Being comfortable with ones sexuality

I realised that I have been honest to myself about my sexuality for nearly twenty years now, I've never lied about it, i've never come out of the closet so to speak, people just accepted myself and my partner and I've never felt ashamed or wondered if I was anything other than gay.
the only thought patterns I did have a few years ago was of the kind that I just thought my life would be so much easier if I was straight, however after experinceing straight people and their relationships, I know this isn't the case, OK their sexuality may be more acceptable by society, however they still go through the same struggles with their sex and sexuality as anyone of any sexuality, thats what life is like.
so my questions are aimed at men and women who are bisexual or gay, have you struggled with your sexuality, if so why do you think this is the case and if you haven't why also?
S

 

Actually , No , Ive always known and been fine with the fact that I prefer ladies over men. Ive never felt like I wish I was totally straight , and I never came out to my family other than My Mom figuring it out because i didnt date guys. The only time I ever felt bad was when I watched my youngest son go through being persecuted for being Bi , and I wished he was straight so he wouldnt have to deal with such an issue.

 

i had a thought today as i stood in a crowded elevator full of very ordinary seeming people: i wouldn't want to be ordinary.

i think it's fun to be different, it's like getting to live a lifestyle that most people can't even imagine. I think of it is a bonus.

it's been a long struggle to reach this state of mind. i used to doubt myself at every turn, but i've learned to celebrate the person i am.

 

Yeah, I struggled against my sexuality when I was a kid. I fought like hell to deny who I really was although from a very young age on I was attracted to other guys far more than girls. I grew up in a a very conservative era and area. There was NO information to be had about being gay save for the condemning hatred of church and society.
To be a "queer" was far lower than a thief or murderer. Queers got beat up, abused, ran out of town or worse. They were vile and dirty, eveyone hated them. Holy Mother church promised a hot spot in hell for the likes of my kind. As far as I knew then, there were very few Queers in the world because nobody who was decent would "choose" to be Queer. I wondered when I had made the choice, I couldn't remeber a single instant of ever thinking I'd like to be Queer, I just always was. I became sexually active at an early age, being introduced to sex by an older cousin. Once I had my first sexual experience I knew what was right for me even though the rest of the world condemned it. My interest was already active and he helped fuel the fire. Took me years of internal battle, denial and grief before I finally accepted myself for just who I was. I am pleased to see a healthy change in the current social climate. It seems to me to be a safer and and easier experience for a kid to recognize himself and come out. There are far more visible gay role models and tons of available information. Yet I know it is still a very difficult issue for some to deal with, given that homophobia lies just under the surface of society. Hopefully, in time it can be just what it is...simply another way for people to express their love.

 

Nah, not really. I realized I was gay at a really young age, before the idea of sex was even really involved, I knew I had a certain attraction to boys that I didn't for girls. And once I realized that meant I was gay, I had no problem with the idea. It never bothered me that it had a sort of negative connotation within society, I just knew that that was how I felt, so other people were just going to have to get over it...