Being a girl

I usually dont complain about it because really there is no point in doing so. But dont you just hate it when you are so objectified and made feel uncomfortable?
Las night I was in a concert and it was so fun, a total trip, there were some that where a little too fucked up, but who cares? you do your thing, Ill do mine. I was standing almost at the front with my roommate and her boyfriend and I was just dancing so much and really enjoying the music, everything was great but sometimes, well I dont hate being a girl, I just hate some guys.. argh... Im not there looking for anybody or anything at all, Im just with the music and my friends, everything else is almost nonexistent, but this one guy, he just stood behind me, like super close behind to bluntly stare at my ass, not look, stare.. directly. I mean he was a lot taller than me and he had his head lean down.. staring at my ass, while grabbing his chin with his hand.. like concentrated on it.
I mean you always feel when someone is staring at you, so I turned around and I see this and I dont say anything, just gave him a very nasty look.. but really what Im I supposed to say..." please dont stare at my ass, you are making me feel uncomfortable"... suddenly I just didnt feel comfy dancing or anything, was all inhibited, but at the same time I didnt want to move from there because why should I? So I just ignored it until a couple of song afters he went and started dancing with these crazy girls (thank you crazy girls) but is just something that always seem to happen to us girls in public situation and something we always have to deal with in one way or another and Im so tired of it.

 

some guys are so effed up. that is awful

 

Sometimes it hits me what the average attractive young lady must go through in a given day. To be stared at, glared at, and lusted for over and over and over must get old pretty fast. Sorry to hear you were annoyed!

 

Yeah it does suck. It's like you become a thing instead of a person, but still was a great concert.

 

Ugh I used to work in the club district as a promoter and i quit because of those problems of awful drunken pig men. that and i hate the club scene.
Next time, Iliana, knock him out!

 

wow that must have suck...
yeah Ill work on my karate chops hahaha :tongue:

 

Actually, what's wrong with saying "Hey, would you mind not doing that? It's making me uncomfortable". Sure, it's a long-shot, but it has to be better than avoiding the problem. At least he knows he can't get away with it completely.

 

As I guy I always want to do that but I don't cos I can imagine how it would creep out the girl I'm admiring. It's got to the stage where I feel guilty about even glancing. The thing is some times it's exactly like my eyes are doing their own thing and I have to keep stopping my self. Yesterday I was talking with a workmate and each time I looked at her I started with her chest for a flicker and then to her eyes and each time I thought to myself that next time I'll start with her face and stay with it. but each time! oh well. just know that most of us don't want to disturb you and would stop If we realised how often we get caught in the act.

 

I know is not ALL guys. But a lot of guys and there are many different degrees to it, some are just like whatever you know... but this guy was beyond tolerable.
To plastic bagism, well maybe... but this guy was just soooo rude and just soo annoying, rhat it was not worth it. He just had this really bad attitude and I dont think it would have made a difference in fact I just wanted to avoid any interaction with him.

 

I am totally clueless when men look at me. When I'm out with my friends, my mom or my sister, they're always like "oh my god! that guy was just staring you up and down!" and I'm always just shrugging it off because I never see it.

Except this one time when I was at a mexican resturaunt with my parents and the waiter was just staring down my tanktop the entire time. Like, literally he would be taking my parent's orders and just be staring at my chest. It made me feel so self concious and uneasy and VERy VERY uncomfortable. So uncomfortable that I havn't gone back to that resturaunt since. ANd I hate to let something like that keep me from living my life, but it's just ew.
I hate it especially now when I notice because I'm no longer single and that just makes me feel....bleck.

So, men are pigs ( not all!! just 98% of them ) and it's just something we as females have to do with. Guys think with they're penises and that's all there is to it.

 

We don't think with our penises but we do consider their opinions in all decisions. perhaps if we had a 5 minute window in every day where we could just look it would help us to be less bastardly. say at 3.40 a whistle goes off all over the world and we can stop pretending then at 3.45 precisely we stop staring and there will be punishments for transgressors. or what about just one day a year? all men will sign a contract promising to grow up and stop perving the rest of the year.

 

hahahaha
but really I dont have a problem if you are looking at me or whatever, just dont make it so obvious that it becomes uncomfortable. Maybe this resolution of yours is the solution :tongue:

 

Some guys are just assholes like that. Its one thing to look, its another to totally be gross and oogle like that and make someone uncomfortable. I totally know how you feel though... ever since middle school I've been dealing with such crap. I just brush it off (or flick them off) and if something is really bothering you then don't be afraid to call them out on it and say "excuse me, but you're making me really uncomfortable, could you not stare at me like that?" Whatever reaction they give you, at least you called them out so that they know they are doing something innappropiate that makes you uncomfortable.

 

exactly. I mean It's nice that men find me attractive, and I don't mind if they look at me, just not staring me down. THAT is out of line.

 

Its also how you dress too that attracts guys EYES as well. If you don't want attention don't drag yourself in the mudd and wear something overly revealing.

 

I was expecting to get this reaction. I was wearing pants.. normal pants, well they were purple but besides that, just pants.
There's a difference between getting atention and being completely disrespectful of the other person.

 

Yeah and I hardly ever wear revealing clothes. Firstly I don't have cleavage so it doesn't really matter if I wear something low cut. I don't wear bras but that is for my comfort, not for attention, why should I get gross looks? I wear skirts sometimes but HONESTLY whenever I put on a skirt all I can think about is the gross looks I will get from guys and you know what? That fucking sucks. Fuck them.
So really.. it doesn't matter.

By the way purple pants rock! I'm wearing green pants right now

 

just take solace in the fact that the guy perving over you probably has been and robably will be single for a very very long time. i hate sleazy bastards like that. im not a saint though i will check a girl out without even thinking about it but i would feel uncomfortable staring lol

 

I check out girls too man... I don't mind if somebody looks at me at all, people always look at me whether they think I'm good looking or just weird or maybe they just look at people, that doesn't bother me. Its just the gross looks or the long staring. I love to look at people all the time but I do not ogle anyone.

 

Great, well thought out and intelligently argued comment. I bow down to your wisdom, oh Oracle of experience.

Some guys are dicks, some guys aren't. It boils down to that, same with girls. If you're convinced every guy's staring at you then it's probably for a reason or you just need to get over yourself. I can understand it's uncomfortable if they're being an ass about it but assert yourself and don't be intimidated. Personally, I can't be attracted to someone at least until I've heard them open their mouth.

What I don't like is girls who come up in a club or party and such and expect you to kiss them and let them be overly flirty just because you're a guy and you obviously think with your cock. If a guy does that it's harrassment, if a girl does they're just having a bit of fun. That's an instant turnoff no matter how pretty they may be.