a thought about being touched...

i thinking touching of anysort is unncessary unless you're my friend, my family,my girlfriend(she can touch me wherever she wants ) or we are being formally introduced...

other than that...please keep your dickbeaters to yourself...

this has been a public service announcement...

 

Were you beat up at school as a kid?

 

*Touches*


*Runs*


Wait... I'm your friend.... *sighofrelief*

 

I think a lot of people are too uncomfortable with touching.

And dickbeaters? Ahahahahahahaahaha. Hah.

 

i thought you would like that i was kind of kidding with the dickbeaters comment as the punchline...

 

Should I even ask?

 

it is a cultural thing. one of the defining things of culture in the anthropological sense.

most nonhuman earth species don't have this hangup. but you can almost never acurately and truely say all or never about anything.

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In Galway(Hippy capital of Ireland) there's always the danger of someone you've just met hugging you and then hugging you every time they meet you weather or not you ever become friends. It's really annoying! and if you don't get into it they look at you like you've spat at them. so I'm going to get lepresey and hyper aids that'll teach them.

 

Im with you all the way. Complete strangers touching me annoys me so much. Or standing too close and breathing down my neck
My heart races faster and i just feels damn uncomfortable and stressed. And its about respect. I dont invade their space, they shouldnt invade mine unless invited to do so
It takes a lot of trust, naturally, to allow someone to get so close as most uncaring people get to me in the street or in shopping queues without a thought about it

 

i don't dissaggree with you there. people who want to hug and be hugged should probably indicate this by wearing furry critter suits. this would also give them the anonymity of not showing their human face of even the form and gender of their body.

unfortunately a really good and lifelike looking fursuit is too expensive to make this practical for everyone.

on thing, it should be possible to indicate by broad an unambiguous social gestures that one is or is not in the mood to be hugged by random straingers.

the idea though, for people to be reasured and feel appreciated, is good though. that not everyone feels the same way about anything, does of course need to be considered and allowed for.

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I genuinely think strangers should assume you dont want to be touched until a decent relationship is built up or you show you obviously trust the person (exactly, gestures...he trouble is most people arent sensitive enough to read these)

It helps if you imagine a bubble around everyone just under a metre wide. Someone peoples are wider even, and some smaller, but we all have one, symbolically at least. You can prove it. Peoples heart races will increase, theyll sweat more etc when the bubbles invaded (unless youre one of those people who really just dont care at all or was raised with it) its there for a reason, to protect us from potential threats

I am a very open person and sociable too, i love meeting new people and i do believe closeness is important. But ill always respect a strangers personal space...who knows who the person is...they could have anxiety issues or something

Once you get to know me though im really touchy feely love a good cuddle

 

Barring my masseuse, other sportsmen, people I've had a minimum of two drinks with at that bar, etc.

 

I dont want people I dont know touching me...or even standing too close to me so I can feel thir breath. It just makes me feel uncomfortable.

 

i come from a land thats mostly flat and barely populated, so we generally have big personal bubbles. i like that. i like hugging my friends n stuff, but people i barely know shouldnt touch me. they also shouldnt call me by my name at work jsut because its on my nametag, unless theyre regulars who i like

 

Now where could you be from ?

 

I think non sexual physical contact is the most wonderful thing in the world. I love having good hugs with strangers and people just touching each other in a non sexual way all the time. It makes me feel healthier and less alone in the world, like being part of a real community where we can all be connected even if we don't know eachother that well.

Of course each to their own...but I feel a lot of societys are just too hung up on everything being about sex, evertime someone touches you it's sexual, everytime nudity is seen it's all about sex...and It's not that I don't like sex, but I don't think friendly touchingg, and nakedness all need to be about sex. I think sex should be about sex, and those things are just lovley and nutural...

But as I said before if people are not comfortable that's ok and what it is...I just really like getting to connect with everyone a little regardless of whether I really know them or not, and I think non sexual physical contact is really nice in that way.

 

I do have a lot of weird issues around men I'm trying to get over. When my foreign roommate and I started hanging out, he put his hand on my knee, and I shot him a death look before looking at him and realizing how innocent and friendly a gesture it was.

 

lol.
Was it a hot Italian guy ? They tend to do that....not that I mind.

 

Congolese guy. Just really friendly though. I didn't mind either when I realised he wasn't trying to get in my pants.

Now I wouldn't mind either way. Hehehehehe.

Oh, uh... nevermind.

 

Dont put bad thoughts in my head.....