I got a little question for all just to get a general response, Okay I've been talking to this girl now for a couple of week's I know she like's me and I like her, Well V-day is coming up, and I was thinking of making her a paper flower bouquet, do you think that would be to much? I have a habit of making thing's for people compared to buying but some people take thing's the wrong way, do you think this would be suggesting to much? Just curious I'll probably do it regardless, but a general response would be nice, some people seem to think a gift is a want or need of commitment, and I feel it's just expression. THANKS ALL PEACE
Hmmm, you gonna fold the flowers yourself, or buy them? In all honesty, I'd prefer one flower or a really small bouquet. Roses get stupid expensive this time of year so something else (ie for me, gerbera daisies are my second favourite flower and are typically fairly cheap, compared to roses and lilies at least). It could be a really sweet move though... depends on the girl. I'm not her so it's not like I can say whether she'd like it or not.
Paper folded myself, I had a real bad experience once, with this girl I was with for a while, we where involved sexually, and it was casual, but she would stay over alot, well she was going to this concert, and I really liked this Indian store intown, well a few night's before I asked her if she would rock a saree for me witch she seemed pretty excited about, so I got her this saree to wear to the concert and for me, well she freaked out about it, thinking it was a sign of commitment or dare I say LOVE, I'm a little scared from that experience, so thank's for the replie's anyway, THANK YOU PEACE
What about my friend, who's a very talented painter. He's had myriad gallery exhibitions and shit... Anyway, he does this computer graphics thing for someone whom he's had a couple pleasant dates with... I mean, the thing was beautiful: this abstract image of a contorted angel ascending and illuminated. He leaves it with the doorman in her building (he'd already been to her house by that point, but nothing affectionate had come up). Well, she proceeds to drop her gift with my friend's doorman, without as much as a thank you or sorry note, with the gift-wrap ripped off and disappeared. Never as much as a phone call. I'd be careful if you think she's one of those women who'll break a guy's heart apart and show no remorse. TONS, of them exist as well as men.
I think that's so sweet, and I know I'd feel honored if I recieved a gift like that from someone I was fond of. If she freaks out (which to me would just seem odd) without giving you time to explain or taking time to understand, then maybe you should reevaluate if you even want to be involved with a flake like that...
Okay so my friend and I have been hanging out more, I think she's great, she pretty much, exactly what I look for, well physically at least. Mentally, spiritually, and socially, maybe not as much so, but I'm trying to give her the benefit, of the doubt, in that if anything become's of our sitation she would be open to change and grow, she seem's like it, some people just get caught in the rat race. I feel we have a genuine connection, you know the kind, you feel with someone, right away, that make's it easier to just say anything, but here are the problem's , she's very materialistic, witch is not my style, because of teh amount of waste that goes along with it, we both like nice thing's though. Second last night, I asked if she wanted to watch gandhi, first off she didnt know who gandhi was, I guess I can handle that, but when I tried to explain him to her, she thought it quite funny, and I took some offense to that, but again not that big of a problem, I'm a barefoot carefree, simple, not wanting to start drama, she enjoy's drama and love's the chance to start it, teh list goes on almost day to night, but she just seem's like she's caught in ther rat race, we talked about work and life and she said about a million time's I don't know what I'm doing, refering to work and life, she work's way to much I think. So that leaves me with this problem or decision, I know myself, so I'm about taking it slow, but if we get involved, more, I think that if she revert's to her old way's and causes drama, in my life it could really hurt me, and I'm just not sure if, I can risk losing time, or going backward's. There's so much more but I don't want to post all the drama right know, because I'm still thinkingabotu it, I don't know just an update,
You say you have a genuine connection. What is that connection? What do you guys share in common and how important is it to each of you?
Well that's the thing we don't have to much in-common, but we have a connection ,in a way like we can just talk about anything effortlessly, and were both at a point where growth, is an important aspect, of a possible relationship, and even though where different we understand each other, it's hard to explain, I just feel away, about her, that I don't feel to often, we have great, and cute conversation's, last night she said," When I think of you I get butterflies in my stomach, no wait there more like dinosaur's, terradactyl's." and then made a dinosaur noise, it was the cutest thing I've ever heard. We are going to spend the night together, tomorrow, I'm nervous, I don't know why I'm telling you all this, but anyway, I Love hip forumer's. peace
Good luck! Remember, connections/things in common, can also be DEVELOPED by open communication and shared experience.
Exactly, this feel's so different to me than anything in a while, in that way, I was talking with someone else for a while and didn"t feel anything like this for her, it's weird to, her voice and the way she speak's remind's me of people I've been attracted to, and had meaningful relationship's with in the past, it's interesting, does that happen to anyone else? Well thank's for listening I'm really excited, tis a good day indeed. peace
