So it seems that my almost 2 year relationship is over. The other day me and the other half got into it about how I was not happy that she had been slacking on trying to get a job in town... Sunday we got into a conversation that I started about how I had been having fantasies and urges about fooling around with a guy.. strictly curious sex.. I figured she would understand since before she was with me she had been in a 15yr lesbian relationship and had experimented with a couple guys here and there... And she seemed fine and understanding of the idea as she knows I do not find men attractive nor would I ever have a relationship with one... I also confessed that about a month ago I had basically "cybered" with a guy.. I explained to her that I thought of it as no more than "looking at porn" as we continued discussing I realized that it was more serious than that.. the self proclaimed sex addict did not originally see the issue with it.. So anyways by the end of the night it seemed everything was cool.. we had fucked a couple times and she was off to work. Monday seemed perfectly fine.. no weirdness or tension.. or so it seemed.. Today started out fine.. everything seemed cool... I had to go to Walmart to get a new toilet seat and TP.. So i told her and left... On my way to walmart I decided that it was too nice of a day to not fish.. So i sent her a text telling her I was gonna go fishing for awhile before going to Walmart.. fished for maybe 30min as nothing was biting.. go to walmart.. come home and she is acting weird.. I ask her and shes like nothing.. finally I'm like "what the fuck is your problem?" because I am just sick of the moody bullshit she pulls some days.. And she goes "You were gone a lot longer than I expected and did not see your text message til a couple minutes ago" aka... "I thought you were out cheating on me".. So I go "If this is how its gonna be after our conversation the other night then we're fucking done!" So what the fuck? I thought I had finally found someone I could confide in and I could tell her what was on my mind.. figured she would be understanding about it.. which she seemed to be.. but nope.. and now I just really want her to find a job and get the fuck out of the house.
Dude, you overreacted. I mean, if her trust issues are such that you can't go fishing without her freaking then maybe you should've talked to her, but you breaking up with her on the spot did nothing to ease her fear.
There is no person who can fulfill all the ideals you have for them and we cannot hold them responsible for a role that we have assigned them to play. That simply turns you into their jailer, and you in turn become imprisoned by suspicion. The real beauty of relationship comes when two whole, separate, and individual persons share their time with each other.
obviously there's more to it than what was posted. it definitely sounds like something's not clicking like it should be in that relationship.
Maybe the ideas and desires you introduced to her in your convo on the weekend made her feel a little insecure, as though you might be looking for something different, aside from what she can offer you. Perhaps her ego is still adjusting. It'll probably all blow over man.
I would try to agree on some regular, but flexible, "me time" when I answered to no one but myself, unless it was an emergency. And that is why, on the one hand, I would also insist she moved out by a certain date (job or no job). However, as previously mentioned, it seems the change was so abrupt, there might be things you aren`t talking about. Like the 56 times you had to change the light bulb and she had misplaced the ladder, etc. j/k Good luck!
Yeah, IMO you blew it. Think about it for a second. First you probably took her by surprise by confessing your curiosity and interest in fooling around with another guy. Then you tell her you also "cybered" with some guy (essentially cheated on her). Of course the next step in this progression would be an actual encounter with another guy. YOU are the one who put any doubts or suspicions in her mind dude! Most likely she hadn't even seriously considered that you might "cheat" on her, whether with another man or another woman. Then you spring all that on her and basically tell her you are "looking" for something different than her or at the very least curious about something different than her. YOU put any insecurities about your fidelity into her head. What the fuck did you expect?
I find it hard to believe, that this the first time you brought up getting some guy action. If the action is all you required, why then haven't you shown your GF you can stick 2 DD batteries up your ass? .. It would lean more to wanting some other type of affection is it wasnt just that.. y u no cidersec wif me?..
lotta personal shit in here...the new toilet seat and TP cracked me up. regadless of the whole curious and cybersex thing..i think you over-reacted to her comment. if walmart is nearby, she was thinking you'd be home soon, and another 30 mins was sort of a lot. maybe she was just bummed... but is apologizing for your over-reaction gonna fix everything?
Why do we do the things we do Are we born this way or are we self made fools We shoot the lights and then curse the dark We need their love but we break their hearts And we know the words that will bring them back But we don't say nothing as we watch them pack We had to work to be the jerks we've come to be... It ain't easy being me...
You both overreacted. How you can make a fight out of such a little thing is beyond me. You both need to chill and give each other some breathing room. Then just be done with it. But I have to say your post doesn't make much sense to me. Either you an idea of what you want or you don't.
