i need help with a few things im not sure if im bisexual or not, but i like girls for sure. i fantasize about having sex with guys, but im not physically attracted to guys. does that mean im bisexual or what? help me! also every time i have an orgasm, all my gay thoughts disappear, and im like "eww thats wrong"..its like my personality changes..does anyone else have this problem? how can i make it so i still have gay thoughts after my orgasms? sorry, i suck at explaining, and on top of that im confused help!
It sounds like I'm not the only one around here who needs to meet the right guy! Seriously, I'd need to know more about your situation to say more. If you've been sexually active with girls or women, you are definitely at least bisexual and possibly heterosexual. If your orgasms are coming from masturbation, it's a bit more uncertain. Having more experiences will help make things clear. We all experiment in one way or another at some time in our lives. Just remember that the people you are experimenting with are people too, and you should be considerate of them and their feelings even if you're like "eww" at some point.
No I could not see myself dating another guy... but I can see myself being sexual with one, and I would (would like to, also) if I was sure that none of my friends or family knew. What do you think? What should I do? Sorry for dragging up an old thread...
Hrm...sounds like you could be bi. I've heard this kind of thing so many times though...Are you worried that if you got involved with a guy you'd be the target of homophobic "attack"? If that's the case, it could be clouding your view...But like vimmeroony said, just go with the flow, take things easy and give it time. If you're old enough, maybe even go out and find a dude to experiment with (probably not advisable though ). Other than that, I've said it a million times before ,but give it time! You'll work it out!
OK, I'll say it again. Everyone is bi. Some people just get scared and gravitate to hetero or homo sides. Well, maybe that is just my perspective because I am bi (and a lot of straight and gay friends tell me I'm confused) Go with the flow. Now that makes sense. Don't obsess over labels. If you get turned on by girls - good. If you get turned on by guys - good. It's all good. This from a guy who has had a lifetime of sex with guys and girls (and sometimes groups) Just be careful if you live in a homophobic part of the world. Don't worry about "dating" a guy. Guys don't need to date and they know to be sneaky and have sex and probably never see you again. Now if you really want to explore a relationship with a guy that is a whole different dynamic and you would likely have to find a gay friendly place to live. But we are talking on a sexual level here which can happen without a relationship - other than mutual respect (and love makes it better).
