Alright, this is probably the same old song and dance to most of you. My problem has probably been posted a million times, but apparently I didn't get the memo... OK, so I'm seeing two guys that I really really like a lot. Before things get any more serious (or complicated!) I think I had better "pick" one. They both have expressed a greater interest than "just friends" and I haven't expressed anything at all. I like both of them for very different reasons and both are very great people. One has a very DIFFERENT personality than I do, but accepts me for who I am and is very open minded (Think Dharma and Greg). The other has a VERY similar personality to mine and we can relate at a different level than the other guy and myself. The "similar" guy, however, is leaving for the Navy in October. This makes me nervous, but I don't think it's a reason not to "pick" him. I hate the idea of "picking" someone, like I'm a kid and they are just toys on the shelf at the store, but I can't think of any other way to say it. I'm not the kind of person that likes to play games and I've already kept this up for too long. Anyone have any ideas? They each have qualities I find desirable in a person, which makes it even more difficult. All this seems so juvenile, but I promise you, the feelings run a lot deeper in each direction..
Okay, here's what ya do. Make a list for each guy: likes and dislikes. From there, you should be able to see more of where your feelings are. If that doesn't work, I kindof agree with the other posts...people who have different personalities work well together, when they're open to learning more about the other person. And if the other guy is leaving for the Navy...it would take a little stress away from the situation, because long distance relationships really bite. Good luck with it all. Peace & Much love