break-up revenge?

ugh.

 

it sounds like you could benefit from some time outside of a relationship, to learn about yourself and gain confidence and self-love.

another man looking at another woman doesn't mean anything about you as a person. it also doesn't necessarily say anything about how that man feels about your relationship.

the anger and hurt you are feeling needs healed and i don't think jumping back into a relationship with anyone is going to be beneficial for that.
best wishes eace:

 

if i were to be with ANYONE, it would be him, again. i'm just here to have flirtatious, self-discovering, fun otherwise...

i know i have self-esteem issues, because a lot of girls i know don't react the way i do in regards to their men looking at other women; albeit they HATE it too, but don't take it as badly as i do.

i need to work on that...i'm trying.

 

you want to be with someone you view as a "deaf" "loser" "jerk" and "asshole" ???

i just think you'd be happier single and in relationships if you dropped the insecurity and fear and anger. i know that's harder said than done.

what bothers you about him looking at other women? dig deep with your emotions, recognize they are connected to your thoughts.

 

let it go !!

 

ugh.

 

i really hope you don't take this the wrong way, because i'm just trying to relate and help.. but dear, i've had my share as well. i've been cheated on and emotionally abused and have been hurt in other ways. i know you're hurting. but you don't need to continue being a victim or settling for less than love and peace in your life and relationships. i hope you find these in yourself and that it overflows into the rest of your experiences eace:

 

ugh.

 

Little owl, love is a weird thing to be honest, and often it can change someone for the better if his (or her) partner wishes it so. However, that having been said, it takes time for someone to change their core, or who they are. If he really loved you he would change himself and what he does to suit your needs, I know I've changed a hell of a lot since being with my fiance.

However, on the other hand, he may not change. The real question is: do you think he will stop checking out other women? and better yet: Can you trust him not to hurt you again?

Ben

 

I think Ben gives great advice. If your (ex)boyfriend really cared about you he would want to understand why checking out other women hurt you and he would stop doing it when you explained it. You don't change who you are as a person when you are in a relationship, you change your actions.

He does sound very insecure though, maybe he checks out other women to see if they're looking back? Regardless I know how hard it is when your boyfriend is eye humping someone else, I usually just call attention to it in a condesending manner.

"You honestly think that SHE'S hot? God you have NO taste"

After a few of those, the problem usually stops.

Good luck

 

you really put down the blond bartenter...you call her superficial and stupid...the kind that all guys like....your jealous of a stranger and you cant handle that other girls can make your boyfriends head turn.....there is a type of man that will never look at another woman...they're called fags....your boyfriend sounds normal but you sound a little phsyco

 

you're very welcome, little owl.

sarahrei, yes maybe being condescending would stop the behavior or discourage it, but is it really healthy and loving to do so? sounds like it can do more harm than god.

 

ugh.

 

Is it healthy and loving for a man who is in a relationship to be eye humping another woman?

 

looking at an attractive woman isnt nessesarily eye humping. the world is full of pretty people. pretty people attract our gaze. i dont believe for a second that pretty people dont catch your eye.

you would rather have a man who intentionally ignores other people for your sake?

 

nevermind

 

I've been with the same kind of guy, owl. I can tell you from experience that it DOESN'T change, it doesn't get better, and you will never feel secure with that person.
I've seen it happen to my best friend, her sister, and another girl I know. We've all dated guys JUST like the one you descriebed, they're still jobless and sleeping on their mamas couches. They're still drinking themselves retarded, and screwing anything with a vagina.
Don't count on change. If you want your heart broken again, go running back to the guy. If you want to keep any self respect you plan to gain from this 'time' you're taking, leave it alone.
You'll find someone else. Even if it doesn't feel like you want to now, you WILL.

 

I told you the bitches in Pittsburgh were goofy.. Heres the proof..

 

try cocaine

 

the bartender works on tips and your post reads 'psycho' all the way through...also if i have only one fag friend i have one more than you have boyfriends...catch me at the bar,i'll be the one flirtin with the bartender