boys i need your help

so im dating this guy who's like 22. but unlike most guys where i live he doesnt even care if we have sex. and he doesnt care how long i make him wait for it either. he wants if but he wont mind if we dont do anything for a while.

anyway...i really really like him. i wont say it was love at first sight cuz im not exactly sure if its gonna work out but it was kinda like that.

well right now im in singapore and he's sad that i had to leave and he misses me already. we've only been dating for about a week but he says it feels like its been a monthes and i agree.

im thinkin about giving it to him when i get back but i dont know if i should. should i?

 

do whatever you want, but
this sounds like it's going to end in heart break.

 

why do you say that?

 

lol every older guy that dates a little girl says "they'll wait" or "i don't care if we have sex or not" just so you'll think they're different.

your 15, enjoy it. don't let some nasty fuck take advantage of that

 

be glad he's not begging you to jump in after only one week. and wait a bit to see how your feelings develop before making any rash decisions about him.

 

but i know he's different. my best friend knows him really really good because he's her bf's best friend. before i even met him she told me about him and said that he was a really sweet really nice guy. most girls wont say that about a guy. she wasnt even trying to fix me up with him either. she was just telling me about her bf cuz we were meeting him somewhere later that day and she said that he asked if he could bring him. then she said yeah and started tellin me about him too cuz i asked who he was.

you may be right but i really hope you arent. can you guys try to not say that kind of stuff please? i dont like to think negetively about him.

 

im am going to wait a while cuz im away for like 2 weeks and when i get back it'll almost be a month so if i dont do it when me him and my best friend all drink to celebrate that im back i might the day it's been a month. cuz we're gonna get to see each other then. but um...how long would you make him wait?

 

i've heard that type of story a gazillion times and it ended up with the girl in tears every time. He's 22, doesnt it make you wonder why he can't find a girl his age? He wouldn't even be able to be affectionate anywhere in public without someone saying something or the law getting in the way so how serious could you really get?

your on the quick path of being used and you need to realize that before you get hurt

FYI i could never see myself being attracted to a girl your age, physically or emotionally & im a bit younger than him

 

he doesnt care about age. he's just looking for a girl who's gonna treat him right. and he's really affectionate in public. no one is gonna say anything cuz he looks 16.

but w/e. i guess if i really wanna make sure that he doesnt just want sex then i should make him wait a while? see if he even brings if up? cuz so far he hasnt even hinted at it. not even jokingly. and not even when we got high or drunk. all we've done is kiss on the lips. we havent even made out and he hasnt said anything about that either.

 

what a funny term you use "MAKE" him wait. i thought you said he doesn't care?

wait until you know you're ready
wait until you know your feelings for him are real and not just infatuation
make sure HIS feelings are real. remember he is 22 and you're just 15. are you sure he feels the same way?
think with your brain not your hormones.

 

yeah well i didnt know how else to phrase it. lol.
i guess you guys are right. i've got a little bit of thinkin to do.
but dont thik that your right about him just yet. not all guys are like that. you've gotta see the good in people. i usually judge guys the same way but i cant do that to him. i like him too much and i've got some feelings for him. i love being around this guy because i can be myself around him and i feel safe around him.

not all guys are total jerks. he might be but until i know for sure i've had enough negitivity. (i dont think i spelled that right but you know what i mean)
if you guys do turn out to be right i will admit that i was wrong. but until then he's a very nice, sweet guy.

 

how did you meet him?

 

well i went up to this little street festival we have every year in out town with my friend and her boyfriend called to see if she wanted to hang out. she said yes and when we met them up there the guy was with him. at the time i didnt know he was coming but we went on some rides together and talked. everytime he looked at me he would smile and then when i looked at him he'd turn away. and he said whenever i looked at him and he looked at me i blushed and smiled then looked away. we hung out there the next three days it went on and after that we talked on the phone every night for a bout a week.

 

You are a sweetheart, I hope it all works out for you, and he does sound like a genuine guy from the little you have described of him. I hope he is good for you and it works out as you imagine.

 

awww. thanks. hey look everyone!!! someone else who sees the good in people...maybe ya'll should try it! lol.

 

the fact that your 15 and he's 22 really bothers me lol idk if i ever did something like that i would get my ass kicked by like everyone i know haha its kinda wrong at this point in your life later on in life that big of an age diff wont matter but right now find some one your age that you dont have "plz sexually" lmao i like that its a classic line girls like you say about older bf's but freedom is great so do wat u want i guess

 

well considering im not like most 15 years old girls helps. i dont want just some little 1 month thing im tired of that bullshit. i want a man not a boy. if i date someone my age them im dating an immature dumbass who treat their girls like shit and only wanna get laid. at least he knows how to treat me and isnt all about sex. i dont have to because he doesnt care whether we do it or not. but when i do do it with him i want it to be good. i dont wanna be just another girl to him. he already really likes me so if the sex is good then he'll like me more. besides...i want him to know that we can do stuff...it okay. his best friends patrick said that brandon is scared that if he even hints at it that i'll break up with him and he doesnt want that to happen cuz he thinks we might have somethin.

i think i've decided to wait though. just in case you guys are right.

 

It bothers me too, however, I think Whitney's mind is made up with regards to him and how genuine and nice he is, and you do sound very mature for a 15 year old, even in just stopping to consider the sex thing instead of jumping right in.

 

Yeah, it definitely sounds like you should wait. It sounds like you're having a good time, but don't get so caught up in wanting him to The One or even a really serious boyfriend. It's a huge age difference, and I doubt it will turn into a lasting serious relationship, even with the best intentions of both parties. But have fun, and enjoy it for what it is now.

 

Agree