so today as soon as I got home from school my dad told me he found "marijuana residue" in my jean pants. He asked me a shit load of questions before hand like did I still smoke and I told him I didnt smoke cigs anymore and then BAM im busted and I get this lil speech on how marijuana ruined his life, made him drop out of college after getting his associates, then going to the army. I tried to back myself up by trying to explain how Marijuana isnt as bad as he makes it out to be and I just wanted to say he was a fucking retard for letting MJ becoming his life and how it was his fault he became what he calls an "addict". So much bs ran thru his lips for being a guy who used to smoke that I didnt know what to say. Anywho he said im grounded intill I quit and I told him "I dont agree w/ you man" and then it was just a long ass quiet trip home. Anywho im going to trip and smoke some tonite just to forget this bs and then confront my dad tomorrow bout all this shit. Any advice on things I could say to someone who has smoked and thinks it ruined his life? Its going to be hard I know but I much rather be able to come to an agreement w/ my dad and let him know whats up then go behind his back. Thanks and if worse comes to worse I'll wear pocket less pants, foof everything I smoke, and rub a fabric softner all over my body. My shit is so hard to find I sometimes cant find it, so if all he can bust me for is a small scent of smoke and shit in my pocket they'll have nothing. I might just have to think sober a bit more and smoke outside more.
Really, actions speak louder than words. Point out your good grades, athletics, social/volunteer life. If you can prove that you have a balanced approach to life and aren't a loser, he'll probably be more receptive. Other than that, the only thing I would point out is that you aren't him. The bad things that happened to him won't necesarily happen to you, and you need to live your own life. Sorry about the predicament. Peace
grades arent great, but im not a bad kid and have a clean record, and I've got a pretty clean shot to the music world if I keep up the shit im doing now(ap music theory courses, jazz band, job at music store, good connections, and I give lessons). I could point out that along w/ our diffrences but hes really stuck up on the whole drug destroy dreams thing. I think something I'll bring up tho is how shitty our family is, everyone is constantly yelling at each other and there is always a small argument or something going on, everyone in my family would benefit from smoking a joint im sure of it. This is one of the few reasons I smoke, it gets too tense for me and I cant possibly get away from it unless im not home and thats not always an option so I smoke a joint and just chill. Im sure if I didnt smoke Id be one depressed, and just generally un happy kid.
smoke that shit till ya drop down dead... dont even be worried bout it man. in the grand scheme of life... getting caught by your dad with weed really aint shit. try to think of thing like that, helps keep it in perspective. keep smokin that weed if thats what you believe in man... if getting caught has made you start questioning it, and whether or not what you are doing is wrong, just take a break, think about shit for a while. i remember the first time i got caught, i actually felt bad... which is pretty ridiculous. i no longer care, and my mom now lets it slide. but thats all because i sat down and thought long and hard about it. i said fuck it, im not gonna let anyone sway me/guilt trip me away from what i believe in, this is my mary jane, and i love her, so ima keep smokin her regardless. theres always the option of doing it anyways, just not even worrying about it at all. which is what i do. i smoke in my room, my car, and i come home high a lot, my mom has basically given up so its not too bad. where theres a will, theres a way. you just gotta make sure youve got a strong will, and your doin what you think is right....then again if you have a military dad, or parents who might possibly kick you out, that may not be such a great idea haha. go burn one, put on some tunes, and let your worries slide. be thankful it wasnt the police that busted yo ass.
oh hell yah man im rolling a fat ass blunt tonite. But its definetely what im down for im just bummed my dad isnt more open. It would be cool if I could be honest to my parents, but I'll be damned if im going to be grounded for life, I'll just fucking lie. They have threatened me once w/ boarding school but I could get emancipated before they could even board me out. Not to mention my record is clean and theres no realy proof anymore + im 18 soon... in just over a half year im free.
yeah. i definitely hear ya, ive been there. i told my mom more than once, look, if you dont wanna sit down and look at the facts, and look at marijuana for what it really is, and learn the TRUTH about it, then so be it... but your the only one whos gonna be at a loss because i KNOW the truth, and im old enough to make an educated decision about what i put in MY body. shes always taken my paraphenalia whenever shes been able to find it. so i hide that shit superbly well now, and i told her, fuck now your making me go waste 80$ on a new bong because you fuckin smashed mine, thats lovely... she gets pissed sometimes, but i smoke in my room A LOT, and i know she smells it, or hears me coughing sometimes. she seldom says anything to me though, so i taken it shes giving up.... if shes in a pissy mood, shell cuss me out or something, but after i just go right back to tokin. lying was just too sketchy for me. id much rather say look, this is what i believe in, and come hell or high water, im going to defend it. theres no reason for so much panic over a harmless fucking PLANT... its nature for fucks sake. ive found it much more liberating then telling my mom ive quit time after time, then getting busted again a few months down the road.... i basically said, look im gonna smoke weed if i want, and you can look the other way, or think whatevr you choose to think about it. but im just letting you know that im gonna keep smoking weed for as long as i so choose, and at least im being honest about it. theres a lot worse shit out there than weed, so me telling my mom i AM doing drugs (but just weed), is a lot better than sayin i DONT do drugs, and having her constantly wondering what the fuck i am on lol... if none of this made sense thats my bad, i just typed this in between tokes, so i rushed through it because i wanna hit this again haha.
alrite well I'll try and come up w/ something im not to worried tho worse thing that will happen is they'll try and send me to boarding school or try and ground me.
i just told my mom wen the found my shit that its what i do and no matter wut u say im gonna smoke either way. she seems to get more mad wen she smells cigs on me cause they kill ur lungs and give u cancer but ne ways smoke it up man and just tell ur rents theyre gonna have to accept it
^ exactly what i did. may not work at first, but persistence is the key. also, dont make a big scene when u get busted, just be like aight, then go to your room and light another one up. like i said, where theres a will, theres a way. but again- this may not be good for your situation. im not trying to get ya shipped off to boarding school or some shit...
im 17 tho bro I doubt I could be forced to go. and if I could I know a shit load of places I could run away or go to if I had to get emancipated or bolt.
yeah, then just keep smokin. dont let them put the guilt trip on you either. dont even feel bad about getting caught, take it with a smile, and burn up another one. eventually, it will probably become mutually understood that you can smoke pot at home. as long as they dont see/smell/hear you doing it, theyll prolly look the other way. thats what my mom does now, finally. and if not, what do you have to lose? idk what your situations like, but they may start threatening to take away your car and shit (my mom cant- i paid for my car by myself, and i also am on my own insurance and pay for that)... that can suck, and it may lead to that. so be prepared. ima go smoke a lil more though, i should be high as fuck by now... i go to slow when the computer is distracting me lol. have a good night man.
idk the only thing they pay for is my cell and my food but I think they are legally supposed to feed me. I could be wrong tho... if im not and they dont its just another thing to add to my list when we meet in court.
nothing crossed out is a punk ass kid, dont let him tell you what to do either, if he had a real father and acted like such a brat he would get his ass beat til he learned otherwise, im not against weed but im against 17year old kids who think they know everything and can do whatever they want
3 words for you.... Deny, deny, deny! When I was in school, I got busted by the school once. When they determined that routine testing was going to be too much, they opted to send me to drug counseling. The days I had counseling went like this...Get up, go to class, go to counseling, deny any drug use, meet with a vp at the school, deny again any drug use, go home and get high. I did that for 6 months. I never got tested and they never found out. The only key is to keep your story the same each time. The counselor's technique was to try to trip me up by asking me the same questions over and over where she was writing down my responses, trying to get me to say something different. So try feeding you dad some crap like, "what you said pissed me off, but I thought about what you said and I'm giving it up." And then just be a little more careful next time.
Man the herb is really not that important - fun yes but not really a necessity. I would rather have a father that cared then one who did not. Some people do go a bit farther in their search for party favors and it can distract one from further ambitions. Just be smart and develop the ninja skills for stealth and keep perspective on why your folks do what they do. They were young and know what is what.
dude, your dad is really just lookin out for you. All he can go by in parenting are his own experiences,he just doesnt want the same to happen to you. im lucky and can be very open with my parents about smoking. But i know if my dad saw that weed/drugs became a problem in my life he would take some kind of action. and personally, if your saying stuff like "i need to smoke a joint" it might be a problem. Weed is not a necessity in life. W/e, aslong as you can function the exact same as you would while smoking compared to not smoking you should be fine.
Interesting topic. When I started smoking, I got busted by my mom. She found my bowl and some alcohol I had stashed away when I was 16. She was mad pissed about the liquor, but she barely mentioned the weed. She didn't even take my bowl, she just said she found it, and she'd rather see a joint in my hand than a beer. I guess I have a pretty cool mom.
yah well today my parents are going to talk to me bout this and im basically just going to tell them as nicely as I can that im not going to quit and they can either take it for what it is or kick me out. I was kinda mad before but I think the calm more reasonable way may be the better option. I'll state I know where there coming from but I've got resources and resources to back up my side unlike yours which are based off of false info and bad decisions on your part(mostly my dads)... basically just saying im well established in this topic and know my shit so if they want to argue they better come up w/ a good defense and if they cant that means there is nothing to prove me wrong other then personal opinions and there bad choices and that im generally right.
