Confused...very confused

I'm 18, and i just started college. I thought i was good with my sexuality. I was bisexual. All throughout high school, I kept it a secret, but knowing that when i came to college, the facade would drop, and I'd be free. Then I got here, and now my old lies have come back to haunt me and I can't seem to stop telling people, even gay people who i really like, that I'm straight, or only vaguely bi-curious. I am so confused now! And I'm in a straight relationship still...so...what do i do? It's not even like i can explore my sexuality further. Oh, and I've never had sex.

 

just chill hun, it's no big deal. you don't need to do anything yet, you've got your girl so it's all good. still hard denying your true feelings to people, can understand that. do you think your gf would freak if she knew?

 

Sex is best done and not talked about.

Little is achieved by telling people around you that you may be "bi, gay...". Even if you suddenly came out to virtually everyone you know, little in your life would change for better. Hot gay guys who are interested in you won't me bombarding you with indecent proposals because, they too, would expect that you ought to be the one to take the initiative.

All the other guys around are certainly dying to know. It makes for a good gossip, a story to tell and hold the attention of your buddies for the next 2 minutes until someone else comes with another bit of local gossip.

Instead of increasing your popularity and chances for an interesting sex life, you are actually achieving just the opposite. Dudes who may be interested in you will immediately strike you off their lists. ("This dude goes around telling people that he wants to suck cock? He is more than likely to tell about me, too. Plus, if we hang out together, people will start thinking...")

Sex favours the courageous. Remember that. Once you detect some interest coming your way, take the initiative. If you are interested in someone, well make sure that the other guy knows. If they turn you down, so be it. More likely than not, they are just as horny and keen on trying the new things as you are. Granted that they are not going to become the talk of the town, they are more than likely to go for it, just as much as you are.

KD

 

yeah...well it hasn't worked out so far kewldewd...i went to a gay party and was invited to a threesome...did NOT do that, but almost did.

 

So hot gay guys did bombard me with indecent proposals in fact, and it's not that kind of environment at all here that people would be worried about hanging with a gay/bi guy and being labeled. Very gay place i'm living in right now... very open. You can't talk to someone without talking to a gay person...lol. And i guess my real problem is exactly what people warned me against, being in a relationship in college. College life as i've seen it so far is about sex, drugs, and a little studying...maybe some rock and roll. Very topsy turvy world i live in right now. Walked in on my roommate masturbating, but that's another story.

 

College life is just like any other life. It is really what you make out of it. If you hang out with the jocks and pump iron and kick ball, than for you this is what college will be all about.

If you are hanging out with the lib crowd, inviting you to do the threesome, smoke some, etc., than that will color your prospective.

I have learnt that all is good and easy, while it is good and easy. Once the going gets tough, you are usually left alone to cope with the downfall.

So, go and get some, have fun, and move quickly on. There is time for fun and joy and there must be time for your career and future, too.

KD