Being more mature about sexual topics

I think people need to learn to be more mature about sexual topics. More open minded about how people explore sexuality in their own personal ways and not so judge mental about what someone else has done or is doing. I hear too often people are upset about something someone did in their past. Why can't people just let others have their journey? This isn't your life to live for someone else. It's not up to you what others do. And it's okay to do wild things if you so please.

 

Unfortunately, popular religion teaches that everyone else needs to be judged.

 

yeah, don't ask questions if you can't except the answers

 

Popular religion also teaches that we all came from incest but that's another forum topic

 

Here's my opinion:

Society has conditioned its people that way. Humans have been conditioned to function as pack animals, which we may be in a biological sense, but what it also does is it encourages us to follow others. Instead of you walking your own unique path in life to excess as a person, you are expected to follow societal standards. When you choose not to, you are branded all kinds of things. It's unfortunate. I feel your frustration. -__-

 

Very well said. :sunny:

 

teeheeheehee, you said sex.

 

I'm suspicious of this statement put so generally, because I've heard it said by many women who are exactly what they claim not to be: close-minded about sex.

Lots of sexually liberated people out there in theory, who come down on you like a pack of wolves when you put the theory into practice.

 

And if you don't like the topic don't enter the forum to rant about the people who do.

 

It may come down to morals to an extent. For example, I'm not ok with being with someone who I know has raped someone or who is a child molester. Other then that...I can't think of much that would shock me into such anger.

 

The topic came up a few times this week. On the radio I heard a young girl was going to break up with her boyfriend because 5 years prior he had a home made porn of himself master-bating online with another man or something. I just don't understand why the big deal is beyond immaturity. I am looking for real opinions because it seems common that people get upset about their significant other's past.

 

Generally, people like to judge. I've begun to see that people are compulsive about being judgemental. It's their go-to reaction. Since I'm human myself, I try analyze why we want to look down on others. The cliche answer is: people are insecure about their own place in life and therefore want to interpret someone else as inadequate. I refuse to be so simplistic. A common theme I have in myself is aggitation how the choices some make can affect my life. If I attribute that to others however, then it would be acutely episodic, and theoretically the judging would end. What happens more though is a systemic chronic state of judging one another. Does it boil down to it being human nature that we don't know how to be indifferent or neutral?

 

Fear? Maybe there is fear about how his propensity for homemade porn masturbating to another man might affect their present sexlife.

 

It's possible. Our emotions and irrational behavior are always getting in the way of simplicity.

 

any chance OP is in a relationship with this: http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=464739&f=65 guy?

 

No chance. I'm in a relationship with a 43 year old man. Not a 22year old young man. No chance. I drew the line at men no younger then 24 for a reason...yeah

 

Sounds open minded to me

 

There you go. This is almost invariably the case nowadays, that the women who claim to be open minded about sex are the most callously close-minded and manipulative. You've heard it here first.

Another princess makes her way into my IL.

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Edit1: Sexually liberated is code for attention whore; love is code for having a doormat you can control; and mature, by the way, is code for a guy who pays.

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Edit2: 24, lol. Couldn't she at least have rounded it up to 25?

 

I don't have anything in common with 20 year old boys at age 30. Get over yourselfs

 

This topic isn't what age will you date. The topic is judging your current significant other for their past.