3 way marriage

I want to have two true loves someday. Is this a real possibility? How many girls are open minded for such a thing?

 

Why do you want two, exactly?

 

Actually, tbh I want 2-3 wives. I just don't feel like I would be satisfied with only giving my love to one person.

 

its possible but a lot of people aren't mentally prepared for that even if they wanted to be unfortunately. gotta find people that are very distant from mainstream cuz thats what seems to unconsciously brainwash people from the simple thing of love. hippies'll do
I would like to be married to two people too. but a guy and a girl. the sex would be much more interesting.

 

like a mormon?

 

Yeah nicely said actually. I have never really cared about anything but what I felt, so I have no problem with not being mainstream. I suppose it will be a real challenge to find girls like that, but I do have alot of time to search
I find it funny that people can't comprehend love to be something that is spread out between more than just one other person, lol it seems like they are missing out on an amazing thing. I mean it would even be hard for me to marry only 2 or 3 girls, because I just feel like I love them all

 

how would you feel about one person and a loyal dog?

 

watch an episode of Big love and youll change your mind real quick. Prepare for drama... a lot of it and a lot of children. Dont think you want just 3..youll have more like 6. and dont take too much Viagra, or youll get the symptoms like him.

 

to the OP i used to feel the same way, that i had too much love to give, and one person wasn't enough...

to some degree i still feel this way, but i am at a stage in my life where loyalty is all i want...if i had several lovers though i'd want them to be exclusive to me, which is what it seems you want as well, and that just doesn't seem fair.

that being said im cool being with one person, and probably will be ok with it in the future, but i think i feel you, i just want to open your eyes and warn you that this desire might have to be sacrificed in the real world, unless you cheat...

 

Or at least someone raised to have no sense of individualism.

Empowered woman usually aren't down to be one of many. Unless it's just for a little while.........

 

To me it seems a little selfish to want two or more women to be your wife. If you don't think you can satisfy one women, then what makes you thing you can satisfy many?

 

Generally when a man has multiple wives their job is to satisfy him.

Polygamy is where the attitude of "Head of the Household" comes from. A man has say 3-4 wives with a kid or two to each... that's a big family and a serious burden to support.

But I guess you have to make your choice. Be one of many and inherently less important, or give the equality thing a shot and see if you can find enough good in humanity to accept the bad when both sexes are just as free to be fucked up and insecure.

 

stupid women. they should just shut up and take it.

 

Wife and a mistress or two?
Live with a couple of open-minded women?
Join a commune?

The law says one wife per man (and vice versa) here in the U.S. That doesn't mean you can't have other women in your life as sexual or non-sexual companions. So what you're after is completely do-able. What's the issue? All involved just need to be on-board - with the possible exception of the mistress scenario. Even then some women are okay with a guy having someone on the side. Just be prepared for the possible consequences.

 

Yeah I didn't think about that. I guess more women = more drama. Drama is totally gay. Im sure I can find some people eventually that don't bother me with too much of that crap though.

 

Yeah I guess theres no problem I am just wondering why its not very popular. It is the kind of thing that Hugh hefner does, I think thats what gave me the main idea of it lol. I just love being around girls, and it seems like one girl would get real boring.

 

Big Love was about polygyny (having more then one wife at a time), same as almost every other incident of polygamy that is publicized. When combined with a religious message, (as in big love, or general mormon principals), it is a sexist and usually abusive (although not necessarily physically) relationship.

There are many examples in real life (that which happens when not staring at the magic box) of polygamy being practiced in non-religious and non abusive manner.

To start with though, if your idea is to have two wives looking after your needs, then you are likely heading for trouble.

If you have three adults (or 4 or 5 etc), whom all genuinely love each other and wish to share their lives with each other in an honest and open partnership then their is nothing wrong with it. A relationship can be set up any way the participants wish to agree on, covering the spectrum of a totally open and non exclusive manner (everyone does everyone they want), to a closed relationship based on the principal of commitment, usually referred to as polyfidelity (where each are commited to the other partners equally and exclusively).

The dynamics of a multipartner relationship are way beyond that of a normal 1:1 relationship and come with commensurate rewards and pitfalls.

In the example of a polyfidelitous threeway (usually referred to as a triad when all are equal and equally involved), to have a balanced relationship for all means that at least two of them are going to be bisexual (although they may identify as another choice along the spectrum).

With honesty, love and respect, it means that in most circumstances, the relationship can be a more stable thing then the conventional type. Think of a stool, 2 legs requires a hell of a lot more work to keep balnced then one with three or more legs.

When one person feels like being alone (which happens to most people at times), it doesn't automatically mean their partner(s) must be as well. The things that you do for survival in life are split between three people, meaning less of a burden overall.

The problems that arise from attempts at multiple partners, are almost always related to at least one of the involved not being honest, maybe not even with themselves.

Then there are some people who will get involved in a triad with the hidden agenda of 'nudging' the other out, or that it means they can go out and sleep around.

With the right people with honesty, love and respect for each other, any dynamic of relationship can work and be a beautiful thing.

 

Really??

For me having one special person in my life is more than enough. I wouldn't want to be with more, or be with someone who had other partners.

 

Thanks chronictom
I know there would be more challenges of course, but when I think of spending my life with just one person, I get a sick feeling in my stomach. I feel like if I ever got married, this would be my only option.

 

See I personally wouldn't feel that my partner loved me if, he/ she wanted another two women to be in the relationship.