calling it like its seen question????

question:

Why does it upset so many people when a response is not positive? When constructive criticism is at hand, or if someone observes an attitude, or if someone sees that a person seems to be in the same usual rut, why is it so upsetting?
Usually when I recieve negative on the internet, I don't usually "brush it off" but I look at it as a reflection of a person who 1)doesn't know me witnessing something about me and 2) taking that criticism and trying to turn that negative about myself into a positive.

Always remember, it takes a lot more energy to be negative then positive, but sometimes, even those that I do not know over the internet, I will give them the negative that they need in hopes they will one day awaken.

Daydreaming is GREAT! But I also love reality. So if someone helps me to question my daydreaming and realizes that I am always in the same predicament makes a negative comment about my dream...I tend to take a step back and analyze the situation as am I being "fluffy air" or am I being unrealistic which can bring many ups and downs in life which is in affect a depressing rollercoaster, which I wish not to endure. Yes, these coasters only make us stronger in life and teach us life lessons, but if someone sees me buying that ticket, I would hope that my family would point it out to me. Wether they are being rude or what not I do not take personally, because maybe that is their personality...and if they took the time and effort to pass along that negativity, maybe I should take a step back and look at myself and the whole of where I am leading my life.

I just see a lot on here of conversations that people take great offense to, and as I read, and maybe not reply all the time, I look at the situation as, the person who is recieving the negative should as well sit back and take a lesson and change their lives so that the positive of that dream will turn into reality.

Negative is not always Bad.

I encourage people who see crap in me to tell me so that I can change and make my dream a reality.

Just a thought.

 

I think you're completely right, negative can be used to learn, if the person giving the negative response explain themselves clearly and without trying to prove they're "better". There will always be people who like to give negative simply because it makes them feel good, and not because they actualy have something to say

 

I'm surprised that there aren't more people commenting.

I suppose my words are pretty accurate and making some people actually "think" about getting uptight about what negative is spewed at them instead of just jumping to conclusions.

 

ANSWER: "The truth hurts"


Also When the Truth that hurts hits so Close to HOME...... I suppose those folks are still wondering, pondering or thinking.

PR

 

98% of everything is crap.

This goes down to 92% after the morning "cup & bowl".

On good days, this even applies to RF crap.

See you at the next gathering of the goddamn hippies.

 

hi wandering turnip,
nice pic of Vermin there. He was very kind to me this past gathering.I personally feel rebirthed from my very long stay in Wy. wilderness!Sorry off topic, just wanted to say hey.

 

Cindy--that's the cute blonde, my daughter--is part of the 2% that is not crap.

 

yeah cindy is totally not crap there bucko! lol duh

 

thats it in a nut shell..
add to that the fact that its become "politically correct" to sugar coat everything as to not offend and if one speaks there mind truthfully without sugar coating they are demonized and often attacked..

i see it as just another sign that society as a whole has become weak and mind numbed..

 

What a wonderful reminder Muski..I totally agree with you.... I get a lot of flack sometimes for my comments..I rarely sugarcoat.. and at times I come off as a judgemental and critizing bitch.... not really meaning to..a lot of misunderstandings can develop and cause friction between energies.. and intent is is not clear bc you cannot see the 'eyes' behind the screen, you can not look into the soul of that person and connect..... When I get a gut reaction, I usually follow it bc it is my intuition talking to me... In my life here in the commune/farm we live on, I am MOTHER,.. do all.. see all.. find all... fix all.. be all to everyone here and who passes through, .... I cannot seperate that from me when in other places.. I am still who I am.. I can be no other.... as a teacher it is very difficult not to teach.. thing is.. not everyone is ready to learn.. sometimes I have to relearn lessons and eat humble pie .. It helps me grow... I really don't mind eating a slice of humble once in a while, but I refuse to eat shit pie.. and may sling it backatcha.... I do think that the negitive can work in a positive way, if the person is willing to listen and hear what is being relayed in the message.. We must remeber to leave an opening for change.. and that is sometimes hard to do... I am guilty of this offence myself and am working on it.. ( a work in progress) bc I am not dead yet and there is still room for growth.

 

I find myself pondering.. I wonder where I lost my Center.. I find myself engulfed in negitivity.. it seems to surround me at times when I am really trying to be positive.. I know better then anyone my own shortcomings.. I know I'm opinionated and stuborn at times, and then there are other times when I am full to the brim with Light... I suppose we all have our moments.. no one is perfect or right all the time.. I try to talk about things I know about to keep from sounding stupid.. but sometimes I just sound stupid.. I know what I am saying is the truth.. but sometimes the truth is like a double edge sword and cuts...... I suppose I come off as High Holy bc I have been, seen and done too much in my lifetime.. it scars you... when you have been intimate with both sides of the coin, your skin grows thick and the lessons grow harder... In my compassionate heart, I love.. I have deep emotion in what my beliefs are and what my purpose is... Above anything else I am a Human Being.. being human.. I don't lie or or cheat or make demands on ppl that I would not do myself... Living in a communal atmosphier, with many personalities bumping into eachothers energy field, sometimes causes friction, but bc we love eachother we smooth it over and forgive eachother.. It's the Love that saves you.... today is the day of my transformation, or re-entry into my true self.. my higher self where Love is a constant and heals all wounds.. If I am less then loving, I would like to be reminded of the love I hold. I am not without compassion, even with the hardships I have had to endure.. I cannot believe that it was all for nothing and my lessons useless...I know I have a purpose to fulfill and I hope I can do it in a kinder way as not to do harm... we can all be kinder I think.

 

I feel like you are being too hard on yourself. There are some times that I keep my mouth shut on the internet because of the very reason that you can not hear nor see any of my expressions which would help the person to realize that I am trying to get a point across in a "certain" way.

There are other times that I do not keep my mouth shut because I feel very strongly about the matter and if they have a problem with it hopefully they reply so that I can clarify my intent a little better.

Always stand strong on your points, never feel bad about what you feel, because even though those wether on the internet or in person get angry or upset with you, maybe there will come a time in their life that they will look back at what you had expressed to them and realize that you were only trying to help.

Usually, when I say something or do something, I do it for a reason. Sometimes, I'm wrong and when I am, I will willingly admit to my faults, but I always stand very strong and back up my words 100% wether or not the person appreciates or does not appreciate what I am trying to communicate, that is up to them and only them.

My father always tells me, You can't help the world, and I stress myself out trying...but he's right. You can only do what you do.

If someone sees that your words are shakey, or if they see that you are afraid to speak/write words, then nothing will come across to them and your goal in trying to help will be foresaken.

Even if your wrong, be strong in what you say, if someone corrects you...then be humble and try and see where the correction lies... if you still feel that your point is correct, then try and rephrase what you are trying to say, in order to communicate differently.

All humans are different, our brains all are different, we all precieve different, so sometimes learning more than one way to express and communicate can help you to achieve helping a greater number of people...

I don't know, just got off work, rambling on... hope it makes sense...

 

Ahh.. we are our own worst critics, Muski. We hold ourselves responcible for healing the worlds suffering..........In order to be balanced, we have to accept both the positive and negitive in ourselves.......When the words flow from me I know it is from my higher source and am moved to do so, and I follow my heart/intuition.....When I have to dig for the words and make them fit, I am coming from an egoic place and the little me is trying to come out, in these times my message/purpose is unclear..... thinking gets in the way... when you start thinking too much your ego gets in the picture.....sometimes I have to step back and rethink or reavailuate a situation to make sure I am coming from the right place to get the right message across....I even find that some times your not talking or delivering a message to the one in front of you, but to the one standing over there that is listening... ya know what I mean.. that ticks off the egoic nature of the one standing in front of you bc they did not 'get' the message and they become agressive as they are not ready to recive..... certainly, we are all growing and learning, but we don't seem to be growing and learning at the same pace.......we are preoccupied and stuck in narrowminded thinking.. not in the present, but in the past or future...we need to step out of the cloud of illussion and into the Now and be mentally present.... things are happening that we should be aware of and focus our energies on the here and now.... we cannot change the past, we don't know what is going to happen tommorow, so all we have is now..... A shift in consciousness is happening, we are all part of this shift.. it is a step into the next level of evolusion of mankind...That is the message that we as Huiman Beings should be focusing on.... bringing that into manifestation and into the present.... to let go of the little me and surrender to higherself....be part of the change you seek in others..

 

its more in the presentation then the comment.

people like honesty but not attacks

 

Passions run deep Marie.... misunderstandings occure in the heat of the moment and the message is lost in the confussion....It's like the Battle of Egos then.. who is right and who is wrong... the intent switches and a different energy arises... and we all take part in it, consciously or unconsciously... we need to train ourself to let it pass through us like sunlight passing through a gem.. to let it pass and not 'grab it' and hold it into us, making it a part of our self...