My girlfriend and i have been dating for that long and the last two months have been horrible. She has secluded herself from me she was staying at this girls house because her and her mom got in a fight but i couldnt know the number there or anything because the girls mom said she couldnt stay there if she hung out with me. So then i say her a couple times whatever and come to find out she stayed at my so called friends house for the last week befor she went to jail with him for 2 weeks for shoplifting and just got out today and i just found out her mom filed a ppo against me so if im seen with her i automaticly go to jail and she wont talk to me but i love her so much i just want her to be happy but i dont know if shes scared to talk to me or what but i would think she atleast owes me a explanation so i dont know im just heart broken what should i do
Thats kinda fucked up... you should have a right to know whats going on with your girlfriend for sure. Did you do anything that would make her and her mom not wanna talk to you?
Just from reading what you said man, I would have to conclude, that, your "friend" that your girl friend has been hanging out with, is more than just "friends" with her... Just a casual observers opinion.. Also man, if your girl has the tenacity to go off with your "friend" and steal with him and risk going to jail with him, I would say you have more problems than just a communication problem.
you guys i dont know what to do or who to believe her mom has hated me since day one of us being together and they did both go to jail and now come to find out shes now staying at this kids house who hates me and has had a crush on her for like 6 years hes nuts for her so im getting fucked every angle i know i shouldnt be with her but its so hard for me to just stop caring i love her so much its ridiculous
It's not about stopping how much you care for her. You've been with her a long time and may have a soft spot for her in your heart your whole life. However, you need to understand that there's probably nothing you can do to have the relationship you want with her.
What Duck said, pretty much. Once they go elsewhere it's a waste of time and life. You seem like you're in a situation that's similar to one I was in years ago. Basically what happens is that your pretty girlfriend has many "outs" (for that very reason) and you have none, so if/when she wants to leave you, the fact that you will feel like utter dog shit, possibly on the brink suicide, is irrelevant to her... made worse by the fact that the younger we are, the less considerate, mature in general, etc., we are.
A person who is in jail for shoplifting is not likely to go to court for a PPO unless they feel threatened. A person who shoplifts is not going to stay away from her BF, just because momma says to, unless she agrees with momma. The girl's mom is definatly concerned about the OP. The girl's not communicating with the OP, sounds like she agrees with mom. Plus, the math of 19 yr OP and 17(or less) GF (mom getting the order implies a minor girlfriend), gives us (initally) a 15 year-old guy dating a 13 year-old girl. It sounds like mom might have a point. If the GF is not a minor, then mom can't get a court order that means anything. Unless, of course, the GF agrees that a court order is wise.
She didn't the mom did. Or unless she has other reasons not to want to be with him. Such as, not wanting to be with him. 2 years? C'mon nothing wrong there. I only agree with you in the case that she isn't a minor.
17-19 doesn't bother me as much as 13-15. But the fact remains that the young woman, who is not known for obedience to authority, complies with her mom's wishes that they be apart. The OP's complaint that she won't explain herself implies that she won't see him. She isn't coming over; she doesn't want to see him. The young woman should be left alone. "I love her, therefore she owes me..." led me to many mistakes with women when I was 19. (BTW, that statement is always false.) If she doesn't initiate contact, the only sound option for the OP is whiskey.
You're still trying to push this idea that she literally fears him personally, like he beat her up or something: "You scare her". I'd really like for you to quote the exact lines in his post where you're getting that idea from. The situation as I see it, including what he's probably not telling us, is that he gets her into trouble pretty regularly and/or her mom just doesn't approve of him, thus she wound up at someone else's house due to arguing with her mom, and while there started messing with another guy who got her into serious trouble, and at some point during or after that something was filed against the TS and the girl complied, etc. etc. You point to her compliance as if it's some testament to her actually "fearing" the TS but you fail to understand that a) she is being pressured and surely threatened with some kind of iron hand by her mom, and b) she is messing around with other guys (who get her tossed in jail BTW) and thus really has no reason to be compelled to hang out with the TS - in fact to look the other way completely - anymore in the first place.
She doesn't want to see him. (Her behviour shows this.) He should stay away from her. (Because she wants him to.)
Guys, none of us know the full story here so it's hard to judge what's going on. What we do know is that a PPO is a big deal and ReMade could get in a whole lot of trouble for breaking it. Sorry guy, I can tell you're really broken up about this and I feel for you, but your whole life could be screwed up (I mean, even worse) if you violate the PPO. For your own sake, you've gotta throw your head up, wipe your eyes and go with Mike's advice: "The only sound option for the OP is whiskey."
I agree. Unfortunately none of that = "You scare her". I wouldn't have cared, but 1) you based it on nothing, seemed kinda agenda-e to me, and 2) telling someone that and that kind of judgement of a stranger, especially when it's baseless is pretty bad.
