Am I crazy or is he

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by boohippy, Jul 23, 2005.

  1. boohippy

    boohippy Member

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    All right so I need someone to tell me I'm not crazy! Ihave been dating this guy for a year and half. He is 18 and from London. I am 23. I though that being from the U.K. would make him more mature than 18 eyar olds here in US. So, here is my problem:

    Since we've been dating he's had 2 jobs, one lasting a month and the other 2 weekends. He has no drive to get a job. He doesn't mind me paying for everything, and when I don;t have money he gets really mad. I mean REALLY mad. Last night he wouldn't talk to me for three hours.
    And then when he says he's not mad at me, he really is.
    He also gets mad if I don't pat him attention all the time. We were at his mom's friend's house fro the 4th of July and I was talking to an older gentleman (try 70 something) and he was pissed because he wwas bored and IWas talking to someone so I owuldn't be so bored.
    He says he loves me...but I am strating not to believe it
    Am I crazy or is he seriously weird
     
  2. Shampoo

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    he sounds nnnneeeeeeeeeeddddddyyyy get rid off him you don't need that
     
  3. Maggie

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    You're not crazy, and he's more rude and immature than just weird. I say get rid of him and don't look back. He obviously values money and his own selfish whims more than you and the well-being of your relationship.
     
  4. boohippy

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    I forgot to mention I live with him and cna't afford to move out until Spetember October sometime. I am afriad he won't let me go.
     
  5. Shampoo

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    you might have to bring the cops in
     
  6. Maggie

    Maggie Member

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    Are you living at his parents house or is it just the two of you?
     
  7. Shampoo

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    true
     
  8. boohippy

    boohippy Member

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    we live with his mom and he doens't really weant to move out I don't think
     
  9. Shampoo

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    and hes eighteen? he sounds like a baby
     
  10. boohippy

    boohippy Member

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    I am thinking more and more that he is, I hope the rest of you good folk in the UK are more mature than he is.
     
  11. ydnim

    ydnim hiya

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    18 is 18 all over, and from what i have seen if they are like that now 19 probably won't be much better.
     
  12. makno

    makno Senior Member

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    thats a long time to put up with someone your wantin out of ....
     
  13. KozmicBlue

    KozmicBlue Senior Member

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    One's nationality has nothing to do with one's maturity.

    Anyway.. If you're not happy in the relationship, just leave him. You deserve to be happy and there's no point in staying in a relationship if you're not happy.
     
  14. hiro

    hiro pursue it

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    I agree 18 in the UK is the same anywhere else. I say do what is going to make you happiest. If you aren't happy then move out.
     
  15. Oz!

    Oz! Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    Probably not......but we don't all leech off gullible women.
     
  16. sara_rose

    sara_rose Ice Queen

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    agree! he sounds really immature. but like kozmic said, if you're not happy. there's no point in staying..
     
  17. Silver Salamander

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    He's an asshole, and you know it......AND, whine all you will, THAT is what you like about him.


    You can choose to snap out of the 'asshole magnet' mode, or lie in the bed you have made for yourself. Tell me, what do YOU want to do about it?
     
  18. babybud420

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    Well, sounds like to me he has some serious anger issues. No matter if he has a ride or not he should atleast TRY to get a job. Are ya'll living together? I mean, he can't expect to live off you forever. And, not talking to you for 3 hours over a money problem is immature. Sounds like to me that he should grow up some, tell him how you feel and if he gets mad...tell him that is the exact reason why you're talking to him. Just tell him how you feel. Personally, if talking to him didn't help...id leave him. You're not crazy.
     
  19. Angelhair

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    It sounds like he is still very young and expects you to be like his mother WRT paying for stuff. I hope you don't do his laundry! About the party incident, I think he sounds self-centred and impatient, but that is common for most teenagers. With maturity you learn to consider others more. I don't think its a matter of him not loving you, just being immature.
     
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