boyfriend won't have sex with me

We recently had a scare because I thought I was late on my period but then I got it and everything is fine. But now he won't sleep with me because he said I lied about being pregnant, which is NOT true, I was stressed out because I THOUGHT I might've been pregnant, and turns out I'm not. Anyway, he says he doesn't want to sleep with me because now he just worries about me getting pregnant or me "lying" about it.


What he doesn't realize is any stress he was feeling about me being late, I was feeling it alot worse.

And if I were to hold out on him for over 2 weeks he'd be bitching so bad.

I'm starting to feel like complete shit about myself and I just don't know what to do.

Help

 

ok.

 

is there something wrong with me?

 

no, youre just having an axiety attack and need some dick. its probably normal. maybe you can just throw yourself on him. how longs it been since he has not talked to you, few hours, days..?

Go see him with some Condoms and a Case of Beer..

 

he lives with me.

 

in that case.. you should really do something sexy and appealing like masturbate out in the open. if he dont like it, maybe you need new bf. if you dont have kids and hes taking a shit fit because you thought you were pregnant..
Maybe he is not mature enough for a relationship full of responsibilities. your sexual needs are partially his responsibility to take care of.
he can always give you oral and rough finger penetration, assist with a toy. if he dont want to stick his penis in there. anything to fulfill your needs.
hes not playing fair.

 

What he said, a couple sexy ideas there... And my two cents: So you're living together and that level of trust isn't there for him? I find that situation kind of awkward, and I wouldn't have myself in it for long if it continued. Don't try to stress the issue, or he will just feel more right about it. You don't need to convince him anything. If he won't sleep with you just because of that, it is for a silly and childish reason. If you really have to, maybe pull some recent medical documents and show him, and leave it at that. Don't drag this out like he is doing, it'll make you just as bad as him. I hope things make a turn for the better in your relationship, cheers!

 

thank you orison. and i know. he used to get mad if i wouldn't have sex with him everynight. that's why it's so weird.

 

colimon, i don't know why he doesn't trust me. i would never lie about something like that. i trusted him to confide in him that i was stressed because i thought i was late, if i knew how he was going to react i would have never said anything to him. it just makes me sad.

 

when is the last time you had sex every day/night?? Intercourse sex.. / has there ever been a time you didnt have sex everyday before, or while you lived together.

 

hey Erica, hows things going, hope you dont mind some words from a nice Aussie guy, just sharing a similar experience with you but from the male point of view.

when i was 23 i was going out with this really nice redhead student, she was 17, her name was Katie, and i adored her, and i know it seems wierd, but back then, i thought she was the woman for me.

she was a virgin, and we didnt have intercourse until about 9 months into the relationship, because she wanted to get college out of the way first.

anyway, after 18 months into the relationship, i picked her up for one of our usual sunday meetups, and i knew something wasnt right, and over lunch at the park, she tells me she is late, and thought she might be pregnant, and i recall my reaction as that last word came out of her mouth, and it was that reaction from me that destroyed that relationship forever.

it was my reaction to it that turned her away, i just kind of freaked out (not in a mad way) and it was more of a "panic" type of reaction, and i recall saying to her "no way, you cant be pregnant" and she took that as thinking that i wasnt going to stand by her if she was.

she got very depressed, and i recall driving her home in tears, and as much as i tried to convince her that my reaction was not an indication of my lack of support, she in no way ever seemed to get over that day, and even after 3 days she finally got her period, she was never really the same towards me, and a few months later it all fizzled out and we parted ways, and it was a very difficult time for me because no matter what i told her, that reaction i showed at the moment when she told me she was late and might be pregnant, never left her head.

its maybe not quite the same situation your facing, but i see lots of similarities in it, where he thought you lied to him, and my girlfriend thought i wouldnt support her.

anyway, im not sure if i totally agree with the other 2 posters comments entirely, but im not sure how i can advise you, all i can say is good luck and hope you can sort it out with him, if he continues on this path, i think your best bet is to let him go until he can overcome his anxiety, and if he cant, dont let him take you down with him, you have a life to live, and you deserve to be happy.

in my case, i was shattered for a fair while, but i eventually moved on, and spent the next 11 years traveling the world and working, had more sweethearts along the way, and didnt end up getting married till i was 34, had our first child at 37, another at 43, and as happy as i am now, i will never forget that one earth shattering moment in my life nearly 33 years ago, it was horrible.

cheers, and good luck...Glen

 

You might consider trading your boy in for a man who knows the meaning of trust.

 

Yeah, he's acting like a big baby whiney puss ---- just something for him to fuss about --- he needs to get over it -- talk to you about how both of you can be more careful during sex to avoid pregnancy and move on.
He sounds like a jerk.

 

Anytime I bring it up and ask if that's really why he's doing it, he's like "are you fucking kidding me erica?"

Thanks everyone for helping me out. It means alot.

 

I brought it up again and told him it was hurting me and made me feel like he just didn't want me anymore, and he got all shut up and left the room. now he's mad at me i think.

 

Definately time to dump the guy and move on, he is one very selfish dude, sorry to say.

if you keep hanging around, it gives him the feeling of power, and he will start to think that he can say or do whatever he wants and you will just take it.

move on girl.

 

I'm thinking along these lines as well.

 

LOL yeah i just got my wife to read this thread, and she totally agrees, time to give him the shove, and go to greener pastures.

sad to have to do it, but sometimes it has to be done.

 

lol. funny and cool that you involved your wife in seeing this thread.

It's more easy for us to see because we are on the outside of things -- and obviously are older and wiser -- but when you are a young, inexperienced girl, guys can run an emotional game on you and have you all messed up.

She'll either wake up and get out of it, or she'll have to go through it till she matures and sees it's not going to get any better.
--been there.

 

she has access to this site with my username if she wants to have a read, or she can join me, she just isnt into posting messages much, but we share almost everything.