a deceased friend came to me in a dream

Last night I had a dream about a friendly acquaintence of mine who committed suicide a few months ago. I was on my way to a meeting and a car pulled up and the door opened and the girl was driving and asked me to get in. I was in shock and was practically spazzing out. She said she understands the shock and confusion that I was going through. I asked if it was really her and wether she had really died. She avoided speaking of how she was existing there and only said that I would understand soon. She was very calm and understanding and said that she (and all dead people) can watch everything that the living do and can hear all of their thoughts. She said that in death, by seeing into the thoughts of the living she realized how she caused many to grieve from her death and she was on a mission to appear to them and appologize because that was not her intentions. It seemed as if she was sort of undead or in a type of pergatory until she appologized to all of the many friends that were grieving her death. She told me that she was just there, then for me and that no one else would be able to see her. I found this to be true as we passed many other people as she walked with me to my meeting. As we rode the elevator to the meeting hall we had a very intamate emotional moment of embracing each other. She stopped and got off of the elevator in a loby area some floors before my destination. As she walked away I asked whether I would see her again after my meeting. She said "no", that she needed to get some rest. As the elevator door closed and I continued on, I thought deeply about what it all meant. I then woke up and realised it was a dream and think that was what she meant when she said that "I would understand soon". I believe that this was some sort of closure to here acquaintence with me in her life and maybe provided some restfullness in her death!

I often wonder if people do exist somewhere after death, do they feel satisfied and feel that suicide was worth it? Do they realize the selfishness of it and how deeply many people will grieve at their loss?

It is a shame to me that this very sweet genuine girl does not exist anymore. We were never extremely close but I did enjoy running into her often and her very friendly and genuine additude and conversation. I had not seen her in almost a year and found out that she had developed a severe eating disorder and had attempted suicide once previously. Very sad indeed.

 

FeelinGroovy

maybe the meeting was to provide some restfullness inside of you as well, be it in the light and shadows of your days, or at night when you cross the unplumbed depth and open skies that are all yours as well.

So what was it about and what did she come for to tell you.

From where we exist without bounds, we came to grow
To become more
In the experience of sorrows and joy
And of getting lost
To the contradictions of life
When going against the innermost
And of finding ourselfes back, and healing
Navigating what is, from the core
Of our being
As beyond, we walk in forgiveness and love
All the time
Have you forgotten ...
Beyond we are real so much more
Not separate from the greater Whole
Part of all that is.

Dreams are kinda windows to our own deeper sources of knowing, and maybe you find a clue here.

 

Yes, I agree. I regularly have very vivid and meaningful dreams, many of which are lucid dreams. I have had many "visions" make appearances during dreams and also have had other deceased come to visit me in dreams. My grandfather often makes appearances and gives me wisdom or just smiles and pats me on the back for good deeds.


I definately think that my recent dream was a way of giving myself closure to my relationship with the other person. It felt so real though that it is still hard to grasp her non-existance anymore, at least in the physical sense.

 

sounds to me as though you actually communicated with her, The "dead" can visit us through our dreams, and although it seems like a dream it really isnt, you left your body to visit her............... for more info read sylvia brown's book on dreaams.......... very enlightening

 

Hey that's an awesome dream you had! A friend of mine commited suicide a few years ago and I did see him a few times in dreams.. not like really deep real time conversations or anything, but he was there.. was kinda nice to 'see' him still. Didn't happen for a long time now though. I'm raised Roman Catholic (as was he) so the whole suicide=hell thing is kinda burried deep inside me.. so stories and experiences like this are really comforting to me, knowing that he's ok. He didn't even want to let me touch his hair when I dreamed about him.. he was always such a fuss about that.. lol.. some thing apperantly never change

Or it's all a figment of our imagination.. wishfull thinking.. anywho.. let's just enjoy the comfort we get from it and when we die ourself, we'll figure it all out.. I hope

 

i had 2 of my friends die within a year of each other. after my first friend died, i would have dreams about him.... all the time.. and then they stopped and after my 2nd friend died the same thing would happen but i dont have those dreams anymore. i dont think its anything like your situtation, but it just reminds me of it, because i see them in my dreams. it is just probably because i was in shock of their death and thought about them often and that is why i had those dreams. but your dream is crazy but interesting.... i dont even know what i'd do if i had a dream like that

 

my grandma used to come to me in my dreams and when i was awake !! FREAKY shit haha

 

About your dream...when my father died last Dec. all I could think about was him, of course. I have always heard that you dream about your last thought before you doze off. But, come to find out you immediatly go unconscience right before you hit the sleep zone. Anyways...I used to have dreams about him coming to me...then they stopped. But, just the other week I had a dream that was so real.

I had gotten my own place and got up one night to get something to drink or something and he was laying on my couch in the dark. He spoke, "What're you doing here?" And then I woke up.

I know it doesn't sound that strange..but it was. But, I dont think your dream was too weird. I mean...it happens.