Being a 21 year old virgin

I don't really talk about it much to anyone in actual life, nor on the webs much either but it has been causing me a lot of self-conscious issues.

I don't know how potential partners see it. I told one girl I was seeing and she seemed to dig it. I told another and she scooted out of my life shortly after.

I feel sort of like I am immature because I am a virgin, but I also feel like I can operate above temptations and the whole 'game' of dating and sex and BS that I try to avoid anyways.

I've had some menial relationships with girls before and have been intimate, etc i just haven't fucked - I feel like I'm missing out and it sucks because my inexperience has had less than appealing effects with girls I wish I could have pursued differently.

Really no point in this post, I just needed a place to vent...fucking gay.

 

sucks bro

get some tang

 

Your time will come no worries

 

No worries, you are still very young. I know how it feels though. I didn't even kiss a girl on the lips until I was 23. Now I have crazy sex almost every day and I found the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. So life can change very quickly. You are right, you are missing out, but it's only missing out if the right girl is there, and she obviously isn't. Don't even sweat about the tramps that ditch you because you're a virgin, they just want cheap easy cock to feel grown up. The right girl will be the one who can't believe how lucky she is that she gets to be your first. Keep growing in all the other ways.

 

At least your not 40. Just don't think about it lol join a virgin cluborsomething, mad ladies there

 

What you need is to experience something with a girl who isn't afraid to make the first move. This one guy I was with (who I ended up really caring for and still do!) didn't tell me he was a virgin because he was embarrassed... he told me AFTER we had sex and I'm telling you dude, it's all in your head. I couldn't tell for a second that he was, considering he gave me an orgasm and everything.

I wouldn't worry about your performance. Like I said though, you need to find a girl who isn't afraid to make the first move! They exist - I'm one of those girls, I have taken two guys virginities - when they've wanted me to of course lol.

 

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Don't worry about it purp...
This might sound dumb or cheesy but save it for someone special..

and take my advice about approaching that girl...
If a girl sticks her nose up at you because your a virgin then shes no good for you anyway.
You have plenty of time and most girls especially decent ones would appreciate you being a virgin. Just sometimes its hard to believe.

and what noela said.. great advice.
And same here i took one guys virginity.. its no big deal.

 

Thanks guys.

Yeah I guess I'm just sweatin something that makes me more unique and different than I already am (great, MORE things to make me weird )

I'm not really worried about my performance, I know I can get a girl off haha
I just wish that I was more experienced with how to actually navigate through the awkward first stages of any sort of relationship - I suppose that goes with the same thing, better with time (or not if I don't try)

I've just been racking my brain over this girl that I have had feelings for for the past year, though I managed to block her out of my mind (not completely) for a good 6 months. She's back in my life and I am afraid I am being too much of a friend...but I WANT to be friends with girls before I go any further - I want to be comfortable and know the person at least on an amicable basis. But it seems like a lot of girls want to go the opposite way, hoping to become good friends later.

I can't tell if this girl is telling me that she wants more from me or if she is just being a friend and trying to boost me up. I don't like getting gassed if I'm gonna fall on my face!

She is actually a girl I've told I was a virgin (it slipped when I was drunk and shit got weird) and she became more shady...but I think it was because of other reasons, shit she was going through in her life - breaking up with her boyfriend and other shit...in hindsight I am glad because I dislike being a rebound very much.

Anyways, I figure I'll tell her that I've been trying to keep my feelings for her down, but I just can't anymore. It's going to be unfortunate if she doesn't reciprocate because I fear I can't suppress my feelings for a girl and continue being friends with her again...it isn't healthy for my own psyche, right? Again I just feel bad, because I don't want to make it seem like an ultimatum or anything...either way I think that she would understand...this is part of why I am completely infatuated right now.

 

I was a virgin till I was 20. I would suggest you not let it bother you too much but I know that is easier said than done.

I do wish you the best though and hope you will update us with any progress.

Good luck x

 

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 23, and that was through being molested by a nymphomaniac twice my age. I was always pretty shy - and still am for that matter - but after that first time later experiences became easier.

 

Keep ya game tight, playa

There are plenty of fish in the sea

 

I wouldn't worry. I wish I had known when I was 21 how insignificant sex really is. Sure, it's fun, but virgin or not, having had hundreds of sexual partners or one, it's not going to make you any more or less happy (unless you get an STD from being a (man)hoe)

Your peers would probably have you believe otherwise, but they, like all of us, are clueless.

Anyone who stays in your life or leaves it based on your being a virgin isn't worth keeping around anyway.

 

no its not

 

I don't see that it matters.

It's a lot better to not be in that situation with anyone, than to be in that situation with the wrong person. If they mind it about you they're totally the wrong person.

But don't take my advice, I have a kid and if you do you might die a virgin.... so whatevers. Go clubbin'.

 

^no, you're wrong. it's much better to have sex with the 'wrong person' than to have no sex at all

 

I'm not worried about having sex with 'the wrong person'

I don't prescribe to fate and all that other bullshit that gets 13 year old girls' pussies wet.

 

......well then get off the internet and go get some.

 

Fate be real.

 

I'm also not worried about getting some just to say I got laid.
I don't believe in 'saving myself' but I also have enough self worth to understand that most girls that want to fuck me aren't worth the 10 minutes it takes for me to get to that point in conversation.

The only real thing about fate is what will happen when you allow life to unfold, and I don't enjoy too much taking a backseat in life.