After having lived 15 years in a miserable marital situation, I have finally come to terms with my sexuality. Three children later I now have to explain myself to my 11 year old, my 8 year old and my 5 year old. Double whammy -- Divorce and a gay mom. The relationship I've had with their father has been lacking in intimacy and built upon a pile of lies, and I'm not sure how they'll take that. I'm also not sure where to begin. I want my children to know that they need to be true to themselves, trust their gut, and be strong. I am most concerned about how to reach my 11 year old and explain to her that I am in love with a woman. What would you do in this situation?
If anything I think a child might be a little more understanding. Just tell them that you have feeling towards women like you once did your husband.
I think that I would separate the issues and not hit them with everything at once. Handle the divorce and make sure that they are settled down from that before you put a new person in front of them. That's advice I'd give anyone regardless of gender preference.
