Been with Bf a while...yet have someone else thats crazy about me! Help!?

I originally put this in the love and sex forum but it may be more appropirate here. Ok if anyone has read any of my other posts they know my boyfriend has been an asshole in the past...and yes we are still together. But for about 5 months now...I have had this great guy at my work after me. My boyfriend dumped me at xmas and I almost went out with this co worker...but my dumbass got back with my ex. Now i would have to say my whole workplace is playin matchmaker and wants us together...even my family. And this guy is being pretty relentless...but I dont mind. I get all giddy and start blushing around him...*sigh*....he already asked me out knowing I have a boyfriend...but also knowing he doesnt treat me good. This co worker of mine is soooooo gorgeous and intelligent....romantic and we get along really good. But hes 23 and has never had a girlfriend...which i find odd. Yet the fact that he has never had sex and maybe wanted to wait for it...intrigues me somewhat ..I don't think I would mind not jumping into sex...a mistake I have made in the past. But anyway I had to turn him down...cuz I still love my bf. I am a forgiving person...and would never cheat cuz i know how it feels, as much as my bf has hurt me I still love him, but like everyone says..."wouldnt you want a great life instead of a good one?"...geeeeez I am torn...has anyone had this problem....lets just say, being in love with two people...or loving one and falling in love with another...before?? As much as I try to forget about the coworker....every time I see him I wonder if i can control myself.....and my boyfriend has no idea.

 

i found myself in a similar sitch....there was a guy i liked but he was attatched....now hes not attatched and wants to get together calling/texting/ it just doesnt stop...but now im with someone...and id never hurt him cause hes lovely and amazing...so i made my decision...but from what you have said your boyf hasnt exactly been the perfect partner....maybe if you try and kickstart the relationship with him you might forget all about this coworker ...if it just doesnt work then finishing it may be a good idea and arrange a date with this other guy and just see where things go (with no rush)...im glad you said you wouldnt cheat...not really a good idea!

 

good luck with it hun! xxx

 

Thanks....I just hope I make the right desicion...either way one of them is gonna get hurt...and that sux. And im not leading the coworker on...its just hard to conceal my feelings....like trying not to turn beet red when we talk...hehe....but he does too so its ok. In a way I feel guilty....cuz my bf said he considers cheating....like enjoying another mans company or conversation....I disagree...but then again he is really jealous. This co worker has never touched me! No hugs nothin! He has major manners....and I respect that. But well, if my bf considers talking cheating then hell I am a BIGTIME CHEATER! lol stoooopid!

 

tehehe....ah yeas..the beet syndrome!...we've all been there ...but in all honesty what you are doing isnt cheating at all (and i think ya know that despite what your boyf says) in life people have to interact with other people...especially if they work together!...and you havent even touched each other well that proves my point even more!...see i would only get jealous if there was some serious touchin' going on...but it seems like you are behaving yourself...trust your instincts to make the right decision...im sure it will work out fine...im sending positive vibes as we speak!

 

Well...my boyfriend is still acting weird. I go somewhere with my friend but find out her brother is driving and going too. My bf seemed ok about it until I got him and told him about my day. He was mad about the brother thing and said he was being nice to be cuz he liked me (her bro)...lol...then he gets mad cuz I didnt call him when he thought I would. He goes into this rant about "whats the point of being optimistic.."...kinda an I hate the world attitude...and somewhat seems like he expects me to get him outta that mood, I didnt think my job was to change his personality. Then he decides to go to sleep early cuz he had work the next morning. He calls me at 3 am acting really weird and quiet...to be honest I thought he was gonna give me bad news. So I said "your acting weird...are you ok?" He then got angry and proceeds to go on a rant about how I am labeling him and all I do is label things"....weird...he hs never brought that to my attention b4. He then said he wanted to come over (probably just for booty) and I basically told him there was no point cuz he had to go to work in a few hours. He got mad...we got off the phone and its been about 24 hours. He hasnt called me back. But I think I am gonna break it off with him. But I dont know how...and want to go out with this other guy...but am not sure if I should so soon....