hello im gay and im in love with my best friend.i dont know how to tell him. please give me some advice
Does your best friend know your gay? Because if he doesnt than coming out and coming on to him at the same time might intimidate him and push him. Now, you dont want that do you? First come out to him and see how he takes it. Afterall, you dont want to lose your best5 friend. And it is a good possibility that since you two hang out all the time, that might be what your in love with. I hope this helps you and I will check back to your thread for your response. Take care, be safe and take it easy and slow.
I saw this post and so I joined up to reply. I actually thought I was the only one that could fall in love with his best friend, I'm glad I am not alone! My best friend didnt know I was gay for what seemed like an eternity, and I just couldnt shake the feelings I had for him. It wasnt untill we went camping together last September when I reaised I couldnt let it go on as it was. So a couple of months later I eventually told him everything... through email. As we were both at University, it was how we were staying in touch. His initial reaction was fine, though I had to give him space to get his head sorted. When we attempted to go back to normal, it quickly became apparent he wasnt coping with the information well, and I broached the subject with him... in the end he decided that keeping in contact was "not worth it". Shows how much he cared, eh? Anyway, in the end, though it has been hard and I miss him, its allowed me to see the world through a more realistic lens, and I know that ultimately I am happier now (though it may not feel like it sometimes). Anyway, I would recommend a letter or something, just so you can explain everything to him, as I know your head is probably swimming with "what if's" right about now. Hope that helps a bit.
I had this very same situation actually, I didn't know it had ever happened to other guys! When I came out to my pal he was really cool about it actually. The same night I actually plucked up the courage to tell him my feelings for him too. Although he said he was flattered but straight, he kept sending strange mixed signals to me for weeks afterwards. In the end he decided he wasn't really sure of his own sexuality, so we had a bit of an afternoon of experimentation and he was amazing about it all. Even though he said it felt really awkward, it helped him realise he was straight and helped me realise I definately was gay So, although some friends might take it the wrong way, don't think all will. Send out feelers to your friend first, is he open minded, etc, does he have any other gay friends etc. If he's as good a friend as he sounds, he could just be very flattered and cool with it like mine was.
This is an issue that I am surprised I haven't come across too often, but it has to be very prevalent. Personally I think this has to do with the closeting issues that gay and lesbian people come across. Personally I am also going through this issue with a good friend of mine. I am gay, he isn't, or as far as the public can tell. With my situation I am not sure who knows I am gay and who doesn't. It got out at work and spread around from there. My friend has acted differently around me since things got out (and we got back in touch around the same time). He is more concerned about me and such, but I am not sure if it is because we were out of touch for so long, or if he knows I am gay. He was convinced by a mutual friend (or should say an ex-mutual friend) not to hang out with me anymore for a reason I haven't found out yet. I guess this message is to let you know that you are not alone in this issue. I dont have much advice for you as I am struggling with this too, but I hope to let you know that there are people dealing with it too. What ever the outcome over all just know life moves on and there are people out there that will love you even if your friend ends up not working out. And if it does work out that is GREAT and I wish you luck either way.
i can so relate im kinda inloved with a friend of mine he has an ill body and i just wanna gobble him up but its hard to make a move especially when you know all the same people and you know if it dosent go well they are all going to find out about it. what i had always planed to do was hang out alone with him for a while maybe make it a regular thig like on fridays yall go to the movies or something or just like hang out every friday and then after a while u will feel closer and it will be easyer to find out if he feels the same or to get him to experiment with you lol i feel i should say nothing because i have always chickened out
somehow it doesn't surprise me that you're from Paris Anyways, just go skinny dipping with him and jam your cock in his asshole when he's not looking. Problem solved
Dude, There are two issues here. None of which you want to elaborate on too much. #1 You are gay. Cool. Come out to your friend, once the time is right, and you feel comfortable about it. Believe it or not, most people do not really care, unless this somehow reflects upon them, too. Do not believe in the fallacy that your coming out will make you any more attractive to him (or to anyone else). Most probably, it won't. Your chances to get into his pants won't get any better just because he now knows that you are a gay dude... #2 You are in love with him Keep in mind that talk IS cheap. So, show him that you care the best you can. If he feels the same way, he'll find ways to signal that, too. Talk and love declarations will (or won't) come in their due time. Being gay out and about won't really get you any closer to him or to anyone else for that matter. If you happen to be out, cool; people will know about it. Yet, no one will choose to be your BF, FB, friend or even trick simply because you are gay. The first and foremost condition that overrules everything else is that they find you desirable. KD
