I have friends that are 15 years apart (he is older). I have other friends that are 45 years apart (he went to Asia to marry a young woman from a poor copuntry) I have heard it said that age doesn't matter, that it is all about how the two people in question get along with each other. I have a 26 year old chasing me, and I am 47, but I can't handle that age difference. I am afraid that there will be not much to talk about after a couple of months of hot sex. I think we both deserve more. I aslo think that the age difference matters less the older the two parties get. If an 18 year old girl connects with a 50 year old guy, I don't think that will work, but I think that a 30 year old woman and a 55 year old man will be just fine. Just my opinion, and I hope something in this post will help you.
when i hear about relationships between teenage boy and an older woman it alwaus sounds to me like only-for-sex relationship
Well, that's not a very big gap. Sure she's older, but not by much. She's still two years out of her teens, which means they still should be able to find a lot in common.
I believe it all depends on the two persons involved in the relationship. There are people who behave in a much mature way that you would expect for their age and viceversa. I personally always been drawn to older guys, I think it has to do with the fact that I didnt grow up with my dad.. I look for that make me feel safe and protect me quality in my partners. The first guy I ever had a relationship with was 25 and I was 15, we still talk to each other and I always feel like Im the grown person... it feels almost like he hasnt changed at all with time. After that I really took it far by having an affair with a married 39 yr old man, he has a daughter that is only one year younger than me and he hated when I brought that up. It went on for a month ot two, it was wrong, we smoked, we had sex and we argued all the time. I always felt like I was psychoanalizyng him and trying to make him into a better person, he is a horrible person... but I guess he had more effect and me and I kinda became horrible too. The last one was a friend of mine. We went on a sexual binge for like a week, locked in a hotel room just laughing and talking and having sex and we wouldnt get tired of each other and it was lovely and it was great... I guess I like guys I can learn from and I just you know love being in their arms ... and I've only orgasmed while having sex with older men.
I think age does matter, just not in the way people think. When people ask "Does age matter?" they usually mean, "Will the difference between our ages get in the way of our relationship?" If there is love, then of course we won't let it get in the way. However, it doesn't mean that it doesn't matter. Trying to really understand our partners for the purpose of maintaining and making the relationship grow involves examining everything about them including (but not limited to) their age so that we can have a better idea of where they're coming from. How much of a role does the age factor play varies with each relationship, of course.
i definitely don't think age matters. but when you're young age gaps seem to be this big deal, yet as you get older people don't give a shit. my mom's 5 years older than my dad and i'm 2 years older than my bf. not that drastic of differences, but eh.
good point about the legal age - & I think its really true - age does matter, but not like people think. this is really spot on:
depends on you as a person. i personally couldn't be with someone older than me by 5 years and definitely no one younger than 2. i have been experience with younger and found them to be too immature and a lot of drama. older, i feel past a certain age, there is always going to be gap between what that person has done and has achieved compare to what i have done. silly i know, but i never really been attracted to anybody older as it is, that is older than me by a large gap.
At first, there comes experience from yourself and what you've heard from other people and then - yes, it depends on you as a person AND your partner as well. If you are like crazy about him/her - age difference will be the last in your mind but if there's something about your partner, even the least problem - you'll start thinking about age in a moment too.
Age really does not matter. Maturity level on the other hand it huge. To me anyway. I met my wife when I was 25. The only thing I knew about her when we went on our first date was her name and phone number. I THOUGHT she was 20 or 21...turns out she was 17 but we dated for three years and have been married for six. If she was mature or I was immature is up for debate. But it has been a great ride and I wouldnt trade her for anything.
