Avoiding Parent Consent

Discussion in 'Women's Forum' started by laurenq, Apr 2, 2008.

  1. laurenq

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    Hey does anyone know how i can get birth control without parent consent?
     
  2. PeaceItOut

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    you do not have to have parental consent in any state. just go to your doctor, or local planned parenthood, and they will give you an Rx,and legally they cannot tell your parents.
    If something comes up and they find out, you can always tell them you were simply trying to regulate your period.
     
  3. laurenq

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    right so if i go to planned parenthood will they be able to pull up my med records and stuff?
     
  4. WanderingSoul

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    That's a load of crap. ^^ Go fuck yourself, TROLL.

    Lauren, I believe in some states you need parental consent if you're under 18. Why don't you call your local planned parenthood and find out what their policies are. If you do end up needing permission, ask your mom if you can go on the pill and give her some bullshit reason, like you need to regulate your period or you're getting bad cramps.

    Do you know for sure your parents would object to you getting bc?
     
  5. ava

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    i think your being really responsible about birth control don't have sex, including oral you will still have to use condoms. condoms stop STD's don't always believe your partner- you don't know where he was before you


    i agree with saying you have period problems. you might get lucky in your state
    and not need parental consent hope you sort it out are you sure your mum would say no?
     
  6. laurenq

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    hmm its not that i want to defy them its just i want to be responsible and even though my mom said i can tell her anything and stuff i dono if im ready to tell them so yea its not like im rebelling im just taking matters into my own hands
     
  7. laurenq

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    hmm thanks for all the help i just no my mom will be like no its too soon and ive allready tried the cramps stuff so thats not gonna work i dono i dont need it per se right now but i just now sometime in the future soon i will so yea i just want to figure it out

    i mean i know she did stuff and so she wants me to go to her but its just my parents will be really dissapointed and stuff so i guess id prefer them not to know
    im a pretty good kid and so they think im good i guess i dono

    thanks so much for the inputs guys!
     
  8. laurenq

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    im really thankful for all of your input even you argonmatrix!
     
  9. laurenq

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    nicely said i have to agree
     
  10. WanderingSoul

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    Parents are not always right.

    But I was referring to the nature of your post, in which you alluded to the fact that OP can't make decisions for herself, not to mention so judgmental and biased.
     
  11. His Eden

    His Eden Queen of Mean

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    You can go to a Planned Parenthood in CA as a minor and get birth control without your mothers consent. Be prepared to have a pap smear and pelvic exam when you go.

    Not sure I agree with going behind your mother's back, but it is your decision. I know if my daughter wanted to be on the pill I would want to know. It will come out sooner or later, probably when mom takes you to the doctor because you got sick and they ask "what medications are you taking." You have to be honest because some medications make birth control ineffective. Or lie, and then have a pregnancy scare or worse yet get pregnant.

    Having sex at 16 years old is not the "best" decision you could have made, but since you did make it you need to educate yourself about safe sex, std's, birth control, and whatever else you can think of. The ONLY person responsible for your sexual health is you!

    Here are some statistics for you to think about:

    * Three in ten teenage girls (31%) become pregnant at least once before they reach the age of 20 – more than 750,000 teen pregnancies a year. Eight in ten of these pregnancies are unintended and 81% are to unmarried teens.
    National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy

    * A majority of both girls and boys who are sexually active wish they had waited. Of those who have had sex, more than one half of teen boys (55%) and the majority of teen girls (70%) said they wish they had waited longer to have sex.
    National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy

    * Nineteen (19) million new STD infections occur each year, almost half of them among young people ages 15 to 24.
    Centers for Disease Control

    * One in two sexually active youth will contract an STD by age 25.
    2005 ASHA State of the Nation

    * Half of all new HIV infections occur among adolescents.
    2005 ASHA State of the Nation

    * In 2004, an estimated 7,761 young people were living with AIDS, a 42% increase since 2000, when 5,457 young people were living with AIDS.
    Centers for Disease Control

    * (March 11, 2008) – A CDC study released today estimates that one in four (26 percent) young women between the ages of 14 and 19 in the United States – or 3.2 million teenage girls – is infected with at least one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases (human papillomavirus (HPV), chlamydia, herpes simplex virus, and trichomoniasis). The two most common STDs overall were human papillomavirus, or HPV (18 percent), and chlamydia (4 percent).

    You can check out any of the facts stated on Google. Please do! Don't enter into sexual relations blind. With some simple steps you can protect you and your partner. Sadly, pregnancy is no longer the worst thing that could happen to a teenage girl. Be smart ans stay safe!
     
  12. Allonym

    Allonym cheesecake slut

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    well, i ended up going on the pill shortly before i even met my bf, to regulate my periods (the ewre pretty random and relaly f'in heavy when they did come). i told my mom that i wanted to go on the pill to regulate and lighten everything.
    i didnt tell her when i decided to have sex. i think i told her about 4 months after my bf and i started (which was like, 3ish months into our relationship, i think) and she figured taht after 6 months of dating at our ages, wed probably had sex already, but did appreciate me telling her. weve also ahd a really open relationship for years and years now.

    like Eden said, there are a lot of other potential problems with sex. get yourself tested for stds in your next physical. make sure your partner gets tested too. you reallyreallyreally dont want to catch anything, especially if its one of those incurable ones. ive always made my partners get tested before we even thought about going condom-less
     
  13. treehuggerT

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    As a mother of a daughter, I can tell you that I would by far prefer my underage daughter to get birth control behind my back than to get pregnant. I can totally understand not wanting to discuss your sex life with your mother. Still, don't forget to use safer sex practices anyway!
     
  14. Duck

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    If your mom told you you can tell her - listen to her!

    My girlfriend is afraid to tell her mom too, and I don't understand it.

    Also, if you are having sex with multiple people (or questionable people) - CONDOMS. Pills won't protect you from STDs.
     
  15. PeaceItOut

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    okay, this thread was NOT intended to be a fight on if she needs birth controll or not. If you feel that you want/need it, then go for it darlin'

    At planned parenthood they will basically do a little physical exam, ask you some questions to make sure that you are a healthy person, then they will give you the birthcontrol. I'm not sure if they give it to you directly or if they give you an Rx, but either way you will be able to have it.

    Best of luck to you darlin'
     
  16. imaginepeace

    imaginepeace Livin' the Dream

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    Most places will even give it to you free if you under 18. If your having sex your making the right call doll. Take your sexual health into your own hands. I waited to tell my mother, and when I finally did it went fine, but I could see why you wouldnt want to talk about your sex life to your mother.
     
  17. spinningtop

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    Hey Lauren, good on you for being responsible! No matter what age you decide to start having sex it's essential that you get birth control and learn about STDs etc, so you're doing the right thing. In terms of telling your parents, it's up to you, you don't have to tell them right away (I didn't for about 6months of being on the pill and in a sexual relationship). Sure they want the best for you but if you approach sex consensually, responsibly and with respect for yourself and your partner/s there's no reason to have regrets or wish you'd done it differently. Good luck honey!
     
  18. laurenq

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    wow thanks for all the great input and information!
     
  19. Duck

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    I still say I'd think about telling your mom, 16 isn't that young and if she's open with you and wants you to be open with you she probably won't be the sort to get disappointed. I think you are underestimating your parents.
     
  20. laurenq

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    probably but its just so awkward you know and they will be a tad bit dissapointed well my dad will at least
     

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