Hello Everyone. Found out my wife has been sleeping with a customer of hers for awhile. I really do not care but she did it behind my back which burns me. We have discussed swinging before and screwing others but we agreed we need to talk about it before things happen. What to do??
Swinging and cheating are not the same in anyway! Swinging is about trust, being secure and communication. Cheating is none of these. For me her doing this would shut down any chance of living the lifestyle. I would also not give someone another chance if they did this, because I would never be able to trust them again and without trust I don't think you have anything.
make a shortlist of those sexual practices you know she's not exactly crazy about, and say she needs to engage in them to restore your trust - then when she does, dump her like an old piece of fruit
People that cheat are weak, selfish and insecure three traits I refuse to live with when I am with someone! My partner feels the same way. That is our choice. If others want to be a doormat that is theirs.
I hear about a woman cheating and for some reason I lose any and all respect for her. As a human being, as a person. Matter of fact it makes me hate her a little bit, even if i don't know her. This is me being 'Polite' about the matter, believe me. If swinging is your thing, that's cool. Cheating isn't and never will be acceptable to me and many other people. I would leave her without a single thought otherwise.
Well I would think it selfish if she doesn't tell you the details if she does and you like it then that's another matter.
I think it all depends on how much you love her and how much you want to be with her. It is possible to forgive, however you will never forget. If you can deal with that then you could work it out.
I think it depends on your relationship. Good quality? Bad quality? Mediocre? If not a good quality relationship there's likely no coming back from this one. Trust is a big thing and you have to have it before you can lose it. She'll have to regain your trust, and sometimes that just isn't possible. You can tell your mind one thing, but your heart can pull you in a different direction.
Yes someone who accepts someone else disrespecting and walking all over them is the definition of a doormat to me! I guess i just have different standards on what I see as the kind of person I am willing to spend my life with.
i would be a combination of the things mentioned, if it was a bad relationship then that would be the tipping point. if it was good otherwise i would keep things the way they are until i found something better. i would also use it as an excuse to get some of the things i wanted that she wouldnt give before. i think i would ask for a blood test too, never know what the other dude was into.
Drop her like she's got the plague. It's unhealthy to love someone that is untrustworthy, and it's impossible to love someone for whom you have no respect. She obvious has little respect for you, if you stay with her, she'll have no respect for you and she'll resent you even more, in time, for that.
