Body Image and the gay commuinity

Well its me again. My question is what is the Ideal thing for body in the male gay commiunity? and does it matter much? I would really like to know becuase I feel like Im too fat and what not. Im just wonder what you think about body immage. oh one last thing. What is the idealisim right now for the perfect BF?

 

Lord knows.

Anywho...The perfect boyfriend Meh. I think id have to scour the earth like Oprah on a charity craze if I were to find such a person.

 

I have a terrible self image.

 

There's no 'perfect' body image...it's subjective like all attraction.

 

There is no such thing as the ideal or perfect body image. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say. Personally, I LOVE fat guys. I generally find skinny people like Tom Cruise or whatever really unattractive. And dont worry about your weight - when I was your age I used to be really short and tubby, but I have stretched out now and everyone thinks that I'm skinny as hell. I still think of myself as a bit tubby though...

And I dont think that there is such thing as the perfect boyfriend either. Again, it depends on the person. I don't like guys who get into trouble etc. but I know a hell of a lot of people that love 'badboys'. Just take it easy. Don't worry - you will meet someone one day

 

just as an aside even if tom cruise wasn't really thin, he would still be a very unattractive person in my opinion
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There are so many different types of bodytypes within the gay community. Twinks, bears, jocks, etc. Every individual has a different view of beauty. What I find attractive you may not find attractive.

However, the gay community is very vain (This includes myself). People who are only concerned with looks aren't worth anyone's time.

 

I dont really understand what you mean by that. How is the gay community vain?

 

look at post starting this thread, its the vainist thing i have seen in a long time along with a 'look at me' photo, but then he's only 14 so he has a lot to learn
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What don't you understand?

 

Did you just call yourself vain?

 

It takes differnt strokes for different folks. As long as you are happy with how you look, then someone will find happiness in you as well.

 

Mushie - I didnt understand why you said that the gay community is very vain. Surely it depends on the person and you cannot make such generalizations?

And the next thing you said: "people who are only concerned with looks aren't worth anyone's time" - I now understand what you meant by that, but didnt understand how it related to the previous statement about how gay people are very vain.

 

I mean a little bit. I care about clothes and my hair.

But I don't think it's any worse than the average guy.

 

Oh, come on people.

Im sure that none of us could ever be physically attracted to someone the size of the mother from Whats Eating Gilbert Grape.

xD

 

I don't find that to be vain, my dear.

 

Why not? It feels like a water-bed but without the expense and high electric bills!

 

eh...i have horrible body image. i KNOW i am skinny, but since coming to college i may have put on maybe like...1.5 pounds, and it freaks me out and i'm always trying to lose weight.

i'll get over it..eventually

 

Oh my

 

I would be very careful that doesn't end up being a problem, anorexia is on the increase in young males, the obsession about body image doesn't help this
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