Can I quit masturbation for good?

I've never posted here but I wanted to keep a journal of my effort to go without masturbation and this place seems like a cool place to do it.

Here's some info about me: I'm a guy, I'm 21, and I've just spent the last 2 and 1/2 years going to community college and I'll be going to a university in the fall.

So I'll answer the obvious question: why?

Let me start off by saying that I like to masturbate... It feels good, it's relaxing, it distracts me when I'm angry, sad, etc., and it's entertaining.

So why quit? I've noticed that when I don't masturbate, I have more energy to do things. A lot of people claim this isn't true and I believe them. I believe that it doesn't give THEM more energy... but I've noticed a definite difference between a day where I've masturbated and one where I haven't.

Second, not masturbating gives me more desire, not just for sex, but for other things I care about as well. When I don't masturbate I can work myself up to do things I would normally not give a shit about.

Third, not masturbating makes me more interested in women and vise versa. For whatever, reason, [probably the increased testosterone] I feel more confident, energetic, and sexy when I don't masturbate and it seems like women pick up on this. I can be pretty introverted and the few times I've managed to go some time without masturbating in the past, it's gotten me out there and dating which is a lot of fun and a lot more memorable than beating off.

So let me end this by saying that it will be a challenge, I've been trying particularly hard the last few weeks and I haven't even gone 2 solid days. I'm using something called neuro-linguistic programming to help me along and I feel it's my only advantage.

I'm going to post every night, tomorrow will be day 1.

 

well done. i look forward to reading.

 

I had a lot of random stuff to do today and then I had a Kung Fu class and afterwards I met up with some guys and a girl I haven't spent time with since high school. It was good seeing them again.

I felt kinda horny today but it was nothing in comparison to the days ahead of me. Dealing with my horniness and still getting stuff done is going to be the biggest challenge in this. I didn't mention that I've been single for the last month and a half so I'll have no sexual outlet for however much time it will be til I get laid.

 

I'm already getting really horny. I have a lot of goals for this summer and being busy helps keep my mind off sex a bit but I stroked myself a lot today. I stopped before cumming and I'm glad about that but I won't be able to quit masturbating unless I can manage to stop touching myself and fantasizing.

I went to a salsa class for the first time and checked things out. I don't know a ton about the dancing itself except from a video I saw on youtube but I like the music. On my way back I saw theres a farmers market in town so I'm gonna go check that out right now before I get to bed cause I'm tired from staying up last night. I have a goal to start 10 conversations with strangers this week. I already have 2, a girl I met at the salsa class and a guy I met at the kung fu class.

 

Yawn...

 

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This is a real challenge. I looked at some porn today and that was a mistake. I didn't masturbate to completion but if this had been day 7 or something I wouldn't have made it. It was kinda funny how it happened too. I was getting some exercise on my bike and a bug or something flew into my throat and I was caughing and gagging for like 15 minutes before I barely made it back home. My throat is still kinda scratchy. Somehow I justified looking at porn with this experience...

The thought went something like this "wow that really sucked, my throat hurts, man.... porn will make me feel better..."

It was like a subconscious thought progression. I've developed a habit of looking at porn to make myself feel better when something happens... in this case all it took was something like a bug in my throat to get me thinking about jerking it.

I think rejection is the best example of this. I remember trying to quit before and going out and getting rejected by some girl and then being too tempted to masturbate to go even one more day.

Anyways today I talked to another girl at my kung fu class. She was seriously hot and I was reluctant at first to approach her because she looked young but being horny apparently motivated me to approach and she turned out to be 23. My skills in approaching kinda suck cause I haven't done it in a few months so the conversation wasn't the best but I'll probably ask her out next time I see her. I think she said she was leaving the area at the end of July but who cares.

I talked to a friend of my brothers back at my house whom I never met and that makes 4/10 conversations for this week so I need 6 more by Saturday.

Tomorrow I'm going skydving with my brother and I'm really excited, I've never done anything like this and I've been putting it off forever.

ChicosDe - "for good" means til I die but I'll probably post for 6 months or until I'm confident that I won't masturbate without the aid of having a forum to keep my thoughts. This might take multiple attempts so I'm just going to use this journal as long as I need to. And yeah I know I'm going to be in serious pain by 2 weeks. This is definitely motivating me to go out there and get laid so I'm glad. I'm making moves on girls now when just days before I didn't because I was masturbating and didn't have the drive/give a fuck. The biggest thing is I gotta kill the habit of looking at porn and stroking myself... I can stop before cumming now but I won't be able to in the days to come. no pun intended

 

Can I quit masturbation for good?

You write drivel and go through life boring everyone to death. Little wonder the woman at the kung-fu class is leaving town!

If you want to stop wanking, just do it, or don't, or whatever, who the hell cares!!

 

Try not peeing too.
That really makes the effort worth it.

 

Why are you here?
Why is there air?
Why not enjoy yourself?
Are you some sort of a martyr?
Trust the answer to the last query is YES and you are a fool.

I masturbate on a regular basis while having an average sex life beyond masturbation - I run every other day and bicycle nearly every day at least 15 miles. So are you saying if I were to stop masturbating I would have more energy? I think not - the act of masturbation is a reward, a pleasure not something that depletes yourself. Think of it as a cross train, a nice soothing, relaxing then exciting endurance exercise that only has positives and no negatives. Unless of course you are just a jerk off or merely jerk off out of something like boredom.

Salud - enjoy the rest of your life.

 

WOW, skydiving is crazy. To look down at the ground from 10,000 feet with nothing but sky below you is hard to put into words. I felt like a god after I landed... I felt like I conquered some fears and gained consciouness for the first time in a long time. Ha those feelings lasted a few hours and I felt like normal again but what the hell...

I had some time alone with one of my brothers friends whose been flirting with me. I went in to kiss her and she turned away. Later I went to drop her off, she was acting like she wanted to kiss me, I was put off for some reason, I didn't kiss her, she walked to her house saying goodbye without looking at me in the eyes, I yelled to her to look me in the eyes and say bye, she did, she smiled, I'm seeing her again Saturday.

I didn't look at any porn today and I'm proud of that. It takes a lot of will power... I get really horny at times and it really fucks with my mind. I know what I want and yet my mind gets cloudy and I just fall into thoughts of sex and the images I get are way more vivid than normal.

"So are you saying if I were to stop masturbating I would have more energy?" -Alone At Last

No

EDIT: Oh yeah, I also had a conversation with a guy at the skydiving place so that's 5/10 conversations with strangers for this week. I need 5 more between tomorrow and saturday.

 

Find a plastique explosive which has been customized to ignite as soon as the tip of said errection reaches all the way inside the rubber made pussy device.

Cheers!

 

magnet
im with you pal.
and its all true about getting more interest in woman, and all the energy .

i did quit because i noticed that when im not masturbating im A LOT better husband to my whife. she turns me on more, she looks prittier and i want to hug her more offten. also i quit because we were trying to get a baby and i shouldnt waste my semen in masturbation.

altho i do masturbate a little if i dont have sex for like 3 days i a row, but thats real rare.

good luck to you pal, keep doing the right thing

 

Magnet, I was so wrong!

You must keep posting every day -it is a MUST read! Where did you learn to write with such eloquence? Your command and sympathetic use of the English language is a lesson to us all!

Your posts seem to invoke a sort of latent deja-vu within me I can't quite make up my mind, I ask my self...can I whiff a touch of F.Scott Fitzgerald wafting in the languid summer haze punctuated only by the lazy murmer of countless unseen insects, or is it more the acrid cynacism of a latter day Orwell! Who knows?

The spontaneity and crisp deliverance of your prose is beautifully contrasted by a youthful abandonment of conventional syntax...unbelievably impertinent and yet somehow, oh so mundanely reverent. Your daily experiences are a distillation of everything we lesser beings can only hope to aspire to, normally to be found in some far away Olympian paradise.

Where is the genesis of your genius, what rare oxygen fuels your thoughts. We can only marvel in a slough of utter despair!

 

Magnet - your life and style of living it is not something I desire to follow but it seems you have a couple people who believe you to be fine writer ... my suggestion publish your journal and a few will get their rocks off with it. I will not be buying it nor would I take it for free but who knows.

21 - how youth is spoiled on the youth/hope you have a wad of cash for your continued adventures. Enjoy - hope you get your woman one day, and she loves you.

Salud.

 

The masochist said to the sadist 'Please, hit me'...But the sadist said 'No'.

Or as the late comedian Bob Monkhouse once said..'They all laughed when I said I wanted to be a comedian....well, they're not laughing now!'

 

I looked in a journal I keep and I realized that last year I went 19 days without masturbating. However, I think it was a little bit easier than what I'm doing now because I had a girlfriend and I was getting over mono.

Today is day 5 and aggrivation is setting in. My temper is shorter and I get frustrated easier. I remember this happening before.

Ha, I'm so horny too. I've been fantasizing about my ex's a lot.

My bike broke today, one of the rear gears broke off. It's fixable but I'm trying to convince my parents to pitch in some money for a nice road bike.

Besides that today was pretty uneventful. Fucking aggrivating but uneventful.

Thanks for the support Wafer.

 

Your parents? Grow up.

 

LMAO.

 

im actually quite content not masturbating for a long period of time!
BUT i DO have a habit of going into my room at random times of the day.