okay, well my boyfriend was a virgin until me, and now he is all up for sex, and its a good time and i enjoy it and all....BUT it he is the only one getting off.(as a side note i have never had an orgasm) and he isnt really trying anything to get me stimulated as well...what can i do to make him more adventurous so i can enjoy it as much as him any suggestions?
try telling him that you've never had an orgasm and would like to.... you think that would be a serious blow to any male ego
Yeah let him know that you've shown him how good you are in bed by getting him off repeatedly. Ask him if he thinks he's stud enough to make you cum. That ought to pique his curiousity. Be ready to tell him how to do it. I mean be ready to give him specific instruction on where your particular "buttons" are that need pushed to make you cum. I think most guys want to be good lovers. Young ones just don't always know what that means. Besides, tell him that if he wants sex all of the time, that he better make the prospect of that, an attractive one to you. That should sink in to even the most brain dead among us.
exactly. as soon as you realize 98% of men on earth don't have any idea how to make women happy, you'll figure out you'll need to train them. that other 2%? they're gay. sorry. /seriously. train us. we're dumb.
are those your eyes? if so...well, enjoy using those to your advantage. if not, wear short skirts, it'll accomplish the same thing.
This is why I don't do virgins... You will definitely have to train him. I hope you like to give instruction! Be VERY verbal, through the whole thing... He needs lots and lots of feedback...
I'm feeling quite cynical tonight. I think you should break up with him, and tell him in very emphatic terms that he's a self-absorbed idiot and any guy to whom it never occurs to try to give pleasure to his girlfriend is a loser moron and doesn't deserve sex. Maybe he'll learn something for the next girl. Meanwhile, you deserve to be with a guy to whom something SO FUCKING BASIC occurs naturally! The fact that some guys need to be taught this shit means they're hopeless cases. -Jeffrey
he knows i have never had an orgasm, and we do have open communication, and cant even begin to know where to lead him
that's right we all missed that part...that you haven't ever had an orgasm. Yeah, you need to figure yourself out first b4 you'll ever be able to tell someone else what to do. He obviously knows what he likes. Just tell him to do to you what you like, or even think that you might like. You'll probably figure the rest out pretty quickly from there.
Maybe have him watch you masturbate, exploring what makes you happy might teach him a few things about how to please you. I don't know who said it, but I also don't do the virgin thing. All the guys I've hooked up with are experienced to some extent.
If I read the first post correctly, there are two issues: 1) How to stimulate you to orgasm. Neither you nor he have mastered this. Learning it together is a matter of experimentation. (I would recomend you masturbate alone as part of your learning. A woman would know better if this is a good recomendation.) 2) He is not paying enough to your pleasure. It will be hard to convince a newbie that orgasm is not the goal of sex. Playing body games would be an idea.
