ok, i have quite a hard time with approaching woman. im very shy and things get really awkward. im ok once i get to know a girl, but those first steps to actually striking up a conversation and making it interestin seems so hard for me. especially now that im starting university, its going to be difficult approachin woman ive never met or seen before. a friend of mine gave me a tip once saying "try and make her talk about herself as much as you can". i find this easier said than done. any advice will be much appreciated.
^^^Ditto There is no magic cure for curing shyness. Its funny because Im a really self-conscious person, but Ive forced myself to just get over it and talk. You'll find the more you do it, the easier it gets; practice starting conversations with anyone you meet, not just people you find attractive. Also, the thing that I try to remember that helps is that almost everyone in the world is happy to meet new people. I havent met anyone who on the first casual conversation has intentionally tried to make me feel bad. Peace
I'm very bad at it myself. I have a friend who I am crushing on pretty hard right now, but just can't bring myself to convey that my feelings are becoming more than that as friends. I respect her so much and really value our friendship, so I just don't want to bring it up even if she is dropping signs. I'll even throw this out there, which I'm sure many of you would laugh at. I had eleven people staying at my apartment last night after a show, she was one of them. Most people ended up sleeping in sleeping bags on the floor. I had said to her, 'I don't mean this is a fresh way, but I have a quenn sized bed and you're more than welcome to half of it'. She slept next to me the whole night and I completely respected her space and didn't 'make a move'. Now I'm all hung up thinking well, she didn't make a move either, maybe she doesn't think of me like that or is it maybe she thinks I don't like her because of how I offered her my bed and kept my hands to myself. so um yeah, to the original poster, I know how you feel
just be direct...women aren't going to make the first move-rarely. You can usually tell by their body language what they want
i am a mack daddy and nobody can figure out why my secret is to be ok with being rejected i have been rejected hundreds of times and am no longer bothered by it when you approach a woman in a friendly manner but with the take it or leave it attitude you come of as confident without being a dick women dig confidence if you come off as nervous and what not it is usually a big turn off from what i have been told
thanks for the advice. its those first words that seem so hard. you feel so vulnerable and out there....even if i know the worst thing that could happen is i get a "No" or something.
remind yourself then that you are far more vulnerable far after the first words but you do not think of it because you are comfortable just relax and be comfortable with who you are you'll never achieve confidence until you achieve that
