Becoming yourself

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by veroness, Oct 11, 2008.

  1. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    How did you guys become yourselves? How do you deal with being by yourself at home and learn to like yourself?
     
  2. stalk

    stalk Banned

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    Copious amounts of psychedelic medicine.
    learning/playing Music, art, isolation.
    meditation.
    accepting. blooming.

    hard to explain!

    sorry if that's kind of a weird answer...but it's true...

    just laying on the forest floor...
     
  3. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    i like your answer. thank you
     
  4. OstrOsized

    OstrOsized Member

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    I don't get the question... I can always deal with being by myself at home and I love myself and who I am.
     
  5. stalk

    stalk Banned

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    That's awesome, Ostr.
    I've known many people that didn't even know who they are...like when I was going to public school as a kid, hell, I didn't even know who I was...I wanted to copy what was cool etc...

    took a lot of metaprogramming. that's for sure.
     
  6. OstrOsized

    OstrOsized Member

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    Yeah, I can relate. I didn't always know myself or follow myself fully when I was young, such as middle school or the beginning of high school.

    I dunno, I guess I just found the things that I loved and somehow learned to accept and I try to live without regrets. Of course I don't always live like this cause no one is perfect, but I try my best for the most part.
     
  7. stalk

    stalk Banned

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    wise man
     
  8. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    meditation seems like a good start. who knew just siting and breathing could help you relax and just mellow yourself out
     
  9. opel diamond

    opel diamond burn out

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    veroness. ive been alone now for a week (not long i know) 9 to go before my boyfriend gets back. i didnt really know myself either, but already im getting to. some of stalks advise is good, also find something u enjoy that u get the time to do alone and expand it, create things and yea meditate....expand your mind, learn. anything. almost everything u do alone is sumthing ur going to want to do, no pressures from anyone else, so embrace that.

    how long are you alone for?
     
  10. snake_grass

    snake_grass Senior Member

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    i always liked walking around by myself in bushes

    well i guess i had some dogs on the way

    thats a good way to be by your self
     
  11. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    haha im alone for a long time. my boyfriend and i are trying to work things out and one thing that will help us, is that i find myself and be less clingly and have my presence help him grow. i have grown so much by being with him, but i havent been there helping him grow. if i do things more by myself and know what i like, we may end up with more things in common.
     
  12. opel diamond

    opel diamond burn out

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    good luck with it, hope it works out for u!
     
  13. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    thanks. so far ive been making great progress. i applied to our local community college today and set up a placement test, started up guitar again, and practiced mediataion techniques.
     
  14. stalk

    stalk Banned

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    check this website out

    just google

    allguitarchords

    you will love it...
     
  15. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    that seems like a good one. ever hear of chordfind.com? is like the same one but doesnt have songs
     
  16. Quoth the Raven

    Quoth the Raven RaveIan

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    One question.. who else would I be?

    I'm me, no more, no less.. I've always been me.
     
  17. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    well i guess i couldnt do it. i dont have the strength to sit down and meditate past all my thoughts. im so fucked
     
  18. stalk

    stalk Banned

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    what do you mean?
     
  19. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    i cant meditate long enough to have a clear mind. i just keep thinking and thinking and well its not my thing. its not meant for me
     
  20. stalk

    stalk Banned

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    there are many ways to meditate.

    if you don't like the traditional version, just play guitar :)

    p.s. try meditating high on ganja some time. only need to do it for about 10 minutes.
     

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