So I see this guy every once in a while, I like him very much but i'm not sure what to think of our situation. My question is am I pathetic? I've seen this guy 5 times in the past 9 months and I don't know what the hell i'm doing. I've never had a boyfriend and this guy has never had a girlfriend. He's very privite and personal, and I barely get the chance to talk to him. When we hang out we fool around, and its nice because I like him and I know they're his first experiences, and I feel good to know that after waiting so long (he's just turned 20) he chose me for them...but he dosn't call and clearly shows signs of not being intrested...not verbally though. He dosn't call me and I know I should be just like "alright take a hint" but I know he's got school and work and is very tired, and i've known him for almost 2 years and I know that he never calls anybody and is very introverted in that he pretty much opens up to nobody...as far as I know now. I used to see him all the time and got to know him very well, but then when I stopped hanging out w/ his brother and his girlfriend, who used to be my best friend, I never went to his house anymore. But since then i've seen him 5 times...and I just told that story.. I donno, I know it seems desperate/pathetic/retarded...thats how i'm feeling anyway. but I really do like this guy and I have reason to belive he has the same feelings but is scared because this is all very new to him...as well as me.. Will someone help me out? Am I just making excuses for him? If i'm being stupid, just tell me so. If I have reason to do something different, tell me...Can you tell i'm confused? Or am I just being very apprehensive and avoiding the truth? I'm not the type of person to let people control me, and I feel like I'm falling into a trap because I have no problem letting this particular person take over my life...Which he's not even aware that he's doing! Anything?
talk to him, tell him how you feel...excpet....try to be a little more coherent when you do so or you'll scare him away....ask him out on a date, tell him not in a bf-gf kind of way jsut a normal date...things may progress from there, but what ever you do, don't let him know how head over heels you are about him...if he's such an introvert it will only push him away...taht doenst mean you don't compliment him a lot...just...yea...lol...coherency is your friend in these issues.
Talk to him. He may just be the kind of person who isn't into sitting on the phone every night or is too busy to see you often. People think I'm a bitch because I never call or want to go out, but it's just because I work hard and I get tired. You said he is 20, has never really been with a girl besides you, and is a very iintroverted person. So maybe that's just him. He likes you a little bit to mess around with you. Ask him. That's all I can say. He sounds very deep and mysterious, and I don't think you are making excuses for him or being pathetic at all. I would browse around for other guys though.
