My boyfriend and I have been together for maybe 7-8 months or so,not to long, but to be honest, every step in our relationship has been wonderful, and we didnt rush into the relationship (we were good friends before we dated) I feel so deeply for him, crazier than ive ever felt for anyone else, hes become my best friend. And there really isn't anything wrong between us, except for my dad. My dad doesnt not like him, but my dad believes that im to young to be in such a bond with a guy right now, and i need to grow more as a person before i can grow as a couple with someone else. (im very much free-spirited and it drives my dad crazy) And i do think thats a pretty smart thought, but i feel confident enough as the person i am now to have this relationship, and i just want to prove him wrong, and show him im serious this time. (ive had boyfriends before, but never anyone this serious or whom ive cared this much about)i know im only 17, but man emotions are running crazy!
I know! Hes always right. A smart man. But what do I do? Im dating my best friend, these feelings just arent going to go away, and theres no way im going to leave him. And its not like we are taking things to fast in any way.
Underwhelmed: hear me now and understand me later. Six months or two years from now this guy will be in your past - your father will be around til ya die.
I can say from experience that I wish I had waited to become more independent befor eI moved in with my boyfriend. I lost something great. Not that I wasn't mature enough to be on my own at 16 (which I was and have been ever since) but I wasn't ready to play husband and wife. Slow those emotions down.
but im not saying im going to move in with him and i have no intentions on getting married. ive always been that independent girl...to smart to fall for any guy that i know will play games. but i found someone who i trust with a friendship that i dont want to loose. just take it easy with. are you saying i shouldnt be in this relationship at all?
No, I'm saying you shouldn't do anything serious like moving in together. If you're just dating than who cares?
thats what im sayin though! we are just dating, having a good time, loving every second of it... my dad says i should chill out from even doing that
hahah he wishes...like i said, im pretty free-spirited and um... very much rebellious. but i would really like to understand what is going through his head and his reasoning.... im just not going to block out everything he says (plus he can legally make my life a living hell )
but isnt that what makes life fun? hehe... but really, so what am i not suppose to have any relationships at all? is this what goes through fathers heads?
heehee thats what goes through my dads head, its just sometimes hard for dads to accept that their little girl might have another guy in their life i guess, and that their little girl is less little and more woman.
Just keep letting him know yer serious but not. That you are just enjoying the time and aren't concerned about future plans right now, that you just want to enjoy whats going on as it is and if it gets to that level of seriousness you will let him know.
