Are girls only attracted to bad boys?

I've been reading it a lot lately. Especially things David Deangelo says. It's cuz I've had very limited sucess thus far in my life with girls.

 

No, that's bull. In fact, it should be in the 'pure bull' section.

Seriously, I can't blame you for beginning to think like that when it seems to be a tidbit of society you never quite see the full version of but it's just like saying all women prefer jocks, or artists, and so on.

Maybe it's partly true that some women like a guy with a bit of a rebel or cocky streak but I think more often than not they just see something that's not there, or that no one else can see. If you asked a woman if she liked bad boys she might say 'no' but then turn around and find herself attracted to one. People might tell her she's gotten into something rotten and she just refuses to see it. And in the case of actually liking bad boys, the old cliche about wanting to change him rings semi-true. I think what women want is to have that man fall for her and if he, of all men, can adjust his behaviour towards her, of all women, then she's really accomplished something and possibly for good.

I would always have said I like nice boys. Just plain nice. Add me to the list of girls who appreciates the 'sensitive breed'. But you know, there's no formula here. You're attracted to who you're attracted to. I could very easily accuse men of being attracted to only bitchy women. You know, that whole sassy, unattainable thing. But that wouldn't be fair.

Just hang in there. I'm sure you'll find someone who appreciates you as you are. Don't develop an attitude just for the sake of finding a girl. Attitudes should come naturally.

 

Uh, no. And who the hell is that David guys? Clearly, he doesn't know jack.

I've always like the good ones, actually. Eccentric, but morally sound, not too wacky.

 

im a good boy, I know alot of bad things..

 

I don't know what to think anymore, it's really crazy. David calls himself a dating coach. His full name is David Deangelo, google him. While I do agree that there's girls that like nice guys, I've experienced a lot of bad stuff with girls. I've been in the friends circle too much, didn't make a lot of moves quickly. David is helping in a way in that situatioon but I don't know. He charges a lot of money for his programs.

 

Yes and No.

They don't want a mother that's trying to nurture them. They dont want to constantly hear about your insecurities (this brings up negative emotions in THEM... never good), or hear negative things like "This weather sucks.... OH DAMN the t.v. broke!!!" They want a guy who puts out energy instead of being timid (alpha male). They don't want guys to "fix their problems", but simply reflect a deep steady love when they're troubled and understand that they're working out the kinks in their life (emotional support). They LOVE funny guys, guys who know how to tease but don't make them feel insecure. A guy who knows how to look into their eyes without saying a word, being comfortable enough with themselves to trade experience without words. A smart one, deeply intimate and giving, and stable. A guy who doesn't make you feel like you always gotta do something to earn his love, but lets you know that you always have it with the simplest gaze. They LOVE LOVE a confident guy, a guy who can walk into a room and make friends with total strangers. And as soon as he's done he comes right back to you.

That's what everyone wants. It's quite simple. Lady or Lad.

Really all you gotta do is enjoy life. Learn to love yourself first, love to have fun, be creative, confident. Once you start broadcasting that signal chicks on the same wavelength will be magnetized towards ya.

 

You might want to define specifically what you mean by bad boy. Like, what is "bad"? Bad can mean "evil/criminal/psycho/rape-and-murder-you" bad, or "naughty-and-mischievous-but-actually-nice-and-fun-and-i-wonder-if-he's-great-in-bed" bad. I think it's important to know the difference. 'Cause if you truly care about a woman then you definitely don't want to be the first kind of bad. On the other hand, the second kind of bad sounds interesting, yes?

yeah, I've read some of De Angelo's writings. Useful stuff, but ultimately it's all up to you. I didn't need to pay him as a coach in order to date the woman who I ended up marrying, but reading a little at least helped me not get stuck in the friend zone the way I did before when I was still madly in love with my best friend.

If you really think you need to spend time and money to be in one of his programs, go ahead. Keep in mind however, that the confidence you need to make a move is not something you will get from any program - it will still come from within you. David is right in saying he's a coach. Because all he can really do is guide you into bringing out your confidence - he cannot give that confidence to you.

 

YES! I agree with everything you say. :cheers2: And it's not just girls too, us guys also like strong women. Well, at least I do.

 

You are only 18 for cripes sake, slow down and develop a hobby. You shouldn't be reading some book that views women as people so simple that they only require some straightforward instruction booklet with a few well described steps and techniques. Those books are for lonely fat, balding 40 year old perverts who have never been laid and can't think for themselves one bit. How this dude has been created into a demi god is beyond me.

Girls who are insecure like "bad" people. Girls who are secure like guys with backbones and firm opinions, stances and decision making skills. Ones who can think for themselves without having to refer to some situational manual on how to act. Dumb girls mistake the second type of guy for the first.

Your first mistake is that you picked that trash up. Step one: Toss it. Step two: Forget everything in it. Step three: Start over again. Trust me, I have had success with women, the natural way without that shit. Just keep busy and do stuff. Than you can have things to talk about (travel, sports, LEGIT books) when they do come

 

ive always been attracted to funny and intelligent boys. But thats just me. I never liked bad boys because i never liked getting my heart broken.

 

I like guys who do bad things, But I like a nice guy. Nice guys finish FIRST.

 

No.

My girl doesn't seem to like my bad boy side at all =P

 

Agreed, bad boys are just heart breakers in costume. Nice, funny, smart, and guys who know how to dress themselves are very attracting. If a guy is dressed in dirty grudgy clothes it is a complete turn off. But a guy who knows ho to dress his body so his best feature show (Hint:muscles) always have me drooling. If a guy doesn't dress himself good, it is almost like you have to play mom to him and try to make him look nicer. No girlfriend wants to be a mom to their boyfriend!

 

That's all some girls want to do!

 

I find nice guys is another word for "boring" or "predictable" and bad boys is supposed to mean "exciting" or whatever. I dont want either. I want a guy who knows how to communicate, is mature, and who doesnt let me walk all over him. So I really just want a woman

 

i dont think its bad boys i think its the excitment that they tend to bring and the out of the ordinary milk and cookie boys are boring i think that girls say that they arent attracted to bad boys and perhaps there not but a guy whos exciting and different form most guys she knows will be more attractive

 

well i am that's 4 sure :/ i could tell y stories that would scare ur pants off!!! (no pun intended)

 

Excuse my french but that's a load of sheit if you ask me! Some girls are attracted to bad boys and they usually come with a similar background which is one of having parents which have rejected them a lot in many ways. They re-create what they know subconsciously. It's not every girl!!

 

I can tell you from my experience that men who are little standoffish seem to be more of an appealing challange... Nice guys seem a little flaky and as much as I would like to have a really nice guy there just doesnt seem to be that attraction. I want the guy to have his own life and be strong in that but sometimes it leaves me feeling insecure when that is exactly what I want. (!?) I wish when I was young I started dating really nice guys and that could have been my comfortable forte. I know that this is because of my relationship with my parents. Attachment theory states that the first relationships you have as a child set the stage for all future relationships. My parents where european, hardworking, and dismissive. Somehow my psyche craves that!!

 

nope, definitely not