of you have to be willing to try not just a one way. She just needs to quit the lil girl act because that will lead her nowhere.. I say keep trying, you've got nothing to lose... what are the girls who like you good for if you still love your girlfriend now?

 

Do you not read well?

Either it lasts(they stay together); or it ends(they break up); and even if it lasts it ends eventually(we all die).

I'm in a teenage relationship myself of nearly two years; and expect it to last till the grave; however, we have a great relationship that we are both extremely content in and extremely in love.
He is considering breaking up with his girlfriend and part of his reason is these other girls. Sounds just like true love. Obviously, he's not content in the relationship. His role in the relationship isn't working out for him.
Her personality isn't going to magically change; the relationship's dynamic isn't going to magically change to better suit him.
There is absolutely no reason for him to stay in the relationship.

Love love all you want; but don't be such an idealist that it blinds you.

 

That first love is always the one that's going to go. No matter what you do, it's going to happen. I was in a relationship with a girl for about 10 months (didn't even have sex with her, still haven't had sex with anyone) and my brother kept telling me "Break it off before she does something." I kept telling him mine would last and he was crazy, and sure enough, I found out she cheated. It was painful for me for a little while but I got over it. I realized there is more to life than hanging on to someone who doesn't love you as much as you love them. So, if this girl is holding you back, let her go. If she doesn't want to "speak up for herself" then this could all be a cover to hide that she's cheating or flirting with them.

 

dude I know how it feels
Especially that young I had my first serious relationship at that age

but the fact of the matter is when things start getting like that its causing more pain than happiness

so just let go
dont be afraid of the future
let all the love you can in
live it up your still a teen you got nothing to worry about
besides where the party is on fri and sat
and which girl will be in your bed after it

 

Once you fully hit puberty you have the capability to be in love and to feel intimacy. It's not as much about age as maturity.

A long term relationship as a teenager can be either a good thing or a bad thing, depending on the people and their ability to handle such a complex thing

from the first description it kinda sounds like your girlfriend has a bit of maturing to do, so you could either leave her to do it on her own or try and help her through it

if you guys stay together though you have to make sure to always be willing to help her and yourself through these rough patches. 'cause there will always be those fluctuations in a relationship but you have to be adult enough to get through it every time.

only you would know if she's not the right person. if you really feel she is then go for it.

 

what 15 year old refers to himself as a boy? puhlease!

 

Why post useless garbage instead of advice? Be a little more mature, and act like an adult, okay?

 

who you talkin to?

 

a little bitter for 14?i met my wife when i was 13 dated her 2 years then broke up seen other people moved on at 19 we got back together and got married and have been married for 9 years now.. just gos to show you never know when yell find your true love and it is possible for the first love to be the one.now as far as the op is concerned maybe it would be good to take a break.spread your wings and see what else is out there if you do get back together in the future you will appreciate each other more and if not it was never meant to be in the first place.