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Okay-What I see A LOT is that people aren't sure just what they are. I went through this too, and I know how you feel, but I came to terms and stopped fighting myself. I just want to help clear some things up. Being gay is defined as being a male and being sexually attracted to males. Being lesbian is defined as being a woman and being sexually attracted to women. Being bisexual means that no matter what you are (male or female), you are attracted to both sexes. For years I was in a personal tumult about my sexuality before finally realizing that I was NOT attracted to women, but instead attracted to men. I just hope this helps those who aren't sure and are confused. Sorry if this was already posted (it probably was). I'm new and I didn't know.

 

Astral, I agree with you, thats always been my thinking too but lately I've been hearing and reading about people who don't want to label their behavior in any way...they say its too limiting. Some people are saying that just because they're with a boy now, they might want a girl later. They say that a label doesn't feel good or won't stay the same for them...OK fair enough. It's their life and they know what works for them. Just to really muddy the water I read a book called, "The New Gay Teenager" by Ritch Savin-Williams. The guy has done a lot of impressive research and says he thinks the old labels are on the way out. Who knows? When I was a kid the term queer was a foul, demeaning insult, now it's back as a description many folks use. Bottom line is, like you, I know who I am and who I like. Maybe thats all that counts and the words don't mean anything. By the way, welcome here, and please keep sharing your thoughts.

 

A Wise Old Man (not me unfortunatly) Once Said...." I Spent A Lot Of Time In My Youth Being Confused....Then One Day I Realised Confusion Is Just A Waste Of Time....(my 2cents worth).........Cheers Glen.

 

I think that what you said, Astral is quite common knowledge. The thing many people seem to struggle with is identifying under what "classification" they fall under. Yarapario put it nicely

 

just a little thought from me.

I feel mainly attracted to women, I only want to be with a woman.

so people would say that I am a lesbian, but sometimes I feel attracted to men, but only emotionally which sometimes is also sexually, but I don't want to be with a man.

bisexual doesnt really fit that, but neither does lesbian, but maybe it fits lesbian more then bisexual because I don't want to be in a relationship with a man.

mini rant.

blessings
xxxxx

 

Is homosexuality only physical attraction? Or emotional as well.
You see Im quite confused... I'm physically attracted to men, but I would like a relationship with a woman. Does that make me bi? Or just plain old messed up

 

Dazman - look, just give it time. It sounds like you could be bi, though essentially, you're the only one who knows exactly what you think and how it relates to your sexuality. Maybe after a few months you'll have a revalatory experience and feel more sure of yourself