Attraction (Poll)

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It's too easy to be good-looking. You're born that way. Personality matters more than looks. You're not born with a good personality.

 

Hehe I can guess what prompted this thread.

Personality, looks... there is a satisfactory medium to each in regards to casual dating.

Although I recently discovered it may be possible to have both

Looks have no reason to be much of a factor, if anything the looks should only hint at what truly matters - the character.

 

You forgot the most important thing - money.

 

Your born with the ability for sure...

Some people just try harder than others, some people were raised in a very social situation... whatever it may be, its part of being the best person ya can

Things seem to go most smoothly when people are simply not scared... fear is the enemy of personality.

 

It depends on what you get pleasure from... if you like the aesthetics of life... then looks will play a big part in what you look for.. where as if you like to converse with people.. the personality plays a big part..

most people get pleasure from both these things.. so i'd say most people weigh up the looks with personality

 

Its not quite that simple.

I love to look at a great car, doesn't mean I'd automatically date a stuck-up/airheaded supermodel... doesn't mean I would date her even if she wasn't, there is always compatability to factor in at some level.

Of course some people do buy into the whole fancy car/fancy women/fancy house deal.. generally to their detriment... just as some people buy into the good conversation thing, only to find it was a big fat load of bullsheet.

There is too much put into all this, the main concern doesn't have to be tracking down tonights fun time, just as it doesn't have to be an endless soulmate search... a focus on bettering ourselves tends to put us in situations with similar minded people - and thats where things get interesting

 

Both matter to me. But I suppose I am vain.

I will not seriously date anyone without a personality.

But I believe you can have your cake and eat it too.

 

Money is not an issue.

Money is easy to make for anyone with ambition.

 

How is this even a choice?

Of course everyone looks for both. When beauty is in the eye of the beholder, we are all, at the end of the day, looking for a hot broad in and out for a little of the old in and out.

 

Then ambition...which is character, I suppose.
So I'd say personality comes first.
But in order to notice someone and want to get to know their personality, this pesron also has to look decent.
So both.

 

good looks are very important to me, but i can't date someone with a bad personality.

 

after the initial attraction it's the personality that keeps people together. part of this is just our nature, we're attracted to certain types. it's not as simple as that certainly but that's the basics. looks attract me initially but if there's nothing behind that then it's sayonara sally.
enjoy your cake unknown.

 

you have to be attracted to who you're with. Looks draw you in. Personality is what keeps you with that person though.

 

Not my first or last concern at all.

So we are not all

Sounds like you would most definitely bang the hot airhead supermodel

 

Good looks gets my attention and good personality/character holds it.

 

There’s a lot more going on between a male and a female standing across the room from one another other than looks, it’s body language and unseen biochemical processes passing between the two of them, some on a conscious level some on an unconscious level


Hotwater

 

Looks don't last. Personality is what endures. If you love someone, they'll look better to you than anyone else in the world (love goggles?), and who cares about anyone else?

 

its that guy just mind fucked the shit out of me.
indeed.

 

when i become too ugly to get an attractive partner, or keep one, thats when i stop having sex.

even if i'm married. if he gets ugly or fat, its celibacy from then on out. love or no love.